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to think it's not acceptable to use this term? (warning: contains horrible word and also reference to Facebook)

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TidyDancer · 20/08/2011 19:34

"Watching Big Brother, just to see what flids have gone in" is the status update of someone I know on Facebook.

Has that horrid word somehow recently become okay? I'm not one to regulate the vocabulary of another, but come on! I'm clinging to the fact that she may not know what it means, but that's almost as bad in itself. Is disablist language somehow acceptable where racist language isn't?

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Melly20MummyToPoppy · 20/08/2011 22:05

Baa baa black shep is now baa baa rainbow sheep, so I've heard. Hmm

Melly20MummyToPoppy · 20/08/2011 22:05

Sheep

ravenAK · 20/08/2011 22:06

I'm wearing a black skirt & I have a black cat sitting on my lap. & I've just finished chatting to a colleague online. She is black.

seriously, FabbyChic, wt actual f?

I'm 40 btw, & didn't hear the word 'flid' until my early 20s. I used to have a boss who used 'flid attack' to describe getting in a panic on a busy shift. Charming...

thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/08/2011 22:08

Not where I work it isnt.

And black bin bags, blackboards and black crayons are all still legal.

I have lived and worked in three of the most 'loonist' of 'loony left' boroughs in London during the times when PC had supposedly gorn the the most maaaad and those things never happened.

They are made up. If people are dim enough to think they are real and then tell everyone else they are real so a lot of dim people believe them to be real - whose fault is that?

Panzee · 20/08/2011 22:09

Only when we're learning about colours, Melly.

EricNorthmansMistressOfPotions · 20/08/2011 22:27

Alwaysbeopalfruits - never heard 'having a fliddy' but I'd guess yes, it's probably pretty offensive so best if you don't use it again.

FabbyChic inhabits a world which runs parallel but about 3ft to the right of the world the rest of us live in - I ignore her for the most part...she's incurable.

Melly20MummyToPoppy · 20/08/2011 22:32

Really? Oh that's ok then :o

LolaRennt · 21/08/2011 00:06

Seriously, political correctness gone mad, it's bad enough the racist stuff not being able to call anything black.

FabbyChic Just shhhhhh now ok. Have a little lie down and when you wake up tomorrow realise it was all a crazy dream and that nothing you read in the SUN is true. You're a grown up ffs

Graciescotland · 21/08/2011 15:28

In Fabby's defence I remember the PC moment in high school (am 31 now) when the blackboard became the chalkboard for fear of offending "coloured" people because they wanted to be called black

LolaRennt · 21/08/2011 15:57

Did they actually say that was why? Although one anecdote from one person on this thread about something that happend 15 years ago certainly doesn't make it standard. Everyone I know calls it a blackboard (even when its green or a marker board)

PinotsKittens · 21/08/2011 16:01

OP, write a message explaining it then if she ignores it, she's a bigot and you would be right to delete her.

Pagwatch · 21/08/2011 16:06

My sister posted on facebook the other day about how the world has gone crazy and 'we' are not allowed to use the phrase 'call a spade a spade' anymore.
She said it whilst bemoaning the fact that it is impossible to have a reasoned debate about race.

But she is deeply stupid and a bit of a cunt

PinotsKittens · 21/08/2011 16:07

Paggy is she a cu or a nt ?

cheesesarnie · 21/08/2011 16:09

i hadnt heard it until reading this thread.horrid.
ask her if she knows what it means,if she does then shes an idiot.if she doesnt,shes learnt something and could try to make it right.

busybee1983 · 21/08/2011 16:10

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Pagwatch · 21/08/2011 16:11
Grin

You are right. She isn't a bit of one. She is an utter whole one.

Christ, it is just embarrassing. She and my brother whitter away about immigrants neatly ignoring the fact that...er...our parents were imigrants. But we are white so I guess that doesn't count.

PinotsKittens · 21/08/2011 16:15

It's so-called casual racism, Pag. I bet if you asked her if she was a racist she'd be aghast and deny it. I have extended family like that too.

InTheNightKitchen · 21/08/2011 16:17

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Nagoo · 21/08/2011 16:20

Moron (psychology), disused term for a person with a mental age between 8 and 12, and a common insult for a person considered stupid (or just a generic insult)

rogersmellyonthetelly · 21/08/2011 16:29

I can say hand on heart at 36, I had no idea this is where the word comes from. I assumed it was an abbreviation on flipping your lid, having a bit of a moment if you see what I mean. I have only heard it used in that context, someone having a flid rather than being one. Knowing now what it actually means I find it a very unpleasant word.

busybee1983 · 22/08/2011 09:00

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ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin · 22/08/2011 09:02

'Is it normal to have MN threads whip you up into typing frenzy like this?!'

There are certain topics on MN that tend to attract robust responses from several different sides, yes. Smile

Whatmeworry · 22/08/2011 09:11

Beware semantic shift - what may have been a terrible word for one generation may mean nothing much to the next (and vice versa). If she's 23 I'd suspect that is what is happening.

busybee1983 · 22/08/2011 12:25

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LolaRennt · 22/08/2011 15:37

She said it whilst bemoaning the fact that it is impossible to have a reasoned debate about race.

pagwatch what's to debate? Confused

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