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AIBU to do a 'Am I pregnant thread?' in AIBU???

95 replies

BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 18:22

Situation is, Have two ds (2.5 & 1.5). Dp and I were just using condoms up until i decided to go back on pill last month. I took one pill then as i started antibiotics and pill wouldnt work anyway i stopped taking it so oonly took one pill...a few days after a get a 'period' (breakthrough bleed - had only had real period a week previous). so my breakthrough bleed lasts about a week and for the next two weeks after this i have blacky/brown discharge every time i wipe but not enough for pad iykwim.

so yesterday ds1 announced at the dinner table that i have a baby in my belly which i thought was odd. This morning my boobs were sore and felt really bloated so did a test and it was bfp, bit faint but defo there. ive also just done a FR and it was also BFP.

BUT...do you think I am having a mis??im thinking maybe i have lost baby and that is why line is faint??? what do i do now, do i got to gp or ring maternity hosp???

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TrillianAstra · 23/08/2011 21:55

Hope all goes well at the GP :)

didyouseewhatshedid · 23/08/2011 22:20

YABU. This is a highly tedious thread compared to the rest on the AIBU board today. Take it to health ffs.

SouthernFriedTofu · 23/08/2011 22:25

I'm sure the OP will be glad to know you find her potential pregnancy and fear of a miscarriage highly tedious.

Tedious of course because you were forced to slog through all 2 pages of it? OOh wait no, it said in the title AIBU to do a pregnancy thread...so you could have easily ignored it.

BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 22:26

Im sorry didyousee if you think me wondering if Im having a miscarriage or not tedious. I put it here for traffic. I have it on Pregnancy and Ive had ONE reply. FFS

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BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 22:27

Thanks Southern Grin

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MoominsAreScary · 23/08/2011 22:50

If you find it so tedious piss off and don't read it,

What a bloody rude thing to say to someone who thinks they might be having a mc you heartless twat

Sorry everyone else for the swearing but ffs

BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 22:53

I just did another IC Blush and its really faint Sad

I only did the IC 5 hours ago and the FR about 4 hours ago, surely my HCG cant drop that much in this length of time?? I want to fall asleep so morning comes quicker but i cant!!

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SouthernFriedTofu · 23/08/2011 22:58

I personally wouldn't read too much in to it for now. It takes 24 hrs for hcg to double so you might just have another faint line (don't try and see if it is more faint iyswim). Take another test first thing tomorrow with mornign wee.

Good luck

Tiredmumno1 · 23/08/2011 22:59

Ffs what is up with some people.

Op you post whatever you want, whenever you want, where you damn well please.

Good luck

BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 23:03

The BFPs were faint in comparison t the control line but n doubt they were there. This one you have to tilt to see Sad I think its a mis Sad

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BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 23:03

oh and thanks tired mum Grin

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NotCallingHimNigel · 23/08/2011 23:04

Different tests have different amounts of dye in them.. your urine may have been more diluted depending on what you've eaten and drunk today.. some people excrete HCG at different levels depending on the time of day - so many variables!

Really the only way to tell if you're looking at line darkness is over the course of several days and with the same brand too. Plenty of times I've had dark-light-dark :)

Good luck!

Tiredmumno1 · 23/08/2011 23:06

No probs boysrus, there are some bossy boots on here sometimes that like to feel superior.

Send me a pm.

SouthernFriedTofu · 23/08/2011 23:06

Please boys try and relax (not easy I know) lay down have a glass of wine hot chocolate... and then sleep. Thats the best thing you can do right now. Stressing won't help you.

BoysRusxxx · 23/08/2011 23:07

Ok thanks, I have had three cups of tea this evening and dont think I has much before tests earlier Grin

Right ill update you all in the morning :)

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SouthernFriedTofu · 23/08/2011 23:07

Nigel is spot on btw

AuntiePickleBottom · 23/08/2011 23:10

get a digi test and it will either say pregnant or not pregnant.

MoominsAreScary · 23/08/2011 23:11

Go to gp and ask them for blood tests

IgnoringTheChildren · 23/08/2011 23:20

I don't think that the pregnancy tests are really accurate enough to compare reliably from today to tomorrow (and definitely not over the course of a day), although if there is a massive increase in hCG you might see a darker line. The only way to be sure what's going on is to get referred to an early pregnancy unit by your GP or midwife (I had a similar situation and phoned my midwife from my previous pregnancy and she referred me - much faster than trying to see my GP!)

