to think two 12 year old boys should not be masterbating simultaneously?

[KathleensDaughter]

We were camping last weekend and my DS and his friend, both 12, were whispering frantically during the night when I woke up, I then caught the gist of the conversation and what was going on. I presume (hope!) each was pleasuring himself at the same time and not doing something to each other.

Do I a) ignore it as a healthy, natural thing for two boys to do as they discover their sexuality?
or
b) tell my son it's fine to do it, but it's something he should really do on his own in private in future.

I'm worried that if this gets out then he will be teased and his life will be a misery.

Thanks in advance for any advice

[Talker2010]

Normal ... presumably they had no ruler nor, as someone else suggested, a biscuit

[Birdsgottafly]

It can be part of normal sexual development. It isn't an indication of sexuality.

Don't speak to him about it, there is nothing to worry about. He hasn't done anything wrong and you do not need to tell him not to do it in the presence of anyone else. He will stop it of his own accord.

[TheMonster]

circle jerk

[Flumptious]

(A)

Normal.

Girls do stuff too.

Well, some girls. ;)

I'd not mention it as there's no need to.

[KathleensDaughter]

Thanks to those who have genuinally tried to help, I appreciate it. I feel a lot calmer now and don't feel the need to rush headlong into talking to him.

To those that have left quite rude and unhelpful comments, I'm quite shocked at the immediate level of hostility. I thought this was a forum for mums - women - to help each other, not ridicule. You really ought to be doing something more worthwhile with your life.

[NevermindtheNargles]

NEVER accept a biscuit from them.

[izzywhizzyletsgetbusy]

If you intend to talk to your ds, the appropriate time would be when his dw tells you that she suspects their 12 yr old ds (your dgs) has been engaging in playing volcanoes with one of his peers.

Alternatively, you could mention it in passing on his stag night.

This entirely natural behaviour is what all some boys do - weird, arent they?

Anyone fancy a milkshake?

[SugarSkyHigh]

well what is a Circle jerk??

[Flumptious]

Ignore them op.

[MugglesandLuna]

I assume its wanking (jerking) in a circle with others??

[SugarSkyHigh]

is it something you do on the circle line?

[Flumptious]

We called it a circle of friends actually, sounds prettier.

[theinet]

they may have been tossing each other off.

they'll chalk it down to experience in future years and probably won't say a word to anyone.

you shouldn't say anything.

[BustleInYourHedgerow]

Kathleen - there have been a lot of troll on MN recently, which have made some MNers a bit paranoid and suspicious. If it's any consolation, I recall my friends having a 'wankathon' when growing up, to see how many times they could do it in one day. My male friends did not find it in any way strange. I think it's a pretty normal part of growing up for some teenagers.

[TheFlyingOnion]

worry not , op.

And ignore the usual bullies

[Chipsycheese]

I did see some men do this together. (Yes grown men, in their 20's). A few of them actually. In a pub! It was a stag do dare I think.
It was pretty grim to watch but maybe its just the kind of thing boys do and think its funny - and maybe don't grow out of doing it when they are men?! Not that I think that's how people in a pub should behave.
I think I would get someone close to them/him like an uncle etc to speak to them rather than having a mum do it. Would be ever so slightly less embarrassing.

[moonbells]

Not that I have any experience of this happening, but years ago I read an autobiographical book by Clive James (you know, that Aussie geezer) called Unreliable Memoirs. Quite a large section of this was on just this topic... and how they progressed to having sex with a local girl who one day vanished after "getting into trouble" !!
Given he's now in his 70s I suspect that this particular event is neither particularly modern nor unusual!

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

WHAT THE ACTUAL JEFF?

That's broken my NeverHadAPostDeleted cherry.



I was only pointing out a typo.



And now I look like a bully/trollhunter.

And I follow the guidelines.

Gah.

[RowanMumsnet]

Ah, apologies Chaos - I misread the post. I'll reinstate it for you

[Pagwatch]

I like there are two threads on this ...you know...simultaneously

[notlettingthefearshow]

It's pretty normal and I've heard of it happening with teenage boys. I think he will grow out of it in time.

Don't talk to him about it - he would die of embarassment, and rightly so! If you catch him at it a lot in future, a word from his father would be more appropriate.

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Thank you Rowan.

You are most kind.

Offers dry biscuit.

[Seepage]

OOOh you bad bad girl Chaos. What did you say?

Honestly - we may all be professional, grown-up, middle class women (dressed in boden,. yaddayada) but when you ask a question about wanking of course we are going to snigger and take the piss. You can't not, without appearing very earnest and tedious.

So a circle jerk isn't a type of squatting exercise routine thing then?