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to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 15:35

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on. Grin

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DogsBestFriend · 16/08/2011 18:11

We could ALL post asking why NM allows the use of "retard2 and "spaz" and why it pulls threads which challenge this behaviour.

ALL of us.

All at the same time.

Synchronised watches and all that, plan it here by pm and take 'em by surprise...

yoshiLunk · 16/08/2011 18:11

ahem

DogsBestFriend · 16/08/2011 18:12

Justine et al in MNHQ... you're loving this, aren't you?! :o

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:15

You do realise I am actually neglecting my children now dont you?

I must go and bath them and stuff.

But I am gripped...

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ChristinedePizan · 16/08/2011 18:16

Agree with all that DBF. Can we add in that the colourscheme, enthusiasm for txtspk and tickers really don't help in terms of getting them (or their members) seriously.

I am a member but have never posted. I just like to lurk ;)

thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:16

Its in settings or profile or sumfink. You will have to have a fiddle about.

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:18

How did you get fuck and shit past the mods? I am WELL impressed blud.

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:18

See been on NMs too long and and now coming over all 'street'

innit

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NorfolkNChance · 16/08/2011 18:19

I have skills innit

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DogsBestFriend · 16/08/2011 18:20

Another NM thread bites the dusk. Just as Ellie and I were having fun too!

On a serious note I do hope that the poster Alison's poor attacked cat is okay. :(

thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:20

You have bear skills though.

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HopeEternal · 16/08/2011 18:21

Oh, my. How hysterically funny!

Rock on, ladies!

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:21

I hope so too DBF. Poor cat Sad

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HopeEternal · 16/08/2011 18:21

DBF, I did like your "I'm usually a d b f" comment!

NorfolkNChance · 16/08/2011 18:22

It didn't last long :(

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