to think it's not acceptable to use this term? (warning: contains horrible word and also reference to Facebook)

[TidyDancer]

"Watching Big Brother, just to see what flids have gone in" is the status update of someone I know on Facebook.

Has that horrid word somehow recently become okay? I'm not one to regulate the vocabulary of another, but come on! I'm clinging to the fact that she may not know what it means, but that's almost as bad in itself. Is disablist language somehow acceptable where racist language isn't?

tell them what it means and then dump them
wankers

2shoes. no chance for an oops and a backtrack?
I like to give people the chance to extract their foot from their mouth.

nah
come one people who use words like that are wankers, full stop

My DH always used to say 'oh Joey Deacon' if someone said/did something stupid - until I told him who Joey Deacon was, he stopped straight away! Maybe she doesn't realise what it means?

I don't think ignorance is much of an excuse. If someone uses a word I haven't come across before then I Google to find out the meaning. I've heard young people use 'spaz' as an insult, too - doesn't make it right. It needs people to be brave enough to speak out to the users and point out that they're making themselves look ignorant.

ps I'm old enough to have known several people who had black dogs called N*gger

oh yay we now have a thread full of disgusting terms
pass me the sick bucket

Is "having a fliddy" derived from the same place? Because I use this phrase to mean "losing emotional control" but will stop if it has disablist connotations.

you asked, so I think you know the answer

Oh ffs would you listen to yourselves?! Just ignore it if you don't like it, or if you feel very strongly about it you could delete the friend

yes please ignore disablist comments.
on the other hand, tell the person to grown up and bog off

Ignore or delete?
What's wrong with telling her?

surely you do both, she learns that she is horrid, and you get rid easy

Oh dear, Duck. Having a bad night?

I will say something. I won't be horrible, I will just ask if she knows what it means.

2shoes, I did put the warning in the thread title.

A lot of kids use these terms cos they hear them and use them without understanding. But for teachers to teach them the meanings simply raises awareness and leads to more widespread usage. Correction has to come from home.

Had never seen/ heard the term before, and a relation was affected by Thalidomide.
I was born before 1960.

YANBU. I have recently "unfriended" someone on Facebook as I got fed up reading his staus updates about him "monging out" and that he had been dealing with "mongs" at work. Some people are just ignorant.

I know you did TidyDancer not having a pop at you, just these threads always end up the same.... fed up with trying to "educate" (as mn hq insist) it is boring trying to explain why stuff like this hurts.

Seriously, political correctness gone mad, it's bad enough the racist stuff not being able to call anything black.

I had never heard of the word til I read the other thread on here, so maybe she doesn't know what it means? So what does moron actually mean then?

FabbyChic please tell me you are joking

You think this is political correctness gone mad, Fabby?! Really?!

Fabby, sometimes you are quite nice and intelligent on threads and then other times you come out with an absolute load of shite, why?!

What cant you call black Fabby?

I mean in the real world not in the one imagined by the Daily Mail?

at Fabby