to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on.

The Mods of NM are probably reading this to see what we're up to. If so, I'd like them to know this:

1. MN isn't for everyone BUT it is more successful. And Justine's therefore probably richer than you. Certainly MN is taken FAR more seriously in the public/political/media arenas than Netmums.

Why? Because we are treated like adults, possibly. Maybe because MN attracts a more literate audience. Quite possibly because 99% of us don't tolerate casual disablism and we are quite willing and able to self-moderate PLUS the moderation of MN is pretty much spot on, a light touch as a rule but with no tolerance of abusive language. Swearwords yes. I can say your website is cuntish. I can't say that YOU are a cunt. That approach seems to work very well, overall.

You're failing a huge sector of society by allowing terms like "retard" and "spaz". Not just the disabled sector but the intelligent, normal-thinking one too. That's why there's a dearth of intellegent members on NM and that's why you are lacking in success and professional creditability.

1. Whether you like my opinions or not - and judging on how rapidly MrsDV's thread on your site was pulled when I compared NM to MN unfavourably - there's fuck all you can do about it because you can't moderate and pull threads which challenge your small minded behaviour here.

You are SO being watched Glackley

BTW

Netmums approves of the use of Mong as an insult

Now Stevie H has tried the more subtle approach

X post.

Bwoy we iz all well fas tonite innit?

I'll try again:

"2. Whether you like my opinions or not - and judging on how rapidly MrsDV's thread on your site was pulled when I compared NM to MN unfavourably I take it that you don't like my opinions - there's fuck all you can do about it because you can't moderate and pull threads which challenge your small minded behaviour here."

Netmums seems popular.

I'll give it a shot :)

You go Mrs DV

Happy to join mass posting protest.

Important question, how's Carrott?

he is fine thank you. I bought him a new multi mirror and he spends a great deal of time making love to himself.

In a nice way not in a budgie porn sort of way.

I used to read a site that replaced the word cunt with badger, so Scunthorpe would appear as Sbadgerthorpe.

Can we try posting everything sort of like this, so it doesn't
Upset the
Netmums mods, yet it gets the point across effectively?
Thinking about it, they're probably reading this thread,
So probably not.

And Stranded's threads gone!

I love the function on NMs that allows you to see all the lurkers at the bottom

You can hide your own name which is fab too.

You can always tell a thread with a ruck going on by the amount of sharks swimming around at the bottom .

Jeez they are quick on the draw.

New thread, It's gone, was just going to post

Darnit!! I was just composing a nice comprehensive update explaining what a twat the mod was and it went !

If they are I direct them to my post above, at 17.53!

where does one post? is it Coffee House?

Coffee house - yes.

You have to be bloody quick though.