to think it's not acceptable to use this term? (warning: contains horrible word and also reference to Facebook)

[TidyDancer]

"Watching Big Brother, just to see what flids have gone in" is the status update of someone I know on Facebook.

Has that horrid word somehow recently become okay? I'm not one to regulate the vocabulary of another, but come on! I'm clinging to the fact that she may not know what it means, but that's almost as bad in itself. Is disablist language somehow acceptable where racist language isn't?

Lola
I don't understand what you are asking me

A common word/insult when i was at school in the 70s.

Most unpleasant.

You can only hope that people grow up and out of it and teach their children differently.

horrible word.

often people are unaware of the actual meaning of words.

I like to know what I'm saying.

OP, I'd drop the person a message on FB asking what she means by "flids" then I'd suggest advising where the word originates from.

I was wondering what debate your sister wants to have about race? I can't imagine what the debate would be. I wasn't having a go at you.

Fair enough Lola.

But given that my post makes it clear that she is a thick racist twat I am not sure why you think I am any better placed to understand the working of her mind than me.

• than you .

She annoys me so much I can't post coherently

I was just responding to a comment you made about your sister, so I directed it at you. I know you said she was a racist twat... Think of it as thought it were said in conversation. Anyway.

I think we are talking at cross purposes Lola

I have put on here what she posted. It was roughly...
' it is so stupid, you can't have a reasoned debate about race. When I was growing up there was a phrase 'call a spade a spade' you couldn't say that now with the pc brigade...blah blah blah'

I have no idea what she is on about. But the irony of her using the phrase ' reasoned debate' whilst posting incoherent garbage struck me.

But what the fuck she is on about. Who knows.

I would have presumed that was some kind of iphone typo. NO idea what it means.

I heard this word used regularly as a child and it never seemed to bother anyone. I only recently discovered its meaning from Mumsnet. Now I know, I think its abhorrent and will definitely correct my children if I hear them use it. Not that they will. I haven't heard it used in years and years. Anyway my point is not everyone knows what it means and may be copying their friends. I'd tell them why they shouldn't use it the first time and kick ass anytime after that.

It's now encouraged to be "baa baa wooly sheep", some connect the use of 'black' to the slave trade, it's disputed, though.

I don't think that some people make the connections between what they say and how they think. I have family who are very disability aware and accepting yet use these words and i cannot get them to do otherwise.

Fabby (also for any other people who do not understand the 'problem' with usage of language), take the time to read 'disability hate crime', the 'stand by me' campaign and others on the Mencap site (scope also join the campaigns), they explain it well.

www.mencap.org.uk/

See thats the problem with the internet, you can "chat" properly.

But what the fuck she is on about. Who knows.

was the answer I expected

I'd imagine that she doesn't know what the origin of the word is.

I think a lot of words are generational anyway - I've never heard the 'r' word used to describe a person in the way that people older than myself may have.

The same way as my mum would be horrified if someone described someone as a cunt to her, I wouldn't notice it.

Same as 'monging out' - I've only heard it used to describe that minging feeling of being hungover and not leaving the house. Never heard a person with SN being describe as a mong.

To get back to the OP, perhaps a message, not on her wall but privately, to tell her what it means and give her the chance to remove her status would be appropriate here.

can't chat

I only found out the meaning of the word a few weeks ago. That said, I probably haven't heard it since 1981.

And as a kid I thought mong was short for mongrel not mongol.

Too true.
Also I haven't spoken to her via internet or in real life for a year and will hopefully never ever speak to her again in my life. I only see her bilge because she posts to my siblings and I see it.
So I can't ask her 'WTF are you on about?'

My mum and dad are in their 70s and still say "darkies" every now and then - which I pull them up on.

ok. I see what it means now, but if i'd had to guess i would have said fucking idiots fuckids fids... (and the l for something I hadn't thought of).

Hide her Pagwatch. One of my own cousins spouted such nonsense, well rather it was the frequency of his updates, that I "hid" him.

I also hid a lot of people who kept posting Farmville/Mafia Wars updates.

I delete.

I had a friend of a friend complain she wasn't getting the council house she wanted the ones on offer were a 20 minute drive... and apparenlty it was because all these people who had just arrived were getting them .

Because all the houses in a 20 minute radius of her were for some reason in her mind first offered to immigrants why those in particular I wanted to know

You can block farmville mafia wars etc so you don't have to actually hide friends.