AIBU to feel disgusted and very sad about this being said to/in front of children?

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Why is it that bad language seems to be no bad things to many parents? I am getting increasingly fed up of people swearing at their children, within earshot of mine. I don't use that language around them, and I don't want them picking it up whilst they are so young. Unfortunately I know they will through school eventually.

Was in town with DH last week. Walking past a mother who was moaning at her DD about not wearing socks and now her shoes were rubbing, as we walked past, she said "put your fucking socks on". At first I thought I was hearing things but DH did confirm it.

Outside nursery on Monday, first day back. Within 30 seconds of being stood there, mother calls her DD a "little fucker" (actually speaking to her) and said fuck in the same sentence. Had this problem last term when a mum called her DS a "little shit" and her friend laughed and said "yeah punch him in the face"

I have complained to the nursery and I will every time I hear it. No wonder I heard a parent warning the nursery workers a little while ago that her DD was saying the F word and admitted she got it from home.

This is just the people I don't know. Then some of my friends use some swear words in front of their children then say "ooopps DS/DD said shit the other day" or something along those lines. Yes of course they do if you bloody say it!!

I HATE swearing in front of children. There is no need for it. I used to be terrible but I can actually control what comes out of my mouth, it isn't that bloody difficult (like some of my friends seem to think).

F.C.O.L.'. After gentle enquiry the offending phrase turned out to be 'for crying out loud'.

Haha breccon. Reminded me of eldest many yrs ago at little school trying to explain the 'really bad word' that this other child had said. i asked her what it was, she refused to say and said she would spell it. "It has a B and 2 L's Mummy"...Oh heck thinks I, it's B*llocks. So to conform I asked her just this once to say it and she wouldn't get told off. She reluctantly agreed and whispered "Blooming"!!!!

uuurrggghh I really hate it when parents direct swearwords at their own children and call them names like that, I will admit if I drop something or hurt myself or my kids do the odd swear word will fall out but I don't call my kids horrid names, my mother used to call us see you next tuesdays, obv the shortened version but I hate that word !!!

I think what really makes it horrible is the aggressiveness of actually swearing at a child eg. "you f*king pain in the arse", "shut the fk up will you", "put your f*king shoes on" etc etc.

Its quite different to slipping up and saying "oh fK" in front of the child when eg the bottom of a carrier bag spilts and your yoghurts splash all over the floor ...

Obv its better to avoid saying "oh f**k" in that situation too though!

YADNBU. Whilst I don't think kids should be mollycoddled, there's just no need to swear at them, and whilst a cuss word might slip out occasionally whilst they are in the room if you can't control yourself in general, it's a pretty sad state of affairs.

Fucking ridiculous some might say.

why would they learn it from other kids' parents than the general populus.many people can't utter a sentence without at least 2 'F words' in it!!'
I don't know howyou plan to shield them from that forever!!

I don't know howyou plan to shield them from that forever!!

you dont shield them from it, but you instill the respect for themselves and others that its not nice to say those things if you dont want to hear it

i can honestly say that my 20 somethings have never sworn at me, or used swearing in the house. what they do outside is their business

I was quite cheered last year when crossing the road with DC in the buggy. The crossing was packed with secondary schoolchildren. One of the boys swore, and another older boy turned round to him and said: "You want to watch yourself, there's a kid there" pointing to the buggy. The boy who swore looked a bit embarrassed, muttered "Sorry" and ran on.

At the time, I hadn't thought any of the schoolchildren would have spoken up and objected to the swearing, and tbh I didn't expect the boy who swore to apologise. So, I was pleasantly surprised.

I agree with karma and Bumps. Swearing at a child is different from swearing in front of one.

One phrase quoted on this thread was "going to kick her fucking head in when I get hold of her, fucking bitch". Take out the swearwords, and that's still an unacceptable thing to say to a child.

I am in a minority in that I have no problem with swearing. I try not to swear in front of DD (2.9) as swearwords do not feature in her peers' vocabulary and I don't want her to be different. As yet, she cannot judge which situations swearing would be acceptable and which wouldn't. When she is older, I will explain to her that many people are offended by these words, and that it is not a good idea to say them at school, funerals etc.

I can control my language; although I have a foul mouth when not teaching, in the classroom I am a paragon of virtue. I have only ever once slipped up, when a student showed me and the class his painting: my response? "That's fucking brilliant!" . It really was. I, of course, apologised profusely. It just slipped out...

I find it strange that some people think it is acceptable to swear in front of children.

Firstly, I think there is just something not right about children using the f word. To me it joins the ranks of smoking prematurely and wearing short skirts - it resembles the end of the age of being completely innocent once they start swearing.

Also, children don't understand about context and if an adult says "fuck" once a child will think it is acceptable to say it a dozen times and in front of anyone.

rips - I find that some of the things you call your child strange. There is nothing wrong with saying they did something silly but actually the expressions you use such as dozy mare are a bit derrogatory.

Personally it is not the swearing in front of children that bothers me but more the swearing AT children.