To not want the Tooth Fairy to visit Granny too.

[Rollergirl1]

DD had her first tooth fall out this morning (after much wobbling). We are expecting a visit from the tooth fairy tonight. I texted a picture of her with gappy smile to the grandparents. MIL wants me to tell DD that the tooth fairy also visited her so that she can give her some money too.

I think this is a really bad idea and will confuse DD no end. Also, I know I'm probably being precious here but I don't really see why MIL has to muscle in on the event. AIBU?

Insecure because you are making a mountain out of a molehill. I don't see why grandparents want to get involved, but I don't see why it can't be accommodated fairly easily.

YANBU.... My mum gets visits from the toothfairy and Santa, it fucks me right off, the kids however love it! I'm happy the kids get a double whammy but my mum has more money to spend than me so Santa delivers the shit stuff to us.

It REALLY annoys me. The fantasy of it all though causes no confusion, its turned into a very intricate story, and I'm all for that.

I do feel like saying "OI, you've ad your kids muvva, step away!" but I'm learning to pick my battles because they're long, bloody and usually very petty.

It's really not that easy to make a believeable story if you have fairly savvy children!

They're not always that little when teeth start falling out, they do have some sense of logic by then. Surely most 5ish year olds would question why the tooth fairly left money for them in two places on the same night if one didn't have a tooth to collect?

Personally, I love the magic of these stories, I don't want it questioned the first chance I get to do it! For the dc as well as me!

And why should it be accepted just because in one opinion it's being offered with love? I actually think the GP's that show the most selfless love are the ones that stand back and take their cues from the the parents. It's not a loving gift if it's about giving you satisfaction and your child and grandchild would be happier if you didn't!
Thank you Slavetofilofax, you say exactly what I want to, but so much more eloquently.

I love the magic and excitement of this too. And I don't want to make the whole thing sound suspect before we've even started! DD is very inquisitive and thinks things though a lot. I know for a fact that she would ruminate over money being left at Granny's house. And the fact that she so lovingly prepared her tooth tonight reinforced that thinking. She would question why/how the tooth fairy had visited Granny's house.

I am not suggesting that MIL suggested this in a malicious way. But she probably was thinking of herself which is maybe why she hadn't thought it through properly. I am not saying that it isn't a lovely thing, and I am not saying that she can't be involved. I want her to be involved. But just to let us, DD and us as parents, treasure this first of its kind moment? Surely that's not too much to ask?

My mil used to give all presents from Father Christmas, except for the ones that she signed from the reindeer, the pixies, the elves, the fairies and the snowmen.

Used to piss me right off. I'd get worried that the dc would be confused, wonder why FC didn't just deliver everything at the same time, why would he go to an extra house with no children when he already has so much work to do, why the elves used the same paper as Nanny on her present to Daddy, why Nanny didn't get them a present but Granny did etc.

Then I split up with their Dad when oldest ds was three, and thankfully didn't have to worry about it anymore. I decided that she could do what she liked when she saw them on boxing day, and I would just forget about it. If the dc ever did think about any of those things, they never said it to me.

Sorry, meant to bold the first 3 paragraphs..

exotic: We'll just have to agree to disagree I guess. I'm not over-thinking. I just know what I want and what my DD will like. End of.

x posted!

glad you agree Roller, and it's not just me that gets carried away!

I'm a bit of a storyteller/conjuror.. any doubts are answered with 'well do YOU believe?' any questions I answer with a story... I never say 'its real' or its true because I'm not a liar but a storyweaver, and that involves never mentioning 'truth'!

I've had to write down a lot of the story tangents as I'd lose track otherwise, and my mum HAS complicated things.

My eldest is nearly 8 and totally buys into the 'fantasy' there's not a question of whether its true or not because neither of us want to go there, the stories have encouraged us to talk about all kinds of things from story origins, to religion and belief, and the choice we have in that.

I really DO Christmas, its not 'classy' or coordinated, but its bloosy magical, from me standing outside the boys' bedroom window shaking a jingle stick to the reindeer poo.... my mum's annoying habits can't compete with the magic I create. I'm not religious, but I DO like magic.

Rollergirl1 YANBU, but even if your MIL conjures a story about how the toothfairy wanted to leave a gift at her house too because your children have been so good and brave, then it won't damage them.... unless she poo poos your stories.

I never liked the tooth fairy anyway-so I am not going to touch it as a grandmother. (I thought the going rate for teeth was ridiculous)