AIBU to not expect DS to be put in timeout at nursery for talking too much

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DS (3 1/2yrs) has in conversation just told me that he was put in timeout at nursery yesterday. When I asked him what for he said it was cause he talks too much!!! I didn't collect him from nursery yesterday myself so have no idea how much truth there is to this at the moment (I will def be asking them about it next week when he goes back in). AIBU to be a bit shocked and miffed that DS is being discouraged from talking in this way. They have joked with me in the past that 'he never stops talking' but have never mentioned it being a problem before or suggested that he needed disciplining over it.

If he is talking during story time or something, I can see that they would eant to deal with it in some way. But I would onyl expect time out to be used for serious stuff like hitting etc.

He may have been interrupting other children or adults, or talking over a story for example?

Well, it depends on the context - if it was circle time, he kept talking, teacher asked him not too, he got cross etc then maybe he needed time out to calm down?

Of course his idea of "talking" might well have been shouting/singing/interrupting.

I would also assume that he was talking at a time when he should have been listening.

It depends, maybe he had been asked to be quiet several times during story time or something and wouldn't do what he was told. They can't just let all the children talk/shout/interrupt any time they feel like it, otherwise it would be chaos.

Ok yeah it does sound like that is probably the case and he can be soooo unnecessarily noisy at times. Maybe I was just being a bit precious about my DS then ...think I was just shocked as this is the first time that I know of them having to discipline him for anything. Will check it out properly with nursery next week.

I'd ask the nursery. I spent a story time yesterday with a child who doesn't speak english laughing into another boys face and the boy who has communication difficulties kept responding with hitting the boy to get him to stop. It was disturbing the rest of the children and the story as I kept having to stop to separate them.

My nephew is like this. Still has. 7pm bedtime because the kid never shuts up lol. His bro had 8pm at that age!

A child at ds3's nursery shouted the words to the carols all the way through the nativity play last year. His family thought it was soooo cute and so did some of the nursery staff but it spoilt the entire thing for me and other parents said the same. Now at school this same boy is always "on the black cloud" or "missing golden time". I feel quite sorry for him as I think the nursery should have taken measures to try to improve his behaviour and it may well have helped him now - it's not so cute anymore apparently.

Talking too much is a 'gateway crime' and almost always leads to fraud, gun smuggling or hijacking of cruise ships.

I assume that, even if your DS hasn't just started nursery there will be a few new children there at this time of year. Or if they've moved rooms/teams the staff will be new to them. If he were talking through circle time/story time (when everyone is looking and listening) they may have used that opportunity to show the 'time out' rule. Not nice if your DS was the one to cop it though. Anyhow, tis all academic until you talk to them.

Interesting point, jubilee10 and TiggyD.

At dd's nursery they only get time out for serious things like hitting but they have their name put on a blue circle for minor things. I would imagine if kids talk during storytime or any other time they have been specifically asked to sit quietly (dd's nursery do little phonics and numbers 'lessons' that they are expected to sit quietly for and raise their hand and wait if they want to speak) then they would be disciplined. A 3 year old (chatty or not) is more than capable of understanding that they have to do as the teacher says - including sitting quietly for short periods imo.

I meant to add that if they have given him time out I would expect he was interrupting repeatedly or had done something else as well.