AIBU to think baby showers are completely ridiculous?

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I didn't have a baby shower (ds is 6 now) as it wasn't the 'done thing' back then. My real friends saw me throughout my pregnancy, picked up lovely little trinkets and outfits when the mood took them etc.

I didn't ever expect gifts or any sort of fuss, I mean - you have chosen to have a baby, surely the onus is on you to buy your moses basket etc (I have seen several given as gifts at baby showers and was )

AIBU to think they are ridiculous, boring as hell and rather cheeky?

Personally, I like parties. Any excuse for joy and celebration is fine in my book. I love my friends and family, and love welcoming new babies into the world.

But you're not welcoming a new baby into the world, the baby isn't BORN yet!

Mocking and being derisive, really gets your point across. I would find it draining to be like that. Noone is using text speak or calling others hun. Rude.

It is a celebration with friends and family, which you don't have to go to if you don't want to. If you surround yourself with grabby, tacky people, then expect a tacky, grabby event whatever it might be called. If you don't, then it won't be.

When did people get so joyless?

I know, but for me it is "we are so excited that this person we love is having this baby whom we will also love. Let's have a party to celebrate that, since she will be too tired and busy after the baby is born." That's all. It can be greedy and grasping, yes, but so can weddings. They can be tacky, OTT affairs, or they can simply be an expression of love. Baby showers are the same IMO.

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Excellent post CheerfulYank - To me that should be the last word on the subject ... but I don't suppose we'll be that fortunate
Thanks for the support roundtable - much appreciated

SGM. That's not weird. That's what you would call: Normal.

You are not something out of 'Mommie Dearest' just because you don't want to have a chuffin' Baby Shower. I'm sure you wren't suggesting this, however.

This ain't the topic for that.
You want: www.fluffywuffybunnywunny/iagreewithallyousay.com

Seriously, wat did you expect on AIBU?

Hi SGM - eminent birth made me because I think you meant immanent birth, but I'm sure a good baby shower can bestow eminence to the baby too - Like the fairy godmothers at Cinderella's Christening

I think she meant: Imminent.

sorry baguette, wat did you just say?

Why not address comments you find xenophobic to the particular posters in question, as the entire thread has not been about xenophobia but about how some people find baby showers tacky, grabby, twee, smug, stupid and the like?

Report posts you find xenophobic or racist.

Now then, SGM, we're back to 'How about addressing those with whom you have a problem.'

BTW I got exactly what you meant by "weirdly" SGM, even if others missed your subtlety there

What has that to do with xenophobia and racism, though, SGM?

Yeah, Chibi, I'm such a spanner tht I can't spell 'What'. How did I get to 39?

Gah, one day I'll get it, one day.......

it's just a bit funny that you then corrected someone else's post, but you may not be able to see the humour because your giant inflated sense of self regard blocks the view

You said it SGM, you'd never tar everyone who dislikes them with the same brush, would you?

Thought not.

My point, chibi, because I clearly have to spell. it out. is: Obviously this was a slip of the hand, surely you get that, or would you like to throw some more insults?