or is DH about driving?

[Voidka]

I am not a driver so I dont know if IABU.

It was DDs birthday soon and we planned to do a family trip to Chester Zoo to see the dinosaur exhibition as a birthday treat instead of a party.

We were going to go last weekend, then DH cancelled because he wanted to go away with friends for the weekend.

It was rearranged for this weekend, then DH cancelled again because yesterday he wanted to go to the football and today he is at cricket (he plays in a team).

Next weekend DS is away at Cub camp and we are all going to the theatre.

Now the following weekend we have saturday free but Sunday we are driving 2 hours to go to visit my parents, and DH doesnt want to do another 2 hours drive to Chester the day before because it will be too tiring.

The weekend after that we cant go because he is going to Spain with work, then the exhibition finishes.

AIBU to want to go the only day we have free, even if this means DH driving for quite a bit over that weekend?

I find driving tiring. I also find going to work, doing the housework, shopping and cleaning tiring.....

Your DH is being selfish imo - he is putting himself and what he wants to do (see his friends, go to his sporting events....) before his child's birthday treat.

I think he needs to seriously look at his priorities.

BTW when is/was your DD's birthday?

We do alot on Public transport and I did think of taking the children on the train myself, but its a long train journey (3 and a half hours) and we wont get back home until 22.30 which is far too late for DD who will only be three.

I have had loads of driving lessons but I am really nervous, plus the expense makes me a bit queasy!

OP, I suggest that next time you are expected to care for the children yet again while he plays out with his mates that you find it "too tiring" and you need to go out and have a good rest with a glass of wine at your friends house

DH drives several hours a day for his job. And would be happy to do a couple of hours driving at weekend on top if that for something for DS. Your DH is being a selfish brat.

Your DH is a selfish, twunt and a crap dad.

Best not mention that I am taking the children on holiday by myself next year :o

I think he thinks that he is still single.

a work colleague once sid he was dying for his pregnant wife to give birth so that........things can get back to normal......

what is he doing while you do that, viodka

perhaps best not to say think about it eh ?

Is there a reason why you can't drive?

Would you be willing to postpone your visit to your parents as a compromise?

No don't compromise! He didn't postpone his things to compromise.

I think he's being a right arse. But I also think you should consider learning to drive too. My DP did all the driving for years (he didn't mind though) but I finally passed my test a few years ago, but it's so much nicer to have the option of going off to things when he doesn't want to or doesn't have the time etc.

I wouldn't compromise either

Unless he had given up his cricket/playing out with his mates etc for this special occasion

I agree with AD (again). You must be too tired to possibly facilitate his selfish nobber behaviour next time.

2 hrs each way 2 days running would be quite a lot of driving.

2hrs each day in total really isn't.

But I think the issue here isn't that weekend but that he is being selfish about the earlier weekends when he is off doing his thing rather than prioritising his son.

Agree.with AF. NOT AD. BLOODY phone

Tyoe AnyFucker in your phone. See what that comes up with

You're not serious?

What a pwecious he is.

Tell him to grow a pair and get a grip.

type

ffs

I can't even blame a phone..

Do you go away with your friends for the weekend.

AnyFucker doesn't get autocorrected on iPad. Surprisingly.

Anyfucker. Hmm it couldn't suggest any replacement ;)

yay

I am going to campaign to have AnyFucker in the Oxford Dictionary next