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To ask if any one likes and gets along with there mil

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AuntiePickleBottom · 29/08/2011 22:34

i see alot of threads about MIL alot about problems and the poster dislike of the MIL I have no problem with these thread btw

Am I the Only one that likes and gets along with my MIL

OP posts:
maxylou · 30/08/2011 07:36

Fab mil, since we had our dd she's been really helpful and has offered to help with childcare when i return to work

Groovee · 30/08/2011 07:41

I like my MIL and get along with her now. But there has been challenges along the way.

Mishy1234 · 30/08/2011 07:44

I love my MIL and FIL, but appreciate I'm very lucky. They have really saved my bacon on a number of occasions and are fabulous with the boys.

We do have minor irritations now and then (on both sides), but our common goal is always to do the best for the boys and that gets us back on track pretty quickly.

scaryteacher · 30/08/2011 07:49

I used to get on really well with mine, but since last year things have been really bad; it's not just me, she has alienated her two sons, their wives and her gcs, plus other relatives by making wild and unfounded accusations.

cory · 30/08/2011 07:54

Love mine- and I love seeing little traits of her in dcs. They can't do better than take after their gran!

exoticfruits · 30/08/2011 07:56

I love mine.

BikeRunSki · 30/08/2011 08:01

I am very fond of my MIL and adore my FIL.

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Fluter · 30/08/2011 08:46

We got on quite well at the start, probably because my two SILs were much younger, and my parents were the same generation as her, whereas there was an extra generation between her and the SILs - IYSWIM (one, now ex-SIL, was about 12 years younger than BIL (No 3 son), and my DH (No 1 son) was actually old enough to be her father!!). It also helped that I'm keen on jam-making and baking and that sort of thing.

Sadly, the relationship has rather deteriorated, but only as it's deteriorated with all three of her sons, to the extent that she doesn't even know she has two more grandchildren arriving in the next few weeks. All down to her (probably) having some form of dementia that she refuses to acknowledge, and we can't do anything about helping her with, because of "Data Protection" and "Confidentiality".

Mitmoo · 30/08/2011 08:51

I love my ex MIL and FIL, get on great even went in a limo with the family to a big birthday celebration at their invitation a few years after the divorce.

SecretNutellaFix · 30/08/2011 08:53

I love my in-laws and get on fantastically well with all of them.

Iteotwawki · 30/08/2011 09:26

I adore my MiL :) she's moving in with us for a few months soon, I'm sure we'll have some settling in friction but I'm also sure it will be fab. Can't wait to have her living closer to us. She offers varying solutions but never advice, she leaves the bringing up of our children to us and only gives an opinion when pushed.

I can remember being very PFB with my first son and cringe sometimes when I remember things I've said and what we put her through. DiL from hell material Blush . Thankfully she took it all in her stride and has never mentioned it!

trixymalixy · 30/08/2011 09:29

I like my MIL a lot and we get on very well. She can be quite outspoken so there have been a couple of times I have been a bit Shock at some of the things she has said to me. But on the whole she's lovely.

Piggles · 30/08/2011 10:15

My MIL is a lovely lady, very kind, friendly and chatty... hard to get a word in edgewise with her sometimes though!

Actually, DH's family are a pretty good bunch generally. There are a few I'm not keen on, but the ones we see more than a couple of times a year are all very nice people.

It probably helps that none of them live on our doorstep though (most of them live a 30 minute drive away.) As DH once summed it up: "We are the perfect distance from my family - close enough to see them whenever we like, but not so close they can just drop in."

GeekCool · 30/08/2011 10:17

I love my mil, we've had a couple of bumps, but no more than with my own parents - the transition of becoming Grandparents and boundaries lol.
I have a great relationship with her and DH also gets on brilliantly with my parents. Grin

TeacupTempest · 30/08/2011 10:18

My in-laws are fab. I often feel more comfortable at their house than I do at my parent's.

Morloth · 30/08/2011 10:21

I love my MIL. She is a fantastic warm person who loves and cares for her family more than anyone I know.

One of her children is my husband and the other is my closest friend. She thinks the sun rises and sets in my boys and would do anything for them (and me).

When I joined her family she welcomed me with wide open arms and I have never for one moment felt like she didn't love me.

We spend time together apart from DH, go shopping, have lunch, etc.

Wonderful woman. I couldn't ask for more.

Obviously we don't always agree, but as we are both reasonable people who love each other we sort it out.

Tonksforthememories · 30/08/2011 10:34

I could have written what Geek said word for word. I Love my Pil, but they're 10y older than my P so we've had our share of teething problems! We've been on an even keel for 7ish years now ever since my DH laid into her when she tidied our house while we were on honeymoon and threw away everything we'd kept from our wedding Sad

JanMorrow · 30/08/2011 12:01

I get on well with my MIL, we're not CLOSE as such, but it's an easy relationship and she's great with our daughter, I've no complaints at all! They're very friendly people and will always do you a favour but are far from interfering.

scrambedeggs · 30/08/2011 12:17

i think many of the MIL stories say reams about the DIL more than the MIL to be honest.

nocake · 30/08/2011 12:30

My ex-MIL defined the phrase "two-faced", which was a shame because ex-FIL was one of the most genuinely considerate people I've ever met. He really would have given you the shirt off his back if you needed it.

My current ILs are lovely.

Red2011 · 30/08/2011 12:35

My MIL is great, and we get on really well. I'm always grateful for this as I know many people who have inlaws from hell.

minipie · 30/08/2011 12:37

Yup I get on with mine (and my FIL) - they have been very good to us and are always very reasonable and totally non-interfering! Mind you there are no GC yet Wink

gapants · 30/08/2011 12:39

PILs are amazing here and I love them bith to bits. They are brilliant in-laws and grandparents and I count myself very lucky to have them in my life. My own parents however....a whole other kettle of fish!

Thumbwitch · 30/08/2011 12:42

yes I do like mine. She is lovely and would do anything for any of us - but sometimes takes that to extremes which is mildly irritating. However, she is an added benefit in my life for sure and I'm very glad to have her around. I don't have a FIL - he died when DH was 17.