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To ask if any one likes and gets along with there mil

135 replies

AuntiePickleBottom · 29/08/2011 22:34

i see alot of threads about MIL alot about problems and the poster dislike of the MIL I have no problem with these thread btw

Am I the Only one that likes and gets along with my MIL

OP posts:
Thumbwitch · 30/08/2011 12:43

I do have a shit BIL though... but then so does DH.

MorallyBankrupt · 30/08/2011 12:46

MIL and I got on beautifully for 4 years. Until she told me she loved one of my children more than the other. Since then we hardly speak and I do everything in my power to avoid her.

slug · 30/08/2011 12:51

I love my MIL (and FIL as well) we go to the WI together, sit in the back row and giggle like naughty schoolgirls.

TiaMariaandDietCoke · 30/08/2011 13:12

I absolutely love my MIL and FIL - I've been so lucky to have them as well as my wonderful DH in my life.

Stillcrackers · 30/08/2011 13:19

What a lovely thread! I would have loved to have a great relationship with my mil - sadly she is impossible (not just me who thinks so) so am very Envy of you all.

ipswichwitch · 30/08/2011 16:20

love my MIL, and pretty sure she feels the same about me too - i always get the biggest bit of cake when we go round for tea!!!!!

Pippaandpolly · 30/08/2011 16:58

I loved mine and I miss her a lot - she died a few months ago. I am always sad when I read threads about horrid inlaws - partly because I feel bad for people who don't have the good relationship with theirs that I really enjoyed, and partly because it reminds me of how lucky I was to have her.

grovel · 30/08/2011 17:28

My MiL was wonderful.

traceybeaker · 30/08/2011 17:48

I am not keen on mine. I can visit for a whole two hours and not even talk to her.

KatieScarlett2833 · 30/08/2011 18:15

I love mine even though she drives me nuts.

SybilBeddows · 30/08/2011 18:27

Mine is lovely. As time goes on we seem to drive each other less nuts, probably because she has grown used to my little ways and the more I get to know her the more I realise what an extremely nice person she is.

Inertia · 30/08/2011 18:42

Mine is lovely-she adores the DCs, and they adore her. She's caring and happy, and has never tried to overrule us with the DCs. And she happily babysits , and allows the DCs to get her up so we get a lie-in :)

Not sure what she'd say about me though- apparently I am a bit bossy and forthright. We do get along, and have nice chats. And I'm always the first (only) to offer to help cook / wash up - though it's hard to know where the line between being pushy and being lazy is.

Empusa · 30/08/2011 18:43

I like my MIL, don't always get along with her though.

Xiaoxiong · 30/08/2011 18:58

I love my MIL. She is poorly at the moment and I am gutted about it.

Regarding some of the MIL threads on here though, it is usually incidental that the behaviour is that of the poster's MIL - it's often complaining about behaviour that would be horrendous from anyone and it's just salt in the wound that happens to be coming from a family member.

CurlyBoy · 30/08/2011 21:05

My MIL is a cranky, selfish, somewhat close minded but hilarious lady. We get on famously! We're both only children so we understand each other really well and can banter for hours.

wompoopigeon · 30/08/2011 21:18

I really like my MIL.
She had three sons and always wanted a daughter. So I think she's well disposed to her DILs.

azazello · 30/08/2011 21:55

I love my MIL which is helpful as DH is very much her baby boy and DD so far seems a bit of a carbon copy of her (she is thrilled and very devoted - they spend many happy hours together cutting out small pieces of paper).

I also really admire MIL. DH has a genetic problem which has left him disabled and at times seriously ill. I am very impressed with the fact that even when his parents expected him to die before he was a teenager, they still expected him to have a completely normal life - school, homework, swimming etc.

I may have told MIL this once or twice when drunk.

Onemorning · 30/08/2011 22:23

I love my MIL. We're from massively different backgrounds, but understand and respect each other. She's a lovely woman and I'm grateful to have her in my life. (I should probably tell her that but wouldn't know how to approach it.)

When DH and I started having fertility problems she went through a phase of telling us random miracle pregnancy stories, which was horrible. But a few months later it occurred to me that she might be upset about our problems (DH and DBIL are adopted) and she was trying to give us hope.

I didn't get on so well with my ex-MIL, although I was fond of her. I think she would have preferred a more meek wife for her PFB - a bit more like her. I made her cry (accidentally!) by deciding not to have balloon arches at our wedding reception, FFS. It was when I told her her PFB was an alkie that things really went downhill :/

januaryjojo · 30/08/2011 22:28

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thecaptaincrocfamily · 30/08/2011 22:30

No! I love both my MIL and my ex-MIL! Both lovely in their own ways and helpful, caring ladies Smile although ex MIL is now getting Alzheimers Sad. My new MIL is great, like anyone she has her faults and we have very different backgrounds but that doesn't matter Smile

spudinvasion · 30/08/2011 22:42

I love my MIL. She is non-judgy (well she doesn't vocalise it anyway!). She is always saying she loves the way we parent. She treats the DCs so nicely but without feeling the need to buy their love or feed them all manner of crap.

She never outstays her welcome, she treats our home like her own in that she doesn't expect to be waited on even though DH is always telling her to sit down and relax!

She loves my DH and BIL just the way I love my DCs but she never undermines their relationships with me/SIL.

She is kind, funny, a little bit bonkers and very very sweet.

She has a lovely relationship with my DD (12) and always listens to whatever the DCs have to say.

She is the best MIL ever!

richpersoninapoorpersonsbody · 30/08/2011 23:03

I don't get on great with mine or her partner but my Fil is different he is one of the nicest people I have had the pleasure to meet. When my dd was a few weeks old Fil and his partner came to stay, at 4am when I was desperate for sleep he came down made me tea sent me for a shower and looked after dd. It may not sound much but it ment so much at the time - his partner is equally as lovely and I love spending time with both of them.

spiderlight · 30/08/2011 23:05

I love my in-laws dearly and get on brilliantly with them. I don't see them often enough because of distance but I couldn't have wished for a lovelier family and they're fantastic grandparents to DS. I'm very, very blessed.

shakey1500 · 30/08/2011 23:08

My MIL is as mad as a box of frogs. She wears flowing kaftans, has old home made tattoos on her arms of various mens names and does the longest morning pees ever

She scares me Grin

borderslass · 30/08/2011 23:28

My MIL died last month we got on great until we discovered DS had LD'S and ASD and then told us he should be in a home also caused no end of trouble for us.SMIL on the other hand is absolutely lovely and we all adore her and wished we lived nearer DH always sends her flowers for mothers day and birthday when I suggested he did the same for his mother his reply was he couldn't find triffids