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To think that working mums are the devil's spawn?

230 replies

Proudnscary · 25/09/2011 11:23

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Whatmeworry · 26/09/2011 10:16

My kids suffered terribly in baby farms and after school clubs etc, due to the shock of coming home to a world of no friends on tap and worse food (ungrateful sods) and a mother wanting them to pick up stuff, bath, brush teeth and other abuse like that.

WilsonFrickett · 26/09/2011 11:31

You make your kids pick stuff up?

Shock
Andrewofgg · 26/09/2011 11:38

Children should not be picking up stuff, they should be out sweeping chimneys.

buttonmoon78 · 26/09/2011 11:43

I've just realised... I am WOHM. I am also a WAHM. I am also a SAHM (as both those are part time).

Does that mean I can get angry and judgy with everybody?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/09/2011 11:51

I am a working mum who
....
wait for it

..........
Took her kids to McD for fishfingers and a fruitshoot over the weekend Shock Blush Shock

I think I should follow Andrew's advice and get them up chimneys before anyone notices.

[failed parent emoticon]

buttonmoon78 · 26/09/2011 12:20

Hang on Chaz. I've got SS on the phone now...

Whatmeworry · 26/09/2011 12:23

I have also realised that if I bring sweets back after biz trips I can bribe them to be nice to me instead of making me feel all guilty. Pavlov was a genius :o

NotFromConcentrate · 26/09/2011 12:24

Well, I hope you're all proud of yourselves.

I stumbled upon this den of iniquity whilst taking time out from dull as fuck very important job to procure a recepticle in which to place as yet unborn DC3 at the side of my sofa large marble desk until (s)he is old enough for the Baby Farm charming little nursery. Now I'm going to have to haul my arse get up out of my executive chair and find a nice young IT chap to debug my laptop of the virus that this haven place has undoubtedly passed on.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 26/09/2011 12:32

I have just realised that due to enormous mountain of electrical goods, designer brands and other lavish, guilt-inducedgifts that my vast selfishly procured salary has paid for (oh UNICEF how right you were), I haven't actually seen DS for several days.... or the cat, for that matter....

nenevomito · 26/09/2011 15:36

I lay the blame for my working life firmly at the foot of my grandmothers. Both of those evil witches worked and so did their daughters, one of which was my mother Shock and apparently because they'd been through HE and held down professional jobs they thought I should do the same Shock Angry Shock

So now here I am sat at my desk with my poor neglected dd in a nursery, YARDS away. Yes, you heard it YARDS away and what is going to happen to her? Eh? Eh????

Yes that poor little mite is going to grow up thinking that its the NORM for a woman to have a good education and a professional job. I am just perpetuating the horror aren't I? :(

bickie · 26/09/2011 16:02

Well - didn't any of your working mother's teach you to 'marry well'. Mine didn't and so I blame her for this life of drudgery and self sufficiency. I have been eyeing up a wealthy neighbour and pretty sure if I promise to have a hot meal (made from scratch) ready for him each night - I too can give up the devil's work.

KatieScarlett2833 · 26/09/2011 16:07

I am a working mum who left her littlest child alone all day (9-3) sick in bed while I went to work.

OK so he's 14, has a cold and his granny came in to check on him and give him lunch, but still...

Do I win? Grin

bickie · 26/09/2011 16:15

No - KatieScarlet - not even close - you made sure he was ok with a FAMILY member checking in. Don't you get it - to even get close to being evil - you would have had a STRANGER look in on him.

vodkaredbullgirl · 26/09/2011 17:17

maybe i could beat it, ive left my 14 yr old home sick while i went to work. She just slept all the time (she does that at wkends never up before 12pm) ive done this since she turned 13

KatieScarlett2833 · 26/09/2011 17:21

It get's better.

DD has just come in telling me MIL has said that "If I were your mum I'd have brought you up better

DD is 16.

AIBU to murder he in her sleep?

Sapphirefling · 26/09/2011 17:28

I am a SINGLE' working mother 'preens'

Will someone please think of the children ?

When my kids were little enough for baby farms and I was a married laydee, I paid a nanny to come into my home and look after them. SHE had children as well. It was a slippery slope. 'Looks sadly at academically gifted, sports mad, bright as buttons DDs and shakes head with sorrow'

AbsDuWolef · 26/09/2011 17:38

YANBU, they clearly are. Worse, there may be mothers on here who are bankers, so in between bringing the world to it's knees and taking it over to play with, for their own nefarious ends, they eat babies (not their own. They shove their own in nurseries for strangers to look after, this repeating the vicious devil's spawn baby-eating cycle that is causing global warming. And cancer. On puppies).

borntoberiled · 26/09/2011 17:50

There may also be mothers who are M.Ps!

norriscoleforpm · 26/09/2011 18:18

I'm so ashamed Sad. I've come home from my high powered job, which clearly emasculates and belittles my husband, only to find that he's done the ironing he's cooked the children's dinner and now he's gone food shopping. He does this all the time but until now, I had no idea of what shame I was bringing on him and the family. God, what if the children tell their schools ? Shock

donthateme · 26/09/2011 18:21

Another really rubbish mum here! Failing on so many counts!

I arrived home from work to 14 yr old ds home alone. Obviously my first mistake is giving him a two hour window of down-time after school. I know ideally I should hover over him relentlessly, interrogating him about his day. I then realised that being the first one home, he'd brought the washing in and stacked the dishwasher. Damn! If I don't watch my step he'll start getting ideas that men can do domestic tasks. Good grief- he may actually end up marrying a woman who sees herself as his equal! And then I realised it was total failure when he told me he'd got an A grade on a practice maths module exam. Bugger! As a child of working parents surely he should be an underachieving delinquent!!

scottishmummy · 26/09/2011 18:35

working mums pay the taxes and ni unwaged housewife dont
i contribute to support their families by taxes paid for schools, nhs,etc- they owe working mums a huge debt of gratitude

Original poster
Proudnscary · 26/09/2011 18:38

Norris - shit, shit! Ummm okay first off put on a baby voice to redress the balance and put him firmly back on the front foot, then say 'oh aren't you good for doing stuff round the house in manner of older generation who believe men 'babysit' their own children, then give him a blow job, then scrumple all the clothes up so you can re-iron. Phewff.

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AnnieLobeseder · 26/09/2011 19:10

Um, scottishmummy, have you actually read the thread? Cos your post kinda killed my buzz, man. Sad

MissMarjoribanks · 26/09/2011 19:26

Norris. I feel your pain. I went off to work this morning and totally belittled my husband as he dropped our DS off at the baby farm. He should have been having a relaxing shower, shit and shave after rising from his bed this morning, not dressing a wriggly toddler. How is he ever going to get over it?

To make matters worse, I came home to find my tea on the table, also cooked by my DH. I had redeemed myself slightly by picking my DS up from the baby farm, but then allowed my DH to bathe him whilst I put the bins out. My DH is going to be seeking therapy and my DS might get the idea that Daddy is as capable of household tasks as Mummy. Shame on me that I put such ideas into his head.

norriscoleforpm · 26/09/2011 19:28

I ruffled his hair up and said 'aren't you goooooooood' with a wide eyed beam. I've obviously bathed dd and will put her to bed, I mean blimey imagine a bloke reading a bedtime story Grin. Awful. Thanks for understanding everyone Smile