Anyway, I can win the competitive crap mother award no problem, and this is actually true!!
DD2 has been in a baby farm since 18 months. I know, she should have been there months earlier. But anyway. She starts school next year so she's started going to pre-school baby farm with CM wraparound twice a week. And when I collect her from pre-school on a Friday afternoon, she crumples in a heap and howls, "I don't want Mummy, I want CM to take me hooooooome!"
So, in actual RL, I have screwed up my child so badly she wishes the SM was her mother.
Beat that, you amateurs!!