To be appalled by the bad language used on this forum

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I know I will probably be shot down as I am a newbie on here but I recently found this site whilst searching for something and found the AIBU threads very interesting. I find it intriguing how different people react to the same situation and it really makes you realise that we are not all the same, and the world is better for it.

What I have found so appalling though is the frequent use of swearing throughout these posts. I have been truly shocked by this as it is a forum used mainly by parents. Is this the example to set children?

There is something about swearing in writing which makes it so much worse than in conversation, although that is not nice either. It seems so much more deliberate in writing.

When did it become acceptable to use such language unnecessarily and excessively just for effect?

I hate the swearing on here - even though I use the occasional 'fuck' myself I always cringe when I read it back. I judge the posters who swear a lot.

But this is a site that let's people swear.
It is not compulsory.
There are other sites out there where people can't swear. Why not go there?
Staying gereldinetheluckygoat and complaining about it is just silly.

It's like going to a pub every night and complaining about all the people drinking alcohol.

I'd say the intention of that post is to wind the OP up to be honest, which is not something I'd do. I like swearing, I rarely swear "at" people.

Hahahaha

Why. Why do I get random gereldinetheluckygoat ! Why! Why why why!

I like the fact the language isn't moderated on here. We're all adults and surely old enough and wise enough to decide for ourselves the language we find acceptable...censorship on the internet is a personal thing. I don't like txt speak, if I found a forum that used it in abundance I'd just go elsewhere, as that's my choice.

Pagwatch are you... shock horror.... drinking

Agree, it's not what you say it's the way you say it.

We had a really posh girl at school and used to pay her to swear.

Shit = 5p
Fuck = 20p

Had to hoick it up to 50p for Cunt.

She was no fool our Leslie

"Chufftamer"

Not yet.....

Just an arse. I want to blame my iPad but apparently that is really boasty.

On the plus side, the fact that mumsnet allows swearwords to be posted on the forums makes it easier to set your browser to block it - meaning the kids cant get insider info!

ooh good stealth boast though, I should go for the instead

Tis my iPad Maryz
Once you type something in it remembers and can auto correct to it. I must have posted something to Geraldine once and it remembered.

It is where my regular onky comes from. And also pinotblahblahblah - which I love!

Maryz/Pagwatch, I don't like censorship moderation any more than I like swearing (or text-speak, come to that). People should be left to judge for themselves - but judging for themselves to my mind also means taking into account the fact that others might be offended by what you (not you personally!) say, and toning your language down accordingly. Even on an anonymous internet forum.

Pagwatch, your pub analogy is flawed by the fact that a pub is essentially there to provide alcohol. Mumsnet, however, is there to offer advice/support/laughs/whatever. It isn't a 'sweary mothers of the world unite' site, and if other people are put off by that, it becomes nothing but an exclusive swear-fest club. Surely not what Justine et al intended.

I am PMSL at gereldinetheluckygoat I mean wtf

I love a good swear.

I am now pmsl at 'SWEARY MOTHERS OF THE WORLD UNITE'

There's not swearing everywhere though is there? I'm relatively new and it took me all of 5 seconds to work out that AIBU is somewhere that people don't hold back and may say things a bit close to the mark. There's plenty of support forums that aren't like that from what I've seen.

See - I can make you laugh without even swearing, stepaway.

Scarlett, I did tell the OP earlier that she can largely avoid it if she's a bit selective about her threads and avoids the contentious ones. That largely works for me.

It's FRIDAY - anyone for bumsex or is that not sweaty sweary enough?

I am not a writer for nothing, Maryz!

I would agree with you Winnie were the whole board simply filled with swearing. But it isn't. And if swearing were offensive to most it would simply cease. But it isn't.
And anyone rolling up at mumsnet can see the tone of it almost imediately and then chose to stay or decide it is not for them.

I think to say ' almost everyone here is happy but it should change to suit my view of morality' is a little arrogant from a newcomer (which the op says she is).

But people post threads all the time about changing aspects of mn. If enough people wsn't change it will happen.
But only but starting a sensible request in site stuff, garnering support and expressing you case.
Whining and bitching in AIBU is just that.

But I do love Sweary mothers of the World Unite

Ah yes, but this is Justine's pub site. And it's entirely up to her whether or not to allow the sweary wordage. Which she does. Plenty of non sweary threads/forums/sites around. Nobody is forcing anyone to read the swearys and sport the catbumface.

I absolutely adore 'spunkbucket'. It's so meaningful, so inventive, so purile.