Dh want's me to take kids on hol with His family without him

[CoffeeDog]

Had a chat with DH last night and he thinks IABU

Due to go on a week long caravan hol with DH entire family next week...

MIL booked it as a 'treat' for us back in jan as we cannot afford to go this year.. she annouced last month that she her DH - her mum and dad will also be sharing the caravan with us making 6 adults and 3 kids in one caravan - with all our kids squished into the little room and me and dh on the fold out bed bit in the living room.
SIL & her DH have a caravan there and will be there with therir 7 kids - shes 7mth pregnant and isnt very mobile so MIL idea is that we entertain the kids while SIL has a break..ermmmm what about me?

DH isnt really good at speding alot of time with his own family (due to probs when he was a kid) as said last night that he thinks he will stay home and decorate for a few days while me and the kids go and have fun...... I have told him NO way i am spending a week being the glorified au par with no sleep(Dh grandad gets up at the crack of dawn and his mum with be at the bar till late )
I have said if he want the painting done i will happily stay behind on my own and paint the house whilst he takes the kids after all its HIS family and he has never had the kids on his own and just come back from a fishing trip with his dad - would be lovly to have the house to myself!

He thinks i ABU as i get on with his family better than him..???

Collie - did they make a contribution towards the cost?

(I'm guessing no)

BIL was there too 2 Bils actually , she invited 6 extra. No other DILs. Hmmmm.

I catch you tomorrow as im off to see The Easy Star All Stars. [smiley]

collie . I think your DH owes you a weekend in a spa alone somewhere and your MIL owes you a few days babysitting for inviting her guests on your holiday.

BTW that's just for starters.

A 3 bed static caravan is not big enough for 6 adults and 3 kids. Even without the ridiculous sleeping arrangements you will end up living out of suitcases, that you'll have to leave in the car.

We have a 2 bed. We had a week when dd was smaller when DSD and her friend joined us. It was cramped, very cramped. There wasn't enough wardrobe space, the bathroom was too small, we got under each others feet and it was very strained. And that was with everyone in their own bedrooms, no-one in the living room. I doubt there is even enough seating for 9. And bloody hell can you imagine trying to cook...

It's not practical, not at all and your DH is a loon if he still thinks this is a good idea.

She invited SIX extra people? How the hell could she justify that?

He wants to leave you alone with HIS family whilst he seeks refuge on his own back home? That is so out of order and selfish! I would be fuming if I were you, and would've let my partner know as soon as he mentioned it. Either you both go or neither of you do, I'm actually quite disgusted by the sheer selfishness of his suggestion.

Something so awful really should not be so compulsively entertaining.

Do update coffee-and hi DH

If HE invited 6 extra people, HE can attend the holiday! It's his fault/responsibility after all.

OH, yes the seating good point. We had a 2 bed 6 birth and had 2 adults, 3 children and a teen. Kids showered at pool after swimming as bathroom logistical nightmare, and there was a table that barely did for 6 people and sat by a corner sofa - there were no chairs provided just seating for 2 sides. e used bedroom stool and I used my outside chair. Wasn't good.

I'd consider it grounds for divorce if dh so much as suggested this. No way would be my response it sounds horrific.

Would the children be disappointed? Do they get on with their cousins?

Does the one sleeping on the floor know about this?

Agree with everyone else.

If DP ever suggested this, he would be DP no longer......

The one sleeping on the floor will be very cold and uncomfortable. I know, as my son slept on the floor between the little beds after falling out of one and not waking up - he was freezing by the morning as all the air vents are down there.

are the beds in the children's room fixed? maybe you could push them tobether and get them to all sleep sideways across them?

What am I SAYING? It's like making a sensible suggestion about what kind of packed lunch to take to hell. The main thing is to avoid going in the first place!

You've been caught up in the IL's madness, Blu!

What am I SAYING? It's like making a sensible suggestion about what kind of packed lunch to take to hell.

Just snorted pepsi at that

OP, make sure your DH sees the list of things you would do if you had a week to yourself. He'd have a heart of stone not to see what a massive treat that would be for you, and an actual holiday.

Yes, youarekidding, like saying, "Now where's the roughage in that lunch box, eh?"

Are you there OP? Has your dh admitted he is WRONG WRONG WRONG yet?

This scenario is making me think of both and

At the same time. Never thought this possible.

OP YANBU, and you DH is either insane or he thinks you have MUG written on your forehead.

I am crying with laughter at 'the caravan of despair'

How apt.

I think this DH is a secret Mumsnetter and he has died of shame