Smiling through a quiet war

[Angel786]

MiL has been 'accidentally' q nasty with back handed comments about my baby weight (am 8 stone and 5'7!) and grabs things like Muslins and toys from me when I'm looking after dd. Saw her yest for first gime after a month. Now she keeps bringing food over even tho I always cook every time they come, I have a while freezer full of her food which I don't even like and often has hair in it. Last batch is prawns which are really chewy. She got v defensive when dh praised my cooking yesterday and said she could never make that dish properly to which she said she could she just preferred it overcooked. Looking forward to the next fam get together when I bet she makes that dish to prove a point.

Im fairly sure she doesnt really like me, i don't like her much but pretending to get along to keep the peace. Seething inside.

AIBU to feel like it's my job to cook for my husband?

[timidviper]

Angel, I can sympathise as have had very similar from my MIL over the years. My experience has been, unfortunately, that whenever DH or I have tackled her it has caused unpleasantness with very little long term effect so killing with kindness has been the best strategy for us.

Put the food in your freezer for a while then bin it, she won't know you haven't eaten it. We even have some framed photos we keep in a drawer which only come out for visits :)

Just enjoy your own family and try not to let it get to you.