to be a bit annoyed at the inlaws telling my 4 year old dd what they are going to buy her for xmas? also how should i handle this

[carriedababi]

so when the inlaws had dd in aug for the night, dd told them she liked her friends princess cooker, [dd already has a cooker in her playhouse],anyway so the inlaws told her they would buy her one for xmas.
this was in august and dd is only just 4.
anyway dd came home and told us this, and we just said, oh well you'll have to see what father christmas brings you, if you very good. and left it at that

anyway mil has emailed to say shes told dd she will buy her this and should she go ahead and get it, as she needs to get it soon....

i don't really mind what they get her, but it seems a bit much to tell a 4 year old in aug what they will be getting her.

it seems a bit of a waste of money as dd only likes it because its princess branded, it has bad reviews, she already has a kitchen, but i don't really care if its not that great, what bothering me is spoiling the magic for a 4 year old

we want dd to experience the magic of christmas and to think father christmas exists, esp while she is still so young, and the children tend to work out earlier and earlier that theres no such thing as father christmas.
but we wanted to do the whole carrot and mince pie thing

anyway to me it just seems to take the magic out of it, esp telling her 4 months early what they will be buying.
4 months is like 4 years to a 4 year old

so 1, aibu?
and 2 wwyd in this situation, how woul you handle it

Santa doesnt bring presents from the family He only brings "Santa presents"!

OP - I see what you mean about four months being a very long time to a four year old child.

And I agree that if she knows what the present is, even if they have wrapped it up and put it under the tree, a little bit of the magic might be gone - but only for that particular present. The surprise is part of the fun after all, but perhaps she loves the kitchen so much that it won't spoil things for her this time. And I'm sure you will be working hard to keep a lot of magic in everything else.

But I think you might have to brace yourself for the asking for presents thing. As she continues at school, as her friends talk about presents they have asked for, as she writes a letter to Father Christmas - which is the ultimate in asking for presents - she is going to start saying "I want this for Christmas." Especially if she gets her hands on an Argos catalogue.

What a ridiculous thing to get worked up over. Your child probably won't even remember all of this at Christmas.

YADBU

How is this taking the magic away? You weren't seriously going to pretend Santa Claus brought it, were you? Your mother told your dd she would buy the cooker - doesn't impact on the whole Santa thing at all.
YABU