However even this won't necessarily help - EPUs will only see you if you think you are 6 weeks (from last period) along or more as scans done earlier than this tend to be inconclusive (6 weeks is the time that a heart beat will be visible in most, but not all, embryos). If you are less than 6 weeks along they will ask you to wait it out.

From what you say it your OP it sounds like you are probably in the more early stages of pregnancy (hence very faint line) and so (unless you experience any pain or discomfort) the "sensible" thing to do is wait a few days and then do another test to see if you have a darker line (although in your shoes I would probably do a test tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day...) If you do get the darker line then definitely get your GP to refer you to the EPU for a dating scan in a couple of weeks.

If you think there is any chance that you could be further along or if you experience any pain (don't wish to worry you but if you aren't familiar with the symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy then look them up - I had a friend with very similar symptoms to yours, except that she didn't know she was pregnant until she was in A&E a few weeks later with an ectopic rupture Sad) then you should get a referral to an EPU ASAP.

On the whole does bleeding = a miscarriage front, maybe and maybe not. I experienced bleeding when I thought I was 8 weeks pregnant, then scan wasn't conclusive as they couldn't see anything despite my hCG levels being quite high and I went on to miscarry (as in, without giving TMI, it was clear that the pregnancy had failed) a few days later.

In my next pregnancy I had virtually identical symptoms at around 6 weeks and so didn't hold out much hope, however the scan showed a viable embryo with a heart beat! I continued to bleed (including bright red blood with cramping) for just over two weeks and had a very hard time staying positive, despite having a second scan at 8 weeks showing everything was fine. Well it did work out and DS2 is now nearly 9 months old. Grin I still have no idea what caused the bleeding as there was nothing obvious on either of the early scans.

I spent a lot of time online trying to figure out my chances both times but the irritating thing is that ultimately you just have to wait and see... Hope that things work out well for you and that you don't have to wait too long to find out.

PS Don't bother with digital tests - they're a waste of money (and resources)and they're actually less sensitive than supermarket cheapo ones for early pregnancy. Hmm

IgnoringTheChildren · 23/08/2011 23:21

Sorry that was massively long!

Sidge · 23/08/2011 23:25

Evening urine is more dilute, so you may not get a darkening line on a pregnancy test.

The darkness of the line is not a reliable indicator of how pregnant you are, or whether you might be miscarrying. Different brands of tests use different types and 'strengths' of dye in their tests.

It would be inappropriate to attend A&E as someone suggested. Not all A&E depts have obstetric scanners, and if an early pregnancy a vaginal ultrasound may be needed which the dept may not have access to. It would be better to be referred to an EPAC (Early Pregnancy Assessment Clinic) by your GP where a thorough assessment can be made, with sequential B-HCG testing if necessary.

There are only a few, rarely used, types of antibiotics that can affect the pill absorption and effectiveness so current advice is that additional precautions are not needed. However if you didn't take your pill properly and had an unnoticed condom failure then pregnancy is a real possibility.

I hope it all works out for you Smile

BoysRusxxx · 24/08/2011 06:55

I did FR just now and although it is BFP, it is lighter then yesterday, should I go to gp or just let nature take is course? Im not in pain and spotting has stopped

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LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 24/08/2011 07:28

Morning op. Sorry you ate going through all this.

Ime the cheapy tests were very accurate, and a line is a line no matter how faint has been right!

By the time I knew it was a mc and not a period it was too late for me. The epu couldn't do anything other than advise me to see gp. Blood tests from the gp will take quite a few days to come back and will just say what your level is at that time sonnet much help IMO.

That said there is no reason you can't go and get some advice/reassurance.

Have you told dh? Can the dc go out for the day? Friends/granny?

Time really is the only way to tell, but what you've described is not unusual for a healthy pg. Ime mc was very much like a period and not as you describe.

I'll keep my fingers crossed.

BoysRusxxx · 24/08/2011 07:32

Thank you. I had a MC a good few years and it was nothing like this. It was clots and very much like a period. The FR this morning is fainter than yesterday but defo there.

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Gonzo33 · 24/08/2011 08:06

BoysRusxxx if it is any consolation, I went to the GP when I was in your situation they took blood tests a week apart which showed that my HCG level was increasing as it should be and then sent me for a scan a week later. I was only 6 weeks when I thought I was 8, so I had to go again 2 weeks later, but my baby's heart was beating so it did reassure me. That "baby" is now 18mths and a right little minx so don't lose heart.