Neighbour

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for the 1st time in 16 months i asked my mum to have my DS for a few hours so i could go through the house making sure it was spotless for PILs comin to vist for the day tomorrow,my mum has DS when DH and me are at work so this was a rare day for me to spend on my own

so.. DS goes out with his nanna and DH is at work,so im in my PJs and decide to put my old stereo on in living room,we have lived in our house for 2 years and i can count on 1 hand the amount of times ive had my stereo on usually have radio on in kitchen,i picked an old CD with dance music on,got the hoover and duster out,put the stereo on loud and got on with my housework,it was 12.30pm

10 mins later hear hammering on my front door,answers door to see next door neighbour he shoutS "WILL YOU TURN THAT FUCKING MUSIC DOWN NOW !!!!! ",he then went on to lecture me about how ill he is and that he doesnt sleep well,i got upset (i cry when angry ) i told him i was sorry and i never have music on that loud normally,he them stormed off

30 mins later he knocks on door again to say sorry,i told him all he had to do was ask me nicely and i would have turned it off or down without a problem,i told him he had no right talking to me the way he did swearing at me,he said he had reached boiling point with me ? he said he cant stand it when one of his 4 kids have music on or play on there x box,i told him that wasnt my problem what his kids did

DH went round after work and went off it,the neighbour just kept banging on about how ill he is and that he sleeps thru the day coz he cant sleep on a night,DH said we are quiet people normally u have to expect a little noise of people,the neighbour reckons since we have lived next door he s made his kids keep quiet for US !! WTF we have never ever said anything to them other than "hello " then his wife got her bit in sayin as soon as DH goes out i blast music !! this is not true at all i work and go to college or im out shopping

i dont no what the point of this post was i just need to vent,i said sorry to the bloke and told him i would have more consideration in the future,he just made me feel like a 5 year old

It's fine to have music on during the day,but not loud music. There's no need for anyone else to hear it.

This thread will be divided down the middle between those who can tolerate noise from others, and those who can't.

I am not noise sensitive and don't mind overhearing music during the day, or lawn mowers, or kids shouting, DIY, dogs barking or whatever....

If any of the above was persistent for weeks, then yeah I'd complain, but otherwise no.

Live and let live. He was a knobber going round there like that! Who does he think he is?! King Me?

Please and thank you goes a long way.

I'm just struggling to understand how the throught process would work, where turning up music so load that it can be heard over the hoover seemed ok.

To most people it would be very obvious that it would be extremely intrusive to attached neighbours. Whether the man was trying to sleep, or watching TV or just sat quietly, it would be VERY annoying.

Anyway, that said, he was wrong to swear at you, he was then right to apologise, you were wrong to not accept his apology gracefully and DH was wrong to stir it all up again afterwards.

again i will say i couldnt not ! hear the music over the hoover,i did accept his apology gracefully

its the past now anyway as far as im concerned

I dont see why its a huge issue tbh, a one off episode of playing loud music in the day doesnt warrant going bananas at your neighbour in my honest opinion.

loud music can drive a saint to screaming and shouting

i know, i lived next door to a selfish cow for 5 years

maybe the poor sod was desperately trying to sleep. At least he apologised. that was decent of him

you are unreasonable OP

so it was ok for a grown man to get in my face and swear at me for having loud music on once?

It was once, not every day for years.

If he chooses to sleep in the day, that's his business, but he can't expect the world to stand still because of it.

It's good that he apologised, but it doesn't excuse how he behaved in the first place.