To Think Stupid Woman Lovely Man

[Mitmoo]

Driving home this evening son ASD/OCD, mum heart disease disabled, and the tyre goes as flat as a pancake. I was on a country road so I pull into a village and park up in a safe place. Village idiot (woman) says "your car smells like it is burning"

"I have a flat" I reply.

"So you do" she says. Then says "can you move your car it's on the road outside my house". No drive, just a road, no yellow lines, nothing, but my car had the audacity to come to a halt outside her house.

I asked not in a nasty tone but more one of bewilderment if she is joking, she then looks embarrassed.

Another man from the same village came out and me being a dumb ass woman and ashamed to admit I can't change a tyre on MN, changed it for me then didn't want the £20 I was trying to give him for helping. He did take it as we were so grateful. Having him helping helped keep my son calm, and made sure we all got home in one piece.

He was absolutely lovely, happy to help, a true gent. I haven't had help with my car since I was a size 10 and wearing skirts that my Mum called pelmets.

Son is very shaken, doesn''t cope well with things out of the norm but if it wasn't for the lovely man he'd be in a terrible state now.

But we're home (obviously) am I being unreasonable to think the woman was a silly moo to ask me to move my broken down gilloppy when it had a flat and the man was a true gent and happy to help me, my Mum and son on our way?

Depends on whether you define "offended" as feeling personally wounded by something or recognising that something is offensive to others.

I do not have a child with a learning disability and so the OP's use of the term did not offend me personally, not as such. However, I find it offensive because I am aware of its provenance and the fact that it is, as described by other posters, still used as an insult that causes hurt to people with disabilities and their families. I also find the OP's ranting rude and offensive.

You don't have to be personally offended in order to call someone on offensive conduct or language. If people only trouble themselves to challenge comments that are specifically aimed at them personally then we will be living in a real "I'm all right Jack" world.

Ive missed something big haven't I? I was reading this and at first it does seem a bit band wagony-just being honest-but i am gathering there is a lot more to the story.
I have seen lots of terms used to describe people who have pissed people off and i guess any one of us could take offence depending on our own experiences,thats all

Well, OP, some of my gender are nice, at least sometimes, and some of yours aren't, at least sometimes!

Glad it turned out well.

ledkr I can assure you I am not jumping on a bandwagon
if I see people making flippant nasty disablist posts I will pull them on it, sadly some like the op assume they are then being attacked, when in fact they should just accept and move on.
perhaps as I have a severely disabled child I am just shocked at a parent of a child with sn using this term and suggesting anyone who argues with her is attacking her child!!!!!!!!

Ah now i see

I have reported this thread, I have a feeling that the op is not what she seems, and we are told to report rather than accuse pople of trolling making stuff up

2shoes In no way did i mean to cause anyone any offence,i have been off a few days and did not see any of her previous posts.

no offence taken here

I have read a few of OP's threads and I don't think that she is a troll but a couple of her stories are very one sided and she is very defensive of her ( IMO ) inappropriate responses to people :(

Is she fairly new? Im sure she's been around a while but then what do i know?

The OP posts some daft threads however I do think she will get flak now whatever she posts. As for are the criticism that she posts about every dull detail of her life, that is how Mumsnet works.

OP namechange and accept that sometimes you are being unreasonable, especially when you post on AIBU.

i'm having great difficulty understanding how this even warrants a thread.

car gets a flat, man helps, OP goes home, thinks " today as a bit more eventful than ordinary, glad we got sorted", sticks the kettle on and checks through the post.

how on earth it made the leap from a thought to a 6 page thread is beyond me.

people are attention seeking odd.

But people post threads about none events all the time, I know I do.

i know, i post on those aswell that i think they are non-events. there is currently one about a non-humiliating handbag search.

was the poster posting that It was UR she did not get a full on frisk

she satarted an abortion thread too which kicked off.....knows what riles MNers doesnt she!

Mitmoo you're presenting yourself as a spoilt flouncy madam. YABU on several levels. No one, I repeat no one, is attacking your child having SN. Having a tantrum and telling people they're 'sick' for (relatively) politely pointing out your use of a term that is offensive means that very few people will take your posts 'seriously' IYSWIM. Having a bit of grace and stepping down from using said offensive term might mean people are a tad more sympathetic towards your situations.

Mama...... I wondered this too.

TLES?