Clean house, kids, work full time. Impossible right?

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Seems to me that I run around like a headless chicken from work, kids, meals and tidying but the house is still an embarrassment. DH does a bit when asked as do DD's but it's always with a sigh and the bare minimum of effort. Is there an answer to this or am I destined to be a nagging mother. AIBU?

The "protection" (ha ha ha) afforded by marriage in France is negligible (marriage is financially highly detrimental to well-off women though beneficial to men) - not all jurisdictions are the same (just as there is no single set of moral values) on this earth.

Forehead you have just clarified what Xenia is unable to grasp - my DH does no housework he has always accepted that on that basis he pays a cleaner.

As for decluttering and keeping immaculate I think it depends on the ages of the people in the house, the size of the house and how long you have been there (and how many grandparents, etc., have died along the way). Our sitting room has two sofas, two arm chairs, one footstool, one bureau, one card table, one coffee table, one book case, one piano, one TV, one CD player, ornaments, photos, knick knacks, cusions, sporting trophies, cat, cat hair, possibly few things under the sofas, music stand, pile of socks I have just paired, three lamps - and that's the immaculate room - not the one where the kids hang out!

It's not impossible but IMO one of the best investments you can make is a cleaner.