AIBU to feel sorry for the people who spend half their lives on mumsnet?

[destinationzero]

I lurk a bit at work ( prenteding to be busy, saves me making the tea ) and have started the odd thread here and there seeking advice, BuT my god I feel sorry for the posters who are on here day in day out for hours.
I know some people are socially isolated and I'm sure they get a lot from mumsnet, but it is rather sad when it becomes your main source of adult interaction, and by choice for many I imagin. I know mumsnet has one million members, but it's always the same names coming up in active conversations. These forums should be a place where you drop into now and then, not somewhere you rely on for friendship.

AIBU ?

Pagwatch. You are right, I didn't stop to consider that.

anyfucker, you win!

OP, YABU.

And you aren't smug, but insecure. You don't really 'feel sorry' for those people do you? You feel excluded and that's why you've posted.

Destinationzero
It is more obvious when you know someone with social communication difficulties.
The ability for them to communicate and let their personality shine when 'talking' on line is brilliant.

pagwatch, I will remember that.

Look at that.

All we had to do was kill the fish.

I love social interaction and will talk to anyone (except Chaos, obviously), in RL and on here. However MN does mean a lot to me now, as DH is oft away, or I am working so in the evenings it's great to have someone to chat to in the evening after the dc's are in bed.

And here's the interesting bit...

I could "phone a friend", but I hate chatting to friends on the phone as I have to focus. It's not like RL easy going conversation, it feels like effort. And I've noticed that a lot of people who post on here regularly for a myriad of reasons have mentioned the same thing.

don't feel sorry for us, it should be obvious from the pratting around that we don't feel sorry for ourselves.

"Generally the reasons why people are popular on MN, is for the very same reasons people are popular IRL - because they're warm, amusing, interesting, colourful etc, etc."

Ah. I thought people were popular on MN because they were rude and spiteful (which is an odd thing and, fortunately, not one that's generally replicated in RL). But maybe calling one another c**s is 'colourful'.

I hate the phone.

The coming of email was my salvation. Hallelujah to the mighty email I say.

I dunno.

I think different things make different people popular for different reasons

Oh God, we're on to 'you're all bjullying bjitches, you rude, spiteful caahs'. Again.

I hate the phone too, I can't concentrate enough to carry on a phone conversation because I am usually MNing at the same time .

Agreed Hully

Ah. I thought people were popular on MN because they were rude and spiteful (which is an odd thing and, fortunately, not one that's generally replicated in RL)

It's interesting you say that, as some of the bitchiness (genuine bitchiness, not jest) reminds me of a former workplace where a group were like that. They thought they were popular as the hung out together and no one joined them.

Reality? There were a bunch of cunts

Difference is in RL I had to listen to the spiteful, obnoxious bitching. Here I hide the thread and leave them to it.

My MN mojo is gone.

Who are you talking about, Honeydragon? Because it's not pleasant or accurate to hold a whole group of posters in a thread jointly liable for what individuals you don't like might say. Especially when you post on threads yourself which aren't averse to a hatchet-job now and again. Just because posters from a particular community thread have insulted me, called me names etc, doesn't mean that I assume nobody on that thread can be a pleasant and kind person. Heck, sometimes people can be rude AND kind etc etc. Surely nobody is a total twat all the time- even on here?

Can you stll get Mojo's? They were lush.

Pinot what's up? Are you carrying a watermelon?

Reality she said, Boffy

And er, she's not talking about groups on here I don't think

When I was off sick and suffering from severe depression, I sat here all day every day. It helped me.

If not for Mumsnet I'd have been sleeping, Mumsnet was familiar, like a small family even though I only interact with one other poster, I still recognise and appreciate reading posts from those I do like and admire.

Pinot I've been meaning to ask for a while - how did you get your 'o' sorted?

No, BOF not a who, or group in particular. I'm saying when you see a thread like that with real bitchiness in you don't have to deal with it, it's not in your face. Those threads go two ways, everyone piles in and they get deleted or people click and I assume pull a wtf face and either hide or ignore. It's not a Mnet phenomenon, I've seen it on some FB groups too.

Actually come to think of it, as you're here BOF

its been a while since I posted your picture

I see. I thought you meant the Shiney group, who often (not always jokingly) get called cunts.

I don't even post on that thread any more because I felt they were getting so much abuse just because some people find me annoying/over-present etc. Which is a shame, as they are LOVELY. I've lost count of the number of times they have quietly done a whipround for some other MNer in trouble, with no fanfare whatsoever.

I'm gutted that they get abused like this.

I've lost weight since that pic, Honeydragon

That is really weird Boffy. I have never known why and nor do I now.

Altho of course Shiney does whiff a bit its true

And I love Boffy for the banana photo thread so long ago.

They don't make em like that any more.