Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

help please...to not let my 6yr old have his cheescake??urgent answers please as he rather upset and stormed off to his room

115 replies

prettypinkchristmastree · 21/08/2011 19:05

Just had our yummy sunday roast. Toffee cheescake for puddin and squirty cream.. I set all the cheescakes out and get the squirty cream out start squirting and nothing ....Now this has happened on 3 other occasions when none of us have had any and my son who has a tendency to help himself to food out of the fridge (which am trying to stop by putting him in time out) has been the previous culprit. i obviously blamed him and said right you are not having it now and out it in the fridge. Now i suppose it could have been my other 3 dc daughter 9 (never bothers helping self without asking) or 3 year old twins but they wouldnt be able to squeeze out. it my son who is typically doing theses sorts of things. He not upset now just came down got his teddy in his pyjamas. I said you still not having it he said ."i know" so am i being unreasonable or have i done the right thing???????

OP posts:
Doyouthinktheysaurus · 21/08/2011 19:17

I am with Beertrickspotter, I would have caved in too.

If I knew one of my children was stealing food I would have stopped buying that item though or moved it out of reach.

Squirty cream is revolting anyway, he did you all a favourGrin

ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin · 21/08/2011 19:18

'Very frustrating to have your pudding taken away from under your nose. '

Exactly. Make the consequence one that matters to him and is as immediate as possible.

Sharney · 21/08/2011 19:18

Stick to your guns! I was watching an episode of Strictest Parents and the most frequent comment from all the teens was "They didn't cave, they wouldn't give in" it made me realise this "I'll let you off this time but next time you'll really be sorry" business is futile. You've said it so now you've got to follow through.

Original poster
prettypinkchristmastree · 21/08/2011 19:19

oh and fifitrixibelle smith thanks how helpful your point is. How delightful you sound...and activate exactly. Thank you. Was just seeing if other mums agree with me but there always has to someone nasty doesnt there lol. Five your right there he couldnt have gobbled it if it hadnt been whipped lol. xx

OP posts:
pointydog · 21/08/2011 19:20

I'm not being soft. I'd've come up with a tougher consequence. Paying for squirty cream from his pocket money. Doing the dishes.

ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin · 21/08/2011 19:21

Eating his cheesecake is tastier, and he can see it disappearing in front of his eyes.

Andrewofgg · 21/08/2011 19:23

Getting older is not generally much fun, but it's threads like this which make me glad that DS is now adult.

Good luck, OP, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't!

cakeoholic · 21/08/2011 19:28

I think you are absolutely right, he has on four occasions eaten the cream meaning no one else can have any, so I think a fair punishment is he gets nothing of what everyone else is having. Secondly, he will have had more than his quota of sugar and fat from eating all the cream so should not have more in the form of the cheesecake. Thirdly once you have said he is getting no cheesecake you cannot go back on it, it will teach him you don't mean what you say which will undermine everything you say in future.

Original poster
prettypinkchristmastree · 21/08/2011 19:29

Well he has admitted it and sid sorry and gave me a big hug. (think he tryin to butter me up bless him) lol. he happy now watching top gear (typical man) thanks for all your advice. I will not buy squirty cream again will buy fresh until the food thief is reprimanded. he he. its just i lazy thb and find it easier....I dont know whether to eat it later (obviously not in front of him) then it will be forgotten about by tommorrow hopefully or let him have it tomorrow. Think i will js get rid of it then it done with then.x

OP posts:
Rowena8482 · 21/08/2011 19:32

Squirty cream can evaporate and just vanish on its own though - honest! I had a stash bought in a moment of nudge nudge wink wink madness by DH and I on the ONE shopping trip sans kids we've had since they were born of Bailey's squirty chocolate cream stuff, it was out one Xmas, and we sort of never got the urge opportunity to eat ha ha fnar fnar it, and one day I decided to just eat actually eat it, and broke the seal, upended it over gob, pressed ponker and nothing! empty can, all gone. I phoned the little "helpline" number for distressed choccy deprived saddos on the side of the tin, and got a very nice ie she didn't laugh at me lady who told me all about it, and it evaporates after a pretty short time :(

pointydog · 21/08/2011 19:33

Also, there's something about squirty cream. Kids can't resist it. And it's a swizz cause there's hardly any in a can. It's all air.

LadyOfTheManor · 21/08/2011 19:34

Beertricks, I wish you were my mum!

pointydog · 21/08/2011 19:34

I bought some last year for hot chocolate and it lasted no time. I did wonder exactly what was happening to it, rowena

BeerTricksPotter · 21/08/2011 19:36

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Rowena8482 · 21/08/2011 19:37

I'd seen it vanish after squirting sometimes, but it never occurred to me it would vanish while it was still in the can too - just one more shattered illusion along the Journey of Life ;)

CheerfulYank · 21/08/2011 19:37

Good for you. I'd have done the same.

LadyOfTheManor · 21/08/2011 19:38

Yes I think so...that way I still win...the look of disappointment will fade...the cake will be firmly in my tummy where it ought to be Grin yum.

BeerTricksPotter · 21/08/2011 19:39

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LadyOfTheManor · 21/08/2011 19:40

I don't like cream FWIW.

Grin s'all about the cake (despite the fact am pregnant and craving it like mad atm-have restricted myself to one whole birthday cake and nothing else).

thisisyesterday · 21/08/2011 19:42

actually, i think you were unreasonable.

you punished him even though you didn';t know he had done it (i know you know now! but you didn't then)

you're punishing him for eating food by putting him in time out?!?!?

and you don't let him have pudding just because he ate something else?

I think you are going to have a child with some weird food issues if you keep using them as punishment, and punishing him for eating stuff.

you are also unreasonable for using squirty cream at all, but that's a whole other thread Wink

ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin · 21/08/2011 19:44

TIY, you are talking nonsense and tomfoolery.
It takes a lot more to put a boy off his food, and other people's.
Believe me, DS is 16, DD is 20 and neither have eating disorders.
They do understand the meaning of rules, hands off and no, however.

squeakytoy · 21/08/2011 19:48

yesterday, I would say not allowing him to have the cheesecake is a perfect punishment for stealing food from the fridge. He is old enough to know he shouldnt be doing it, and it will not cause him food issues at all.

Original poster
prettypinkchristmastree · 21/08/2011 19:48

Ha ha. I dont think anything will ever put my boy off his food this is yest. Ever!! loves it. I am in danger of being eaten out of house and home here..x

OP posts:
thisisyesterday · 21/08/2011 19:49

well lucky them. I didn't realise having 2 children made you an expert and meant that you could proclaim that your way is the "right" way because both of yours turned out ok

I have 3 kids. I guess that makes me more of an expert than you?

Mine also know the meaning of no, and the rules we have around food. Strangely I've never felt the need to punish them by placing them in time out just because they ate something.

thisisyesterday · 21/08/2011 19:52

see I don't get this whole "stealing" food thing

he isn't a thief. it's HIS house as well.
ok, he was greedy. and I understand that some people like kids to ask permission before they eat anything.... but really... stealing??

have you never started something and it was so yummy you wanted to eat it all even though you knew you were supposed to share? add to that poor impulse control of a child and it's easy to see how it happened.

I just don't happen to agree that harsh punishments, taking food away and accusing someone without any proof are actually going to help long-term or are in fact a suitable way to deal with it

you can disagree. that's fine. but I am allowed my opinion without being told I am talking nonsense

Swipe left for the next trending thread