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AIBU to think teenagers loudly saying (or writing on Facebook) that they pulled or got off with someone last night

50 replies

pignatelli · 28/08/2011 21:24

should really say they just kissed them, because this is what these phrases actually mean now (apparently) and this will avoid horribly embarrassing misunderstandings. Esp if they are 14. Do teenagers you know use these phrases?

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emsyj · 28/08/2011 21:27

'Pull' and 'got off' meant just kissing in my day... And I am 32! So I think YABU... (sorry).

Panzee · 28/08/2011 21:29

Pull always meant snog in my day, which was many days ago.

nickschick · 28/08/2011 21:30

Oh God I had this discussion today with ds2 aged 15 - getting off with means 'serious' kissing he said- in my day if you 'got off' with someone it was vvv different Hmm.

Ds wiggled his tongue to describe the difference to kissing and getting off.

Wonder was it the same party? and are you the mother of the dd my ds got off with Hmm????

Kayano · 28/08/2011 21:30

Pulled and got off with = snog / kiss IMO?

Talker2010 · 28/08/2011 21:30

pull or got off

may mean a bit beyond kissing but not much more ... I am 48 and would have used these phrases to describe a snog or a snog and mild grope when I was a teen

Themumsnot · 28/08/2011 21:31

Agree with the others, they meant that in my day and I was 14 back in 1978!

bubblesincoffee · 28/08/2011 21:31

I'm 31, and they are using exactly the same phrases to describe kissing as we used to use.

So, what was the misunderstanding?

Original poster
pignatelli · 28/08/2011 21:35

If your DS is 15 I sure as hell hope not.

Where I come from "got off" and "pull" have always meant to shag. Particularly the latter - to be out on the pull, to have pulled etc. Guess I'm the odd one out then!

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TimeWasting · 28/08/2011 21:35

got off with = snogging

In my day anyway.

Pulling means getting a shag though doesn't it?

whackamole · 28/08/2011 21:35

I would use 'pull' or 'get off' with to describe a full-on snog, possibly a mild grope - depending on the situation!

I'm 28 so can still remember using them fondly, although not on FB.

Also, I think that the majority of 14-15-16 year olds know exactly what they are writing, if they want ambiguity they will use it.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 28/08/2011 21:36

Always just snogging in my day!

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 28/08/2011 21:38

It always meant snogging here.

livetolaugh · 28/08/2011 22:02

I'm 34 and "pulling" was shagging and "got off with" was snogging. I'm pretty sure it's still the same although in my day "sick" certainly didn't mean something was good so I may be way out.

squeakytoy · 28/08/2011 22:13

I am 42, and "pulling" or "got off with" meant kissing, maybe a bit further but didnt mean sleeping with.

redexpat · 28/08/2011 22:24

I always thought getting off with had a north/south divide on meaning. To them up north it meant shagging and to those down south it was kissing. Not sure where the dividing line was though...

MmeLindor. · 28/08/2011 22:27

Am Scottish, and to get off with someone was to snog them.

To pull just means to have attracted someone, as in "Did you see MmeLindor pulled that sexy Frenchman last night" in her dreams

mylittleponypinkypie · 28/08/2011 22:28

I think it's variable, depending on maturity/age/person/experience :)
so nice and ambiguous then
It also fills the nice gap of "it can sound like I go further than I do, but if someone says something nasty, I can say I didnt mean it that way" iyswim

Mitmoo · 29/08/2011 05:24

just means snogging to me too.

CurrySpice · 29/08/2011 06:32

I think get off with = snog

Pull = attracted, got chatted up, exchanged numbers, then snogged

ditavonteesed · 29/08/2011 06:55

yorkshire here and got off with always meant snogging to me, pulled usually meant snogging with arrangments to meet up again.

pippitysqueakity · 29/08/2011 07:09

Scottish, and always understood 'get off with' to be the initial snogging of a new boy friend, and 'bag off' just meant a one night snog. We never used 'pull' for some reason...

seeker · 29/08/2011 07:16

Just don't be their friends on Facebook - then you don't have to read the crap they write!

PerryCombover · 29/08/2011 07:20

This is what they mean though...but pull can also mean shag for us oldies I suppose

If they know what they mean though, how will they have horribly embarrassing misunderstandings?

LiegeAndLief · 29/08/2011 07:58

They both meant snogging the last time I was doing them in the late nineties

AuntieMonica · 29/08/2011 08:10

i'm still in my 20s mid 40's and 'getting off with' means having a damn fine snog and 'pulling' means chatting to and making arrangements for a further dalliance.