To resent giving baby clothes to a freecycler with an iphone?

[lucyhoneybee]

I answered a wanted post for little baby clothes on freecycle. I don't have much myself as I'm on maternity leave and in the process of splitting from my husband due to his debts among other things. I was having a clear out and thought I'd take pity on a fellow mum. As soon as I responded with my offer of babyclothes my child has outgrown, she sent a reply asking when she could collect.. from her iPhone. Am I being harsh to wonder whether I should be giving her free baby clothes when in dire straits myself?

Give the baby oclothes to a women's refuge next time?

It obviously irksome you OP, so don't use FC. Simple. You are however completely missing the point of the system.

It's not about "needing to be on free cycle" it's about recycling and reducing the amount of "stuff" in the world.

Why don't you sell at a car boot or find a local NCT sale?
I have an iPhone ( contract) and we are always struggling financially. Can't judge on iPhone alone..

I have enough money to buy baby clothes but have acquired almost all of them via freecycle or friends. So shoot me. I do not want to buy new clothes when perfectly decent old ones are available that might otherwise be binned. tTyst makes sense environmentally and financially. It has nothing to do with wealth or otherwise. You completely misunderstand freecycle. the clue is in the word recycle! We give away loads too, including most recently a greenhouse, to someone who owned (shock horror) a car AND and iPhone. Even a laptop too, I daresay. Don't use freecycle if you only want to give to someone poor, donate to a refuge or community group.

And, erm, excuse the typOs, I'm writing on an iPhone

YABU and misunderstanding the purpose of Freecycle. As others have said, if you need the money you should have sold them. If you want to feel all warm inside and good about yourself then donate to charity. Freecycle is a green venture aimed at RECYCLING ('Freecycle' - get it), so people don't keep buying new stuff and people don't chuck stuff away needlessly. If it helps those who are strapped for cash along the way, great, but it's not a strict remit of the process.

I wouldn't bother with selling them on eBay tbh, unless its designer stuff baby clothes tend to go for pennies up to about 6months size because there are so many of them on there. You will also need to photograph them and describe any stains and then get negative feedback if you miss a stain and someone complains. Its a nightmare. If you want them to go to someone needy as people have suggested take them to a women's refuge or a charity shop, or your local church.
Free cycle isn't about being skint.

People can ask for what they want on freecycle....you don't ask you done get

For baby clothes you might find a NCT Nearly New Sale a better option than EBay, though they're still not going to sell unless they're competitively priced.

Are you serious? You wanted to pity the poor and then you object they are not poor enough?

seeker actually said it so much better, but for the avoidance of doubt you are beyond unreasonable.

YABVU!!!!

You put then on freecycle so obviously you dont want or need them.

Should I stop using freecycle because I have an iPhone?

How about mumsnet? This post is from my iPhone

Yabvu she could have received it as a gift or may like me, be a hand me down one that's a few years old. I'm not on contract but pay as you go as I can't afford it

Blimey. I've received stuff through freecycle before (though given more away). It never occurred to me that I was taking the piss by not being poor. I always saw it as (a) a way to reduce landfill and waste, (b) a way for me to get rid of stuff without having to lug it to a charity shop or dump (I don't drive), and (c) a sort of extension of the 'I'm getting rid of old baby clothes - do you want them?' that goes on between friends and at the schoolgate.

I have got annoyed with freecyclers, but it's always been down to manners, not their deserving status. For example, I gave away a buggy to a woman who turned up, was very abrupt, didn't even say thank you, but gave me her address and said, "Next time you have stuff, don't use freecycle, just contact me". A couple of weeks later I found some buggy accessories I'd forgotten I had, and posted them on to her. Not a word of thanks. But in my limited experience that kind of charmlessness is fairly rare - most people I have given to or received from have been really nice (and I never asked about their bank balance).

Agree totally with seeker , MrsBunty and others. YABVVVVU.

YABVU!
FFS

YABU. Freecycle isn't for people who need your pity.

i see your point.

i used to give my dc's to social services.

it rather stings when someone, who might be better off than you, and you are struggling, gets your cast offs. so i understand where you are coming from.

but perhaps the person who wanted them Only has an iphone - and not much else?
or perhaps they are going to sell them on ebay and make money out of your generosity.

not dc's to social services,
their clothes

Love the idea of using social services as a kiddy recycling scheme...

Freecycle isn't about helping the needy, it's about recycling things you don't need any more, passing them on to people who do. If you want to pick and choose who you give to, then fair enough, but those aren't really the criteria that the concept is based in IMO.

Just because they have an iPhone, it doesn't necessarily mean mean they have loads of spare cash, or that they intend to sell the clothes on. They could have had the iPhone a couple of years and be broke now. If you want money for them, sell them yourself, if you want to help someone who doesn't have much, then give them to a women's refuge, if you just want to get them off your hands and not dump them, then use free cycle. The main point of free cycle is to stop things going into landfill.