To be genuinely confused at what some people use FB for?

[Megatron]

I love Facebook. I lets me keep in touch really easily with my family up north and in Canada, Australia and Hong Kong and I LOVE that. It can also be a great way or making arrangements etc etc.

But I just do NOT get some of the status updates I see. Today a friend has posted a photograph of an apple pie and there are 56 comments underneath it. 56. All saying 'yummy' or 'that looks nice' and 'lush'. I was assuming that it would be one of those conversations that merged into something completely different but no it was all about that pie. Why would a bunch of women in their 40s (or any age) do this?

Actually I know IABU as it's got bugger all to do with me I just can't be doing with these random photos of pies, shoes or glasses of wine that seem to appear all too often. I'll go now.....

hide the people who talk pie. Mmmmm pie....

YANBU - the ones I can't stand are the constant status updates about every day inocuous (sp) things like "having my breakfast" or "looking for my car keys". The worse ones are where you have couples who are obviously in the same room together sending messages to each other like "am in the pub with my lovely wife" who then replies going "yeh babes - love you" - very cringey!!

'Just put thw washing out '

'Taking dog for walk '

YANBU - FB is great for keeping in touch with long distance friends / relatives but some of the crap I see is cgringeworthy.

I also worry for some of the younger generation when its time for them to seek a job and employer asks to see their facebook account espcially if its Government dept etc . I dont think they realise what damage FB can do .

Don't do Facebook for this very reason. Why don't they just rename it 'Bragbook', 'Borebook' or 'Twatbook'.

Boasting. Some love to boast about their PFB doing an amazing shaped poo or similar rubbish and others love to show off a pie they've made. It's all just a way of showing off that you's never do in real life, or at least I'd hope you wouldn't.

O god facebook drivelings make me so annoyed. You literally could not do a spoof of a facebook page. I use it as a glorified email address book but lots of my 'friends' use it to boast about their inane activities. The worst ones are " oh look little Johnny (age 2) has just solved his first quadratic equation". or "How can I tell my hubby I love him so so so so much". And people have so little to do they give them a thumbs up. I was determined I was going to put 'Boak' as a comment after each one of their inane self-aggrandising outpourings but chickened out.

I love FB! But, I have a locked down account, only people who I actually wish to speak to are on it and I'm careful what I say. I mostly use it to upload pics of DS so that my family in Denmark can see them and keep in topuch with school friends.

FB has done some good deeds though. Just recently it was the quickness and ease of FB and other chat sites that got the stolen Japspeed Subaru found and returned before it could be completely stripped down.

Topuch? I mean touch!

These threads always make go and look in Facebook to see who is bring a twat today

Though my friends list on fb is small, dp is nowhere near as selective so his is much more fun for sitting there saying 'you nob' at the screen.

YABU
It's just smalltalk.
Do you not do smalltalk?
It's harmless and friendly. I agree often dull also.
And maybe a bit of pretending.
I think everyone is on facebook now just because they don't want to miss something. Like going out every night when you're 19.

Search me.

My dsis who is 16 years younger than me has 400+ friends. The other day she put something on her wall about an ongoing health problem that she'd had loads of tests for turning out not to be serious after all (so you'd have thought big and important good news for her and something her genuine friends would have been pleased to hear) - and she only got about 15 comments back!

If I were her I'd feel really injured that the other 300+ "friends" couldn't be arsed to comment.

So ... yes, what is the point of it?

I love small talk, that's what conversation is all about half the time. But I don't think these kind of comments are ANY kind of talk! .

Having said that, the cryptic updates are worse ie ' X thinks that some people are so selfish . . . .' roughly translated as ' someone has pissed on my chips and I want everyone to come and ask me about it'.

Bibbity - because they're not 'friends' at all. I have no idea how some people seem to amass so many of these 'friends'. I did a bit purge once because I couldn't help but think that the 50 or do people I 'dumped' would never be interested in my life nor me of theirs!

I remember a story in the press about a woman who had committed suicide shortly after posting a cry for help on FB. NOT ONE of her 3000 (yes, 3000! friends could be asked to help her, in fact I think the only comments she got were scathing ones telling her to stop seeking attention.

sorry - arsed not asked.

Megatron - I completely agree with you on that. OH has a few freinds like this who post every damn day something like "Why do I bother?!?" or "Fine! Talk about me! See if I care!" then never bother elaborating despite comments asking if they are ok.

I post pictures of cakes I've baked. Because I am a MASSIVE SHOW OFF.

YABU Noone is forcing you to read the posts. Nobody is making you participate.

I think fb is fantastic. I live in a very remote village and fb allows me to keep in touch with friends all over the world. Sometimes we discuss serious stuff, sometimes it is nonsense. Sometimes, when you are having tough times, a bit of nonsense is very healthy escapism.

For many people just a bit of human connection is all that is needed. A suicide case was mentioned but I suspect there are many cases where suicide has been averted as people have been able to reach out and make a connection where they might not otherwise have been able to.

Fb is like the Christmas thread. If you don't want to read it then don't but don't moan about other people doing it if it helps them get through.

I think it has it's merits, in that people can keep in touch with family and friends they don't live close too.

However my pet hate is when people put their life story on their status. Or pointed messages to their OH when they've had a row. Really personal stuff which makes you cringe! And while I'm on my soapbox, people who change their relationship status every few days. I hide them all!

Rant over.

The ones that really annoy me are those that just put "" or "shit day" or something utterly cryptic - cue several messages of "are you ok?" "what's up?" and NO FUCKING RESPONSE.

IF you are sad and what some support then the least you can do is bloody well tell people who have bothered their arse to ask you what the fucking problem is, because if you don't, next time half of them won't bloody bother asking again!

I mostly use it to stay in touch with friends and family in the UK; but it's also a useful free communication tool with local friends.

Agree with thumbwitch, one person I know has today put a face on, another ffs....., I'm asking neither what's wrong as they do it often, and when people ask, they never reply. I actually phoned a friend once when I saw something like that to see if she was okay, she was fine, just missed her dh who was away for the weekend.

Otherwise I like it, as it's an easy way for me to keep in touch and share photos with my family who live quite far away.

I did a status once saying "When will someone recognise my worth?" just for a laugh. And loads of people responded and I felt too embarrassed to tell them that I was just pissing about.

The End

this site is the best for FB nonsense

Meryl - 'everyone' is not on Facebook.

Have never looked at it and really don't feel I am missing out on anything except a load of drivel .