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AIBU?

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To think my mil has blatantly lied to me?

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Piggyleroux · 25/08/2011 17:31

Got a parcel today from my mil. Inside were two camisole tops. I looked at the labels which said, F+F and Cherokee.

I phoned her to thank her and asked her where she got them from. She said Debenhams.

I googled F+F and Cherokee and they are Tesco brands.

I sniffed them and they smelt distinctly like charity shop clothes. I buy a lot of clothes from charity shops so i know the smell iyswim.

Why did she lie? Aibu to be a bit pissed off that she lied? She knows I buy things from charity shops and would never have a problem with it.

Hmph.

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scrambedeggs · 25/08/2011 18:38

maybe she got lots of clothes from different places, and thought thats where yours came from

ungrateful cow

Empusa · 25/08/2011 18:38

"Why did you ask her where she got them? A very odd question!"

Quite. Who does that?!

maypole1 · 25/08/2011 18:43

How very sad some gives you a gift and you google the label. To see if its designer

Shame on you my mil wouldn't give me the shit off her shoe so count your self lucky cheeky moo

Xiaoxiong · 25/08/2011 18:57

I'm sticking to my "think the best of people" strategy. I think that you found out because the conversation went like this:

OP: "Just ringing to thank you [MIL name] for sending me these lovely tops, that was really thoughtful! They are just perfect for [upcoming event] and I really appreciate it. The [colour] one is particularly nice, where is it from? I'd love to see if they have it in another colour as well."

That's how it happened, right?

::pollyanna-ish thoughts::

Xiaoxiong · 25/08/2011 18:58

(that was in reply to seeker and empusa asking why you would ask where she got them)

seeker · 25/08/2011 18:59

Tyelperion- enough with the Glad Game already!

Xiaoxiong · 25/08/2011 19:00

ShouldWeStayOrGo · 25/08/2011 19:06

I gave some baby clothes to a friend. I bought them from Peacocks as we have one locally and I am short of cash at the moment.

Anyway, on handing them over her DH checked the label and said "Oh you got it from Peacocks!" Ungrateful twat........we had also just looked after their two older DC for them to give them a break.

People are just ungrateful.

Yama · 25/08/2011 19:06

Just echoing what others have already said - I find it odd that you would ask where a present is from.

And I have had some duff presents over the years.

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Piggyleroux · 25/08/2011 19:11

The reason I'm pissed off is because she lied to me as if she thought I was totally stupid and wouldn't realise where they came from. I don't think I'm being ungrateful at all. I was peased to receive a gift, however, I don't think she should lie about where it came from.

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seeker · 25/08/2011 19:15

Why did you ask her where they came from?

magicmelons · 25/08/2011 19:16

She lied because you asked which meant you blatantly do care where they are from, most people would have just said thank you. Why do you think she lied, do you think she lied just to be deceitful?

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 25/08/2011 19:17

I dont think theres anything wrong with being annoyed that someone lied to you. Theres simply no need for it!

Plus I often ask people where they got things they own, or are wearing, and yes, sometimes even presents. Its called conversation

IslaValargeone · 25/08/2011 19:17

Maybe she was genuinely mistaken, it does happen, and regarding her thinking you wouldn't realise where they came from...well you didn't did you? You had to google apparantly. That in itself makes you sound really bloody ungrateful tbh.

Katisha · 25/08/2011 19:17

Is this symptomatic of other issues you have with your MIL, hence you being unusually sensitive over this?

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Piggyleroux · 25/08/2011 19:18

I asked her where they came from because I thought they were nice. It's a usual thing to ask is it not?

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BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 25/08/2011 19:18

(however I'm poor, its usually the tidy brands I dont recognise! I know my F&F, Cherokee, George and Atmosphere )

magicmelons · 25/08/2011 19:21

Come on you sniffed the clothes? That's not normal behaviour of someone who is over the moon at their present.

mumofsoontobelawstudent · 25/08/2011 19:21

I'd just be grateful for MIL knowing that I (and her grandchildren!) exist!

seeker · 25/08/2011 19:22

It was at most a fib- not a lie.

And have they suddenly stopped being nice now you know they are Tesco not Dwbenhams?

upahill · 25/08/2011 19:23

Yeah but you haven't said WHY you asked her and WHY You had to google and WHY it matters where she got them from.

I think you caught her on the hop and she was a little bit embarrassed.

I do think you should have just said thank you and been made up with the gift if you liked it

IslaValargeone · 25/08/2011 19:24

Why did you feel you had to check up on her and google the labels? and then sniff them? I'm thinking there is much more to this relationship than shenanigans over a whiffy cami.

upahill · 25/08/2011 19:24

Sorry x posted but I think MIL is getting a hard time here to be honest.

HipHopOpotomus · 25/08/2011 19:27

I would care about being lied to by a family member. My worry is if she would so easily lie about something do unimportant, does she ever tell the truth?

But I do think it odd you wld ask where she got the clothes from, google brands etc. Surely everyone knows they are supermarket brands

didldidi · 25/08/2011 19:27

"The reason I'm pissed off is because she lied to me as if she thought I was totally stupid and wouldn't realise where they came from"
then she would be right - you didn't know and had to google it!

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