To think my mil has blatantly lied to me?

[Piggyleroux]

Got a parcel today from my mil. Inside were two camisole tops. I looked at the labels which said, F+F and Cherokee.

I phoned her to thank her and asked her where she got them from. She said Debenhams.

I googled F+F and Cherokee and they are Tesco brands.

I sniffed them and they smelt distinctly like charity shop clothes. I buy a lot of clothes from charity shops so i know the smell iyswim.

Why did she lie? Aibu to be a bit pissed off that she lied? She knows I buy things from charity shops and would never have a problem with it.

Hmph.

Another thing re the smell, I've found that some charity shop clothes positively waft the smell at my nose when in, umm, noseshot

Perhaps the OP didnt so much purposely sniff them as catch a whiff...?

(I'm being very pro-OP today)

Depends if they fitted or not.

If they didn't fit I think it's perfectly reasonable to say to the giver that the tops were lovely but unfortunately they were the wrong size. Could you let me know where you got them from so I can exchange them for the right size.

My MIL used to buy me a clothes a size too big. When I mentioned it she got REALLY offended! Be grateful you don't have to deal with that.

yeah but you didn't know....

at OP's total lack of manners! Can't believe anyone would think it an acceptable thing to ask a person who's got you a present.

What's wrong with just phoning up and saying "thank you, the present you got me is lovely?"

If I was this MIL I wouldn't buy the OP any more presents at all.

OP you still haven't explained why, on receiving a present, you Googled the labels? Was it so you could ask your mil where she got them from and hopefully trip her up? Very odd behaviour!

Also as "lies" go, it's hardly up there with "I did NOT have sexual relations with that woman." More of a "I did not eat the last Magnum!" (as you lick the ice cream from round your lips....)

Really weird behaviour from you to call her and ask where they were from, and then google the brands??

In future when someone gives you a gift just say thank you.

Why on earth is it bad she told you the wrong shop? Am I missing something? Tesco or Debenhams, I've never noticed a huge quality difference myself!

She didn't 'lie' FFS, she said the wrong place when she didn't have the clothes in front of her to remind her.

Piggy, you so knew that the nice pressies came from Tesco.Give it up about the so called lying and admit that you just hate MIL and want to start an arguement that will run and run.

YABU. And how.

You asked her where they came from and you didn't believe the answer?

Why didn't you a) just google first to find out if it matters b) ask her and believe her or c) stop being so ungrateful if you liked them anyway?

No! UANBU! How silly and bloody rude.

It's lovely that she sent you something, but if she knows you shop
at charity shops often i have no idea why she'd lie.

But you were stupid enough not to know where they came from??

You had to google F&F FFS so she wasn't far wrong if that was her presumption!

is it possible that the OP asked her MIL where the tops came from because she liked them and wanted to look for some more herself? I'd be a bit put out with misinformation in that case. (Just trying to see the other side).

Im thinking that these are recycled presents that MIL has had for a bit and put on the spot she struggled to think where they were from!!

Why OP would ask, I dont know, and she wasnt looking for more, she wouldnt have googled surely, she would have gone straight to the Debenhams website?

'thank you they are really sweet, where did you get them from?'
Completely reasonable

Is it normal? I was brought up to believe it was terribly bad manners.

Yes of course you would ask where they were from, it's normal 'ooh thankyou' behaviour, you know, showing an interest - i.e. what else is there to say?

'Thanks, they're lovely!' - ok response

'Thanks, they're lovely! Where did you get them? I haven't seen anything like this, ooh you are clever, you always come up with amazing things...' etc. etc. - much better response.

Poor MIL was hoist on her cheapo petard and had to turn on a sixpence. Now you could really make her squirm by saying next time you see her 'Do you know, I have searched Debenhams for this amazing 'Cherokee' brand but I simply cannot find it! Did you get it wrong - it wasn't John Lewis or perhaps Selfridges instead?'

How do you she didnt think she was actually in debenhams huh ..? Think about that .

Ment to say- how do you know.....

Ment ? I need to go to bed.

Yep that makes sense shouty. I was thinking of the bald question "where did you get them from"?

Which sounds a bit ungrateful and rude imho.

YABVU and ungrateful. She may have just forgotten about where she bought them or might have been embarrassed that she'd got them from a charity shop. I wold never phone anyone to ask them where they got something from unless it was the wrong size and I needed to change it. U certainly wouldn't google it or snuff the clothes. Why could n't you just say thank you and leave it at that.

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