Very tight SIL - regifts voucher issued 9 months ago - do I say something?

[Shebeen]

My sister in law, who I have many cheap/tight stories about just gave my son a voucher for his birthday which was in August - the voucher was issued in November of 2010. I really want to say something to her - would you?

Yes.

I'd say "thank you."

And I'd take him to spend it.

If it's not out of date then I wouldn't really mind. It's like giving him money, I would not be taking her to task over this.

No - what could you say

'the present you gave my son isn't good enough' ?

Maybe she's just very organized and forward plans.

Has it expired?

It expires in 3 months - was originally good for a year - he is only 10.

I wouldn't say anything. If she'd bought an actual item (eg a toy) you'd be none the wiser, would you?

Themagnificent!! :o
OP! It's money! Would you be upset if someone gave her a £10 note for her birthday (!) and she then gave your son the same note for his?

I'm not bothered about presents though... What does it matter?

What has his age got to do with it? She may have bought a few in advance and just used it now, it's the thought that counts surely?

I should add a bit of history to put this situation in context:

a few years ago my son won a small amount of money in a raffle. My SIL was present at the draw and took his cheque - she then said she lost it and never gave him the money - we weren't able to ge the cheque reissued.

Well then, you've got 3 months to spend it. That is plenty of time.

Many people regift unwanted presents. It is very common. I bet if you liked her, this wouldn't even be an issue. Don't get yourself worked up about it. Your son has a voucher to spend. She gave it to him. It's fine.

x-post - so this is TOTALLY about your dislike of her.

Re the cheque - That's a bugger for your son. How much was the cheque for? However - if it mattered that much to you, you could have pursued it. Found out if it had been cashed, taken action if it had. You have no evidence that she did not in fact lose it, do you? You chose to not do anything about it. Let it go.

I always do this - if someone gives DD a voucher se often asks to swap it for cash and then I just gift it on to someone else.

I'm not tight by the way just extremely lazy when it comes to havng to actually get my arse in gear to go to the shops.

As long as it hasn't expired, there is nothing to get shirty about.

Incidentally - I have on occasion bought new vouchers with soon-to-expire vouchers. I also did this at Waterstones when I had two separate vouchers and wanted to buy something online. They will only accept one voucher at a time for online purchases, so I went to one of their shops and bought a £20 voucher with my two £10 vouchers.

Well, at least she got him something and you still have 3 months to redeem it!
Just make sure he gets out to spend it in time without making a fuss.

I think some very organised people do buy loads of these vouchers to give out for b'days throughout the year... Maybe she didn't know that they expired (bloody shop con).
I agree, you don't sound as if you like her that's all.

Percy! Good idea!!

How did she take his cheque?

Were you not there?

If it was made out to him it was no good to her.

Why not get it cancelled & re issued?

Just for clarity, what is it you would say to her?

I used 2 vouchers last week that were 14 months out of date ... the shop said no problem

On this YABU. He has 3 months to spend it.

On the cheque she took and 'lost' YANBU at all. Stealing money from a child is pathetic - if she genuinely lost it it was up to her to give him the cash it if you couldn't get it reissued.

Too many its

I would say thank you

Unless the voucher was from Monsoon