to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on.

[shrug] I simply registered as Mrs Huffa Horse.

i just registered on NM to see what was going on, but I keep missing the threads - I was just about to post that I had a really nice biscuit in Scunthorpe, just to see whether it got **d out, and it was gone!

They may ban me before I've posted if they realise I put 'mumsnet' as my password....

I've just noticed that the charitable schools for severely bullied children, Red Balloon Learner Centre, are followers of NM... so I've tweeted them and asked them to take NM to task about their continued tolerance of disablist language upon the NM forums.

"They may ban me before I've posted if they realise I put 'mumsnet' as my password..."

:o :o @ Rusty

Just seen a thread on there that was advocating flicking a 4 year old's nose if it was mean to the cat! WTF?!?

I love animals, but that just struck me as rather odd!

I give it 5 minutes, max

it was too late by the time I registered using my real name

if I'd known I'd have registered in the name of Mrs AnyFrother

Ohhh they have let my cockerel thread go on!

It's all the newbs that are causing the mods to hover over the delete.

But this malarky does distract from MrsDV serious point about NM being moderated by someone who is disablist. I know who should be banned and it ain't MrsDV.

Lmfao. They are evil over there. I got absolutely slated for a few of my posts/comments.
Last one was something about water pistols in a nursery school and they said I should keep dc out of nursery that day. It wasn't even my post. I made one comment saying I didn't agree and they all jumped on me.
Have just about recovered.

You are right Mrs DV - they SHOULD take their members' concerns seriously. I've reported posts that I thought were racist, and libellous posts on a thread about Joanna Yeates. NM took no action whatsoever. But god forbid you should use the word 'shit'.

IMO the very least they should do is allow a free and frank discussion about disablist language and, if they don't agree, give us a properly argued explanation/ justification for their stance. WTF is wrong with them?

You can't call someone a bitch, but you can call them a mong? That just about sums NM up for me.

the "cockerel from Scunthorpe" thread is still there

I am lurking at the bottom

this is fun !

It's gone now am waiting for my banned email.

where is the cockerel from scunthorpe one?

Do the posters in the NM special needs section know what their forum moderators think about offensive terminology for the disabled??

Vanished corn, They deleted me.

corny...think it's gone now

Im on there too. Never been on the chat bit before, normally just use the noticeboard. It looks lame.

Cornsilx, it's now gone...

The thread I started about name calling went instantly but the one asking why debate is not allowed lasted