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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 22:38

for the 1st time in 16 months i asked my mum to have my DS for a few hours so i could go through the house making sure it was spotless for PILs comin to vist for the day tomorrow,my mum has DS when DH and me are at work so this was a rare day for me to spend on my own

so.. DS goes out with his nanna and DH is at work,so im in my PJs and decide to put my old stereo on in living room,we have lived in our house for 2 years and i can count on 1 hand the amount of times ive had my stereo on usually have radio on in kitchen,i picked an old CD with dance music on,got the hoover and duster out,put the stereo on loud and got on with my housework,it was 12.30pm

10 mins later hear hammering on my front door,answers door to see next door neighbour he shoutS "WILL YOU TURN THAT FUCKING MUSIC DOWN NOW !!!!! ",he then went on to lecture me about how ill he is and that he doesnt sleep well,i got upset (i cry when angry ) i told him i was sorry and i never have music on that loud normally,he them stormed off

30 mins later he knocks on door again to say sorry,i told him all he had to do was ask me nicely and i would have turned it off or down without a problem,i told him he had no right talking to me the way he did swearing at me,he said he had reached boiling point with me ? he said he cant stand it when one of his 4 kids have music on or play on there x box,i told him that wasnt my problem what his kids did

DH went round after work and went off it,the neighbour just kept banging on about how ill he is and that he sleeps thru the day coz he cant sleep on a night,DH said we are quiet people normally u have to expect a little noise of people,the neighbour reckons since we have lived next door he s made his kids keep quiet for US !! WTF we have never ever said anything to them other than "hello " then his wife got her bit in sayin as soon as DH goes out i blast music !! this is not true at all i work and go to college or im out shopping

i dont no what the point of this post was i just need to vent,i said sorry to the bloke and told him i would have more consideration in the future,he just made me feel like a 5 year old

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acsec · 13/08/2011 23:03

cheesespread YANBU for having music on in your own home at 12.30 in the afternoon once in a while, loud or not. If that was all my neighbours did I'd be grateful! He sounds a bit unreasonable coming round shouting at you.

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:06

fair enough point taken maybe i shouldnt have blasted the music he said sorry so did i

cant see what its got to do with been a mother like

say what u want Lachesis i can see u like lookin for an argument,im off in a min to drink my wine watch the rest of Titanic or i might blast some Trance on my ipod (with headphones )

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A1980 · 13/08/2011 23:07

YANBU for having music on in your own home at 12.30 in the afternoon once in a while, loud or not.

Ok acsec but if that's the case, would you agree it was reasonable if your nieghbours did once in a while while your children were taking naps or you were trying to sleep or relax, watch tv or listen to your own music at a reasonable volume in your own home. The music was so loud it could be heard above a hoover.

I think you should move in next to the OP and see how reasonable you found it.

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:11

why do keep goin on about the hoover ? i had the music on before i put the hoover on,

maybe i should put some Cliff Richard on 2 morra

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HelloTeapot · 13/08/2011 23:23

YABU for listening to trance music

thisisyesterday · 13/08/2011 23:25

because it's a way of ascertaining how loud, loud is...

loud enough to be heard over a hoover is pretty loud

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:26

your right teapot i do have pretty shit taste in music so im told lol

maybe thats why ive pissed the neighbours and so many people on here off

i think i need a night out thats why i lended up puttin the music on in the 1st place

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acsec · 13/08/2011 23:27

A1980 I'd happily be OP's neighbour - I'd be more than happy if my neighbours only played a bit of dance music in the middle of the day!

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:27

i had just put the hoover on when he knocked,i couldnt hear the music over the hoover

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:29

i can assure u we are no bother any other time my OH works 6 days a week,i work part time and go to college

we have had no problems before this

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worraliberty · 13/08/2011 23:32

Aww at least he apologised...it should have been left at that I think.

There's never a good time to blast music unless you live in a detached home with no-one around.

My DH likes to listen to loud music but I think it's selfish no matter what time of day it is as we live in a semi. I don't expect nextdoor to have to listen to it above their TV or at all to be honest.

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cheesespread · 13/08/2011 23:40

yeh ano i should have thought 1st i guess i was just making the most of been on my own

the way some people go on tho on here i might aswell have posted i had a naked,drug induced rave on my front lawn today AIBU ?

i will invest in some wireless headphones and dance around with my hoover

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VivaLeBeaver · 13/08/2011 23:47

Yanbu to be pissed off with your dh. If my dh did something like that I'd be furious. How embarrassing.

beatrixkitto · 14/08/2011 00:14

Lachesis - or what ever your name is. Would it be ok if the op was drilling then rather than playing music? As you share on your other posts regarding noisy neighbours, quite a different view.

beatrixkitto · 14/08/2011 00:15

Op - yanbu.

Once in 16 months on a Saturday afternoon does not an anti-social neighbour make.

lachesis · 14/08/2011 00:22

Drilling is necessary to make improvements and repairs to a property. Loud dance music is not.

pinkyp · 14/08/2011 00:25

Yanbu playing your music, but yabu making it worse perhaps you should of made it clear to dh that it had been dealt with now as it's made the situation worse and now 4 people are feeling annoyed. If you were crying in anger why say sorry? I'm glad he apologises, however I would of took the higher ground and said thank you for apologising etc rather than "you had no right...blah blah" getting everyone's back up again.

QuintessentialShadow · 14/08/2011 00:31

Yabu. You wanted to listen to music WHILE HOOVERING! How loud must it have been to have any effect through the sound of your hoovering?

And then your husband went to argue with a sick man who had even apologized?

You fucking asbos.

beatrixkitto · 14/08/2011 00:34

Ah I see......in your opinion!

Silly me I thought noise was noise!

So music at lunchtime on a Saturday is worse than drilling on a Saturday evening? Bet your neighbours saw being evicted as a blessing in disguise.

lachesis · 14/08/2011 00:41

I don't really care what that chav loser who chain smokes and drinks thinks of me, actually.

And, well, I don't own a drill at all.

It's rented, so the only work that was done in here was carried out by the landlords.

lachesis · 14/08/2011 00:42

chain smokes and drinks whilst pregnant, of course.

Laquitar · 14/08/2011 00:44

The music has to be extremely loud to hear it over the music!

Still, i was going to give you credit until i read the bit about your dh. This is my pet hate. Woman argues with someone, when dh comes home she starts crying because 'that bad person has upset her', husband goes to argue for her Hmm. If you want to argue, then argue yourself.

lachesis · 14/08/2011 00:44

'Lachesis - or what ever your name is.'

Hmm
Laquitar · 14/08/2011 00:45

over the hoover

(i have tried it)

beatrixkitto · 14/08/2011 00:53

What is rented?

Gosh thank goodness I'm detached now.