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To want to stick his twunting hairdryer up his bottom?

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ChocolateTeacup · 23/08/2011 16:57

I apologise if the title offends.

I have a (not so D)H who is working very hard at the moment, Leaving the house around 10am back around 10pm

Last night I was feeling very drained from a tough day with the boys aged 3 & 4 as they had been whiny and clingy, I had earlier gone out to the site to deliver donuts and drinks to him and his friends who are working together on a big project. Came home made dinner, put his in the microwave ready for him and sent a message saying I was going to bed. He replied ok

Then he comes in storms in the bedroom ( I was asleep) going why the hell are you in bed?? where am I supposed to get dry after my shower (rather than dry himself with a towel, he spends around an hour with a hairdryer blasting him whilst he fiddles on his phone) I respond, I was asleep it is one room of the house, use a different one, he grabs the laptop slams the door storms off, comes back and says oh I suppose I will have to sort my dinner as well, i say yes its in the microwave

Shower goes on

Then off

Screw you its my damn house and if I want to relax in my bedroom I will.

At this point I move onto the sofa, not wanting to provoke a big row, figuring fine he is just stressed.

So he gets dry (hairdryer turned full whack) turns the hall light on wakes up the eldest boy, who is happy to see him and he him, bangs and crashes about getting his own dinner. We haven't spoken since.

We have been married 7 years and I still hate the noise of the stupid hairdryer, WIBU to respond to any further rubbish with its insertation? There is another hairdryer that lives in the study, so its not as if I was suggesting he didn't use the stupid thing

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ChocolateTeacup · 23/08/2011 18:06

His usual routine is up at 8:30 shower for 15 mins, gets dry until 9:45 then shaves and teeth then warns his clothes as he puts them on then leaves,he doesn't deviate and you can almost set a watch from him if he isn't working he can be there up to an hour and half when he gets home he has same 15minute shower then gets dry - I cook dinner in this time aiming to dish up after an hour normally but he is working late so I have been eating with boys this last week

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picnicbasketcase · 23/08/2011 18:09

I was so distracted by the drying with a hairdryer that I forgot the rest of the post - it is massively unreasonable of him to stomp about because he couldn't have the hairdryer - it's all very well to have a preference (although it isn't in this case, but still...), but if it's not available he should, as an adult, be able to cope with towel drying rather than disturb you. That's worrying, if he must it do things a certain way and would rather act like a twonk towards you than just alter things slightly.

RogerMelly · 23/08/2011 18:09

can't he help you get the children ready within that time?

do you think he might be a bit aspie? sorry it just sounds a bit odd that he does all this and it has to be just so. Does he have a very technical job?

(I thought the phone thing was sexually suspect, not a euphenism)

2BoysTooLoud · 23/08/2011 18:11

He does sound a little obsessive..

[Hi Roger.. nice to see you!].

summertimeblews · 23/08/2011 18:12

i think i would leave any bastard who owned a hairdryer

let alone dried themselves with it

stealthsquiggle · 23/08/2011 18:12

This man has serious issues.

Sounds like you need to set some non-negotiable boundaries to this ludicrous behaviour, and stick to them.

Or remove the fuses from the hairdryers and let him go airdryer "cold turkey"

RogerMelly · 23/08/2011 18:13

what, even if it was one of those duck hairdryers? Wink

[hello 2boys]

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ChocolateTeacup · 23/08/2011 18:13

He is very obsessive, its just his way though, everything has to be just so, and he grumps if it isn't

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SeymoreButts · 23/08/2011 18:14

An hour? You should get one of those swimming pool hairdryers that times out. Or better yet, needs a 20p.

I've just remembered when our boiler broke in the middle of winter and I used a hairdryer to keep warm. Blush

I've heard that advice wonderinghead, but make sure it's on a low heat.

2BoysTooLoud · 23/08/2011 18:16

My dh gets obsessive about things.
I'm not going to mention hairdrying himself in case he thinks it's a good idea!
[Electric bill obsession would hopefully put him off].

MoominsAreScary · 23/08/2011 18:20

Lost for words

OTheHugeRaveningWolef · 23/08/2011 18:23

Your DH is very weird. My DP is very wolef-y and hairy and takes ages to dry. But even he doesn't use a hairdryer.

That said, I did ask him about whether men in the gym changing rooms use the hairdryers on their chests and elsewhere and he said yes, it's very common Shock

TarquinGyrfalcon · 23/08/2011 18:34

ChocolateTeacup - I know it was a typo but I have been weeping with laughter at 'warns his clothes'

I have visions of him brandishing the hairdryer at them like a gun and treatening them

TarquinGyrfalcon · 23/08/2011 18:35

threatening them

shinyblackgrape · 23/08/2011 18:39

I'm crying with laughter.........Grin

On a more serious note, do you know that you can get hairdryer stands?

www.google.co.uk/products/catalog?hl=en&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&biw=1280&bih=619&wrapid=tlif131412107112710&q=hair+dryer+stands&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=shop&cid=8523973735059184417&sa=X&ei=duVTTqj1H43D8QP6-vX0BQ&ved=0CFQQ8wIwAQ#

That might leave two hands free for the phone? [Helpful emoticon]

shinyblackgrape · 23/08/2011 18:43

Does he dry the kitten on your profile page too?!

DontGoCurly · 23/08/2011 18:44

He would get a boot up his arse from me OP.

He is BANG out of order.

IreneHeron · 23/08/2011 18:49

Sod the hairdryer thing, it is the idea that he can stomp about waking you up and taking his foul mood out on you. I'd have gone downstairs, taken the meal out of the microwave and mashed it over his freshly blow dried body hair. He's acting like a prize arse. Total meal strike until he grovels.

landrover · 23/08/2011 18:51

Im sorry, i would take the fuse out of the hairdryer till he got used to being without! Apart from being wierd IT IS DANGEROUS and not a good example to show the kids at all!!!

lachesis · 23/08/2011 18:54

'Because when you are a teenager and in love, the rose glasses let stuff through that as a rational adult you wouldn't put up with'

Nope, even as a teen, I'd have been even more weirded out and dumped.

HuntForGalaxyHazelnut · 23/08/2011 18:55

OP Earlier you said that his family "just accept it as one of his ways" what other insane unusual things does he do?

I agree with previous posters, get rid of the hairdryers and force him to go cold turkey. Waking up you and the children just because he can't hair dryer himself in his 'usual' room is really not acceptable.

summertimeblews · 23/08/2011 18:57

Nope, even as a teen, I'd have been even more weirded out and dumped.

or at least laugh at him and say why are you being such a knob

i dont do pandering :)

diddl · 23/08/2011 19:01

Christ, I left a bloke when I discovered that he owned a hairdryer.

And that was as a teenager.

lachesis · 23/08/2011 19:03

YY, I'd have run out the room squealing with laughter then told everyone I know. Fucking weirdo. When I was 17, I once went out with this guy who seemed normal. Despite being of Irish decent, complete with very Irish name, blue eyes, frost white skin. Then one night, in his car, he told me his greatest wish was that he wanted to be Chinese. And he was serious.

Time to dump.

GreenEyesandHam · 23/08/2011 19:05

A 15 minute shower and an hour with the hairdryer every morning? Christ, he may as well stock up on tasty polar bear steaks whilst he's at it Grin

But yes, that was a very disrespectful way to behave towards you and your DC

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