to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on.

CWWM...did ya see me ? did ya ?

< stupidly over excited >

I just got a 2 day ban .

cod one has gone already

I did AF.

Well you don't have to use your rl name either, I don't, I won't poost what it is here because they're probably watching and I'd like to stay incognito

Gone!

How can the cod one have gone? Bastards!

Gone soupdragon! Seems you managed to annoy a longstanding netmums member though...

YANBU! I used to be a member of another forum many moons ago (before I found MN) that was very heavily moderated. It got to the point were most regulars were getting bad purely because the mods didn't like them. One girl (who was banned) set up her forum and spread the word around. Most people left the original site to go over to her site (of which she is the only mod) and the original site ended up very quiet and hardly anyone visited anymore, whilst the new site just keeps on growing.

Look, it's bedtime for DS and I've forgotten what I logged into NM as years ago.

Will you slow down so I can sort it out and see some of these threads!

However, that does mean that once you are all banned I can play thread starter...

Bugger. The Cod one went just after someone called Vall said that they have a white GSD called Fish.

Ooh, who did I annoy? What did they say?

Yeah, finally got time to sit and read the thread. BRILLIANT work mrsDV you make an excellent point and make the moderator is looking more like a twunt by the minute

Soupdragon, it was Amanda. She seemed a bit put out at all the newbies posting on the thread, called it newbies corner. She didn't seem that impressed...

:o

I have had a dormant membership for several years so have reported a post which used the 'm' word - will be interesting to see the response - if any.

Which bit of Netmums was it in? I know that Coffeehouse is the chat forum section, like Talk is the forum section on the far superior Mumsnet, but which bits are the main topics within the Coffeehouse.

I'd love to go and have a nosey and see how the other half live.

I got a PM telling me it was a 2 day ban SB, I am heartbroke obviously.

newbies? I've been a member since 2007 [preen]

anyway, I am now in Time Out [Jo Frost] and sent them this

"I wholeheartedly object to the way you clamp down on any sort of discussion regarding the use of offensive terms for disabled people.

Please explain to me why swear words and racially abusive terms are unacceptable on your site but it is perfectly fine to use hugely offensive terms such as spaz, mong and retard.

Do you have any idea how offensive those phrases are? Do you care that you are allowing insults to persist which should be jumped on and erased from polite society? Once upon a time, the word nigger was an acceptable term. Quite rightly, this is no longer true. Insulting terms regarding the disabled should follow it.

No one with any ounce of sense thinks these terms are anything other than offensive. Any one who does needs to be educated. This is something you need to address on your boards if you wish them to be inclusive of all."

at this - vile! www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/general-coffeehouse-chat-514/news-current-affairs-topical-discussion-12/622995-greedy-refugees-when-will-stop.html

someone please search for all uses of offensive terms and report each one [pleading]

I was going to but can't.