to be concerned that DP leaves baby in the car when getting DS from the nursery?

[confusedstepmum]

5-10 mins ish in and out, car is in a car park and not at risk of people just walking by apart from other nursery parents, mostly she's asleep (and I think if she's awake he takes her in..)

I DONT LIKE IT! AIBU?

YANBU. Not worth the very small risk, imo.

iloveroses - but what about the risk of carrying the baby across the car park? What if that is a bigger risk than leaving the baby in the car?

I have left my own sleeping children in similar situations - the thing I most fear is them waking and getting worried, or somebody interfering in a well meaning way. I wouldn't leave them out of sight for longer than a couple of minutes.
However, I would not leave a child that I was minding for someone else, it is against child safeguarding.

If the baby was asleep or it was tipping down I would do it. It's a risk maybe but a small and calculated one.

rubyrubyruby, what's the consensus on paying for fuel? Me and the rest of my pfb nct friends were discussing it and were split on what to do...

yanbu i wuld not do it either TBH

I never got my Children out when paying for fuel because I calculated the risk of 'me or one of them getting knocked down/ tripping and injuring ourselves while crossing the forecourt was greater than the risk of anything happening to them in a locked stationary car which I could see at all times. I think it's one of those things noone will ever agree on because there is no right or wrong. And people can change depending on circumstances eg my sister never left her dc1 as a baby, she would get her out even to pay for petrol. By the time she was on dc3 she would leave all 3 in the car- she figured that it was more risky to get all 3 out, and if she just took the baby, the other two were more likely to get upset and agitated

Can I ask op how often you do the nursery stop off? If you donut all the time and baby in that is one thing, but if you have only done it 2 or 3 times it is unreasonable of you to judge! I never did it, but it was a real struggle to carry heavy baby carrier with baby and manage bags, toddler, artwork especially in very narrow corridors when squeezing past other people.

When I was young, women routinely left their babies outside shops in prams, pushchairs etc. Sometimes they were taken, usually by other women with mental health problems. You don't hear of that happening much now, do you? Nor do you see babies left outside shops. Just saying, like.

It really wouldn't worry me. I am of the opinion that opportunistic baby abduction from a locked car within a 10 minute window is vanishingly rare, and as other posters point out, think of all the accidents that could happen if DH takes the baby with him (although all are pretty rare too imo, but less rare than baby-rustling.)

YANBU at all, and I'm really surprised that most people here are saying YABU. What about the car being stolen? That happened to my old next door neighbour. Once the thieves realised there was a baby in the back they abandoned the car (luckily on the next street) but I think it's crazy to leave a sleeping baby in a car personally.

I do this, as do several other mums at DD1's playschool. The carpark is well out of sight of the road though - round the back of the building, and the car is in sight for most of the time I am away from it. My worry has always been DD2 waking up and getting distressed rather than anything happening to her though. I wouldn't do it with a child over about 12 months though.

I wouldn't do it. The car thief scenario for one, and also, for a disturbed person desperately wanting a baby, a car park near a day nursery might be a magnet IYSWIM.

I definitely wouldn't do it - and I'm pretty certain DP wouldn't even contemplate it. If someone did take the child you'd never ever forgive yourself.

read this

and this

try this

and this...

how about a car fire?

convinced yet? another fire

YABU

The baby could choke. You're not being unreasonable.

How many thousands of parents do this on a daily basis with no problem at all. It is pointless trawling up one or two instances where something has happened. Houses burn down at night - should you put the kids in the garden to sleep?

I always did this - used to lock the car.

Do people get funny about leaving your child in the car at petrol stations? I never take mine out whilst i'm paying.

Ginger - what exactly is the baby going to choke on? Do you take turns watching the baby through the night.

This kind of scaremongering is stupid.

Henwelly - only in MNland