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to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 15:35

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on. Grin

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seeksnewnamewithgsoh · 17/08/2011 21:06

Another one picking up from this morning/last night. Wow, what a result.

I love that you're quoting their own rules and winning Smug. Grin

seeksnewnamewithgsoh · 17/08/2011 21:08

I would LOVE to know what mnhq are thinking of all this

smugtandemfeeder · 17/08/2011 21:09

DH "what are you doing"
Smug "Im arguing with someone on NMs"
DH "What about"
Smug "someone on NM just called me a slut"
DH "Why"
Smug "because I told someone on NM they had broken the rules of NM
DH "Why?"
Smug" because someone on NM has told me to get off NM and Fuck off back to MN."
DH scratches head

Grin
HopeEternal · 17/08/2011 21:16

I really wish I could follow all this but you can't view that section of NM unless you sign up. I can't bring myself to do that.

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:19

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insanityscatching · 17/08/2011 21:21

Seems you've got the mods onside now smug Grin Amanda just got deleted Grin

Verahaspurpletwuntypants · 17/08/2011 21:24

What did amanda say?

WannaBeMarryPoppins · 17/08/2011 21:25

I just saw the slut comment.

maryz, wasn't there someone called JO too? I think it was her who said as long as people with special needs don't know words are abusive and mean you can use them..

insanityscatching · 17/08/2011 21:25

Or maybe not Sad but your post is still there on Rachels post Confused

JsOtherHalf · 17/08/2011 21:26

DH has been asking me for updates tonight. (He is ironing in living room :D )

MagdaMagyarMadam · 17/08/2011 21:28

Careful WannaBe, Grin there are two Jo's posting - Jo J is on here Wink - the other Jo was posting the hateful stuff.

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:29

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youarekidding · 17/08/2011 21:29

I just read the thread in Mods bit asking why the original thread was deleted. Did PMSL when it mentioned half of MN was watching. Grin

WannaBeMarryPoppins · 17/08/2011 21:30

Ohoh Shock, I could get into trouble i guess, haha

I didn't recall her last name, I just remember telling her yesterday that just because some people don't know it's offensive doesn't make it not offensive. She annoyed the hell out of me.

StrandedBear · 17/08/2011 21:30

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WannaBeMarryPoppins · 17/08/2011 21:31

Yes Mary, that Jo seemed quite thick, and I loved how someone told her so.

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:31

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youarekidding · 17/08/2011 21:32

need new links please. I never use NM now couldn't ever work it out and found MN by google error and stayed Grin

rockinhippy · 17/08/2011 21:33

MrsDV & everyone else thats been over there Grin

I'm just so Shock they can get away with things like that in this day & age Shock- I've been on there, but only on my local section & that was to use the notice board on advice of someone on here - now I know why I didn't bother to look further - sound like a bunch of rednecked moronsAngry

If it were me, I would be looking at there sponsors & advertisers & passing on the allowed abusive, racist & anti disability posts/thread by way of complaint to them for supporting such a foul & un PC site - Wink

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:34

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MagdaMagyarMadam · 17/08/2011 21:35

I have 60 after my NM moniker - I don't really understand what this relates to. I wonder if NM allows name changes as I am not liking the close proximity to that other Jo!

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:36

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insanityscatching · 17/08/2011 21:37

here slut is going on the censored list.

BornSicky · 17/08/2011 21:38

i read the NM rules earlier, one huge scrolly long page of Donts!

it's like flipping fight club in there.

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:40

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