to be really angry at being called stuck up for going private?

[kiki22]

I've just found out a girl i work has being calling me a stuck up cow for going for a private scan and i think i'm better than most as NHS scans are not good enough for me... I'm so annoyed about it! I'm thinking about saying something to her as i think she is totally out of order.

I went for a private gender scan and am planning on another about 30+ weeks to get it in 3D, I feel it's well worth the money you have much more time to see everything, see it on a big screen, can have family with you and the machines are much better than our hospital we even got a dvd for the rest of the family which everyone has loved! This treat was for my 25th birthday the next will be a joint xmas pressie to each other i don't think thats stuck up at all just personal choice and the fact we have the money as we don't drink or go out much. Part of me thinks it's jealousy

Would you say something?

Why should she not tell people at work about her scan?!?!

All the girls at my work brought in their scan photos.

Everyone I know had private scans-its a hardly a big deal they aren't even that expensive so don't see what her problem is. She cleary has big ishoos.

fabby saying she is having a 3d scan or a gender scan is the same as saying she is going private, going private for a scan is really not a big deal- the Op wasn't bragging!

• and before anyone assumes, everyone I know had private scans and we're all minumum wage earners

She sounds like an insecure envious person. I wouldn't be bothered by what her opinion is, it seems a bit warped. Either talk to her, or ignore her. Depends on whether you think talking would make a difference in how she is. Does she have any friends?

Op, don't even dignify the silly fool with any type of response. She sounds like a complete asshat.
Her comment about Mexico shows her up for the ridiculous narrow minded gobshite that she is. I'm actually embarrassed for her.
It's your money and you spend it on what you like.
She's got way too much to say for herself and one of these days she'll say it to the wrong person. Karma will sort her out.
What a dizzy eejit, honestly.
Forget her and enjoy your baby !!

Welcome to the world of motherhood... Smile and nod will be your allies over the next months and years. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Your very good friend should have told her not to be so absurd. It's unlikely to do you any good to raise it with your work colleague now, it would just look out of context and unnecessarily confrontational. Next time she calls someone else stuck up call her out on that instead tough. She's more likely to think twice about it if there's peer pressure telling her she's wrong rather than just her "victim".

Long ago at the beginning of my working life I worked in an office with someone similar. After a while I realised she just hadn't had many opportunities growing up and was a bit overwhelmed by people doing things she'd always been told she wasn't really good enough for. She was basically young and insecure. It was a bit sad really.

Try not to let her remark get to you, you know it's not true. And congratulations!

I agree with noviceoftheday-all your choices for the next 18yrs will be mulled over and criticised! Start as you mean to go on-ignore. Don't bother explaining, defending or justifying-smile and nod.

Just ignore her. She just sounds immensly jealous of anyone and everyone else who does anything even remotely better than her!

Screw what She thinks!
The other day I went for my Consultant Appointment. The Clinic was 2 hours late starting, so I sat for 2 hours with all the delightful breeders in the town, excitedly talking in their Chav language about how they were getting a bigger council flat now and how much their benefits were going to go up by. Oh lets not forget about how they have already bought x designer pram.

6 hours later I went with DH for his private appointment to get a dodgy mole removed. They couldn't be 2 further poles apart in care.
I would LOVE to go private for this birth and am going to look into it now! and I couldn't give a toss who thinks I am a stuck up. Sooner be stuck up than associating with the low life scum bringing up the next generartion of rioters.

You're all very polite... I would ask her why it's "stuck up" and watch her squirm.

Look at it like this, she is showing herself up as a very insecure, nasty and thoroughly dislikable person with her constant bitching. Everyone must think she is a real twat for the way she goes on, it's unprofessional too and she won't go far with that kind of attitude will she?! Take comfort in the fact that she is showing herself up for the arse she is as the only person she is harming is herself!

and at wormshufflers very frank post! You do know some of those rioters were from 'middle class' and 'wealthy' backgrounds too?! But I admire your frank post!

there you go..Wormshuffler is stuck up, but you, OP clearly aren't, and your colleague is an obnoxious cow!

Like many of us here who'd love to go private but can't afford to?

"Sooner be stuck up than associating with the low life scum bringing up the next generartion of rioters."

You've got a right one there, haven't you?

Unfortunately there is not a lot you can do. Treat her with the contempt she deserves.

kiki - this is not personal, the girl at work, from what you have said about her bitching about other - she just likes to have soemthing to bitch about - this week it's you, next week it will be the next person!

Ignore her, and for what its worth I think your friend is stirring - if she really cared she would have said something to the girl herself wouldnt she?

Good point, mycatoscar - think you're spot on.

Just ignore, I can't see what good will come of 'saying something'. She's very rude though, it's really none of her business and it's your choice if you prefer to pay for partly private care.

Personally I think scans as family occasions/photos/videos is a bit odd - I've never thought of them as anything other than diagnostic tools to check everything is OK - but each to their own!

I think you should twat her one! G'wan - you know you want to!

that woman has a big problem with envy.
Nothing you can do about it. People listening to her saying you are stuck up about scans think the same you thought when you heard her say someone else should not be going to Mexico on holiday but should go to Spain like everyone else.

She sounds jealous, everyone I know who's had a baby recently has had a 3 d scan, we had a gender scan at 16 weeks then another 3d scan at 28 so we could see the baby more clearly, there not that expensive.

Tell her to mind her own fucking business. Sorted!

I had a gender scan at 32 weeks because I don't like surprises and they don't give away the sex of the baby where I live. So what? It's your baby and body, your decision.