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Original poster

Aibu to be VERY pissed off with ds(12) whos just come to my room and casually told me...

126 replies

loopylou6 · 08/08/2011 16:12

I owe you a colander because I used yours to clean the bark from the lizards tank. I mean WTF? I'm gobsmacked, he's doing some unbelievable stuff recently, he's normally so well behaved. :(

OP posts:
banana87 · 08/08/2011 18:17

No, I wouldn't be pissed off. He's 12. 12 year olds do stupid things. He clearly didn't do it to be naughty, and he's going to replace it. End of.

EternalPie · 08/08/2011 18:47

I would be impressed that:

a) he cleaned the lizard tank
b) he told you what he did
c) he implied he will be getting you a new one!

My DS would definately have just rinsed it out and stuck it back in the cupboard - that's if I could get him to clean the tank in the first place!

FabbyChic · 08/08/2011 18:50

Oh get a grip draining the spuds my ass, use a saucepan lid. Ive never used a stainer for my spuds.

squeakytoy · 08/08/2011 18:54

I would hardly be pissed off or gobsmacