We line up outside DS's nursery every day. The kids get their names out of a fabric thing with pockets for each letter (A B C etc), so all the A names are in A etc. The letters are lowercase.
One of his classmates, who has an older sibling in DS2's class, was looking for her name which begins with D. She reached towards D and her mum said "no, that's b". Older brother said "no mum that is d", and mum said "no it's b". Older brother pulled out the name and mum clearly recognised it and said "it's in the wrong place, what was that doing in b".
Now, she can clearly read as she recognised the name when she saw it and if she was illiterate she wouldn't've been so sure she was right, I think, in thinking the letter was wrong. But if she's (my guess), severely dyslexic or similar and KNOWS about it then she equally wouldn't've corrected her children (she'd know she got letters mixed up sometimes?), and might have been taught letter order at least, so she knew d was the 4th letter of the alphabet?
(DH is dyslexic and was taught similar strategies).
I felt like I wanted to say something, especially as her children were confused. But what and how not to sound condescending?
I can't believe that someone could've gotten to her mid-30s not knowing she has an issue with letters. Her older child (DS2's classmate), also has a name which she pronounces very differently to how it's spelt - with an o sound and it's spelt with an a - and I'm wondering if there was a mistake made there too, like (not the real name obviously), she meant to call him Jon and he's down as Jan by accident.
NO idea what to do. Don't want to upset her. Don't want her to be missing out on help she might need.