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to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 15:35

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on. Grin

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StrandedBear · 18/08/2011 09:48

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TimeForMeIsFree · 18/08/2011 09:50
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Thumbwitch · 18/08/2011 09:55

Thank you infestation - no, she wasn't a troll, just a very troubled and unlucky person whose troubles started to irritate some other people so she felt she had to leave. Anyway. Bygones.

Do people really prefer NM? Is that because you can turn all the tickers off and that? It gives me eye ache! That thread was ver' funny though - I was enjoying playing "spot the MNer". Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/08/2011 10:04

points out again she is not fanj O :)

Glackley · 18/08/2011 10:36

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rockinhippy · 18/08/2011 10:50

Just clicked the link & signed in - somebody needs to sack there web designer - even as a layman I know you don't use those colours together on a web page - 2 seconds on there & I feel a migraine coming on Hmm

rockinhippy · 18/08/2011 10:50

their - doh!!

carminagoesprimal · 18/08/2011 11:21

I don't think people take themselves so seriously on NetMums - there isn't so much - 'look at me, yes me, > I'm so important only my opinion mattes - & I have a bloody degree you know!'

It's a bit more laid back over there.

rockinhippy · 18/08/2011 11:24

^I don't think people take themselves so seriously on NetMums - there isn't so much - 'look at me, yes me, > I'm so important only my opinion mattes - & I have a bloody degree you know!'

It's a bit more laid back over there^

Using the kind of prejudice redneck language mentioned above, is NOT more laid back it is highly offensive to any decent member of society & illegal to boot Hmm

carminagoesprimal · 18/08/2011 11:31

yeah yeah - whatever...

nickelbabe · 18/08/2011 13:45

I've got to get a ticker.

InfestationofLannisters · 18/08/2011 14:12

I can't see any tickers on either my or DD's laptop. DH must have put some sort of hun-repellent software on... the colours and backgrounds are vile though.

I've had a scoot around NM and have something to credit it with Smile

It isn't as bad as Babyworld.

I asked to be de-registered yesterday but apparently they have no record of my email address. I wonder if that means I can post what I like but they can't ban me?

porcamiseria · 18/08/2011 14:16

LOL at carmina

people DO take themselves seriopusly on here, its funny

passme a toke

InfestationofLannisters · 18/08/2011 14:20

Another one porcamiseria? Shock

It is definitely my turn.

Thumbwitch · 18/08/2011 14:35

PMSL at "hun-repellent", Infestation! Grin

HedleyLamarr · 18/08/2011 15:22

I've just read that picnic thread over there. To all of you who took part, thank you. Now I need to know how it went. GrinGrinGrin

Verahaspurpletwuntypants · 18/08/2011 15:40

Picnic thread?

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 18/08/2011 15:50

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/general-coffeehouse-chat-514/coffee-lounge-18/623761-would-i-seem-snobbish-rude.html This picnic thread]]

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 18/08/2011 15:51

I'll try that again. This picnic thread

Verahaspurpletwuntypants · 18/08/2011 17:03

Picnic in the lady garden -

TimeForMeIsFree · 18/08/2011 17:11
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backwardpossom · 18/08/2011 17:38

Is this still going?

Fantastic Grin

HedleyLamarr · 18/08/2011 18:41

You can tell who the MNers are by what they're posting. It's Vince Hilaireious.

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 18/08/2011 18:49

I dregged from MN for a bit and lurked on NM. Whilst originally disturbed by the hunnyness and lack of intellectual rigour, I do think they have a nice line in supportiveness, especially the use of peer-counsellors.

Which is not to say there's a lack of supportiveness here

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 18/08/2011 18:50

de-regged

although dregged is strangely appropriate

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