To be worried about house guest?

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Really nervous posting here - go gently on me!

A few weeks ago we offered our friend our spare room until 15th October, as she's starting a new job up here this coming week. The conditions were:

• We're not charging her rent, so she'll find it easier to save up for a deposit and rent on a place mid-October
• We will need £10 for gas, as we're on a meter and a budget, too.
• No visitors after 11pm. I am 34 weeks pregnant, and need my rest - DP is a shift worker and needs to have peace and quiet.
• No house parties. DP and I are 31, we've done the all nighters we need until the baby arrives...
• She has to help out with communal chores.

She's 22, and a lovely girl, but here are a few reasons why I'm worried:

• She's coming up here on a budget. I had to sit down with her and make that budget because "Money is so hard to figure out"... Her first week here she'll have £19 for food, tobacco and travel, so I'm worrying we'll have to feed her too (which would not be a problem if she asks us about it, but previous experience tells me it will be a last minute "Oh I'm so hungry" pity fest...)
• She is reckless with money - you'll see a theme. She is very immature with finance as she's been living off "bank of mum and dad" for years.
• Her first action when she found out she'd got the job was to arrange a party in a privately owned field opposite my house. When I asked where people would sleep and use the toilet etc, she did a "Oh, yeah, your house?". See condition 4...
• She's already lived in several houses in her current home town, and amassed various debts with her former house mates. Now, I've pre-empted this by saying "Don't worry about rent or bills" - but it still makes me a bit on edge.
• I've told her she needs to be out by 15th October, but I'm eyeing up her salary and thinking there's no way she'll get together a deposit and first month's rent from what she's earning in the first month (£6.50/hour, 40 hours - about £208/week net)

What do I do if I'm 2 weeks away from my due date (31st October) and she goes "I have no where to live, can I stay please?"
What do I do when she spends all her money and we end up having to pay for her food?

AIBU to think that I shouldn't have agreed to this, and that she's going to drive me up the walls?

Sorry but I think you are crazy to go ahead with this!

However, good luck with her and the baby.

Let us know how it all goes!

Good luck OP - and keep us updated if you want to, would love to hear if she's capable of saving up/going when she says.

Hmm, agree with the others! She's not your responsibility, it's crap timing, I'd ask her to leave/make other arrangements!

I think that's an excellent plan. Having promised to put her up, I don't think in all conscience you can renege now, but I think sitting her down and a) reminding her of the rules and b) stressing that she needs to be out by the 15th is the way forward. She probably hasn't any idea of how much of an imposition this is at this point in your lives, so you have to make that clear too.

Good luck with it! I will look out for you in AIBU in about three weeks' time...

Well good luck, you only have yourselves to blame if it goes wrong. You knew how she was like from the outset. Sounds like she will be very hard to shift

You are lovely, lovely people, probably too lovely for your own good, but all the very best to you and the baby.

WWJD?

Well, considering his mother had a very very hard time in late pregnancy (what with all that journeying to Bethlehem etc) the last thing he would do is put any pressure on a pregnant woman. He would ensure she had her own space and was allowed to get grumpy and hormonal in the final few weeks.

And would pay for one night of B and B accommodation for the partying, unaware 22 year old.

WWJD?
He was pretty forthright with people who deserved it, as I recall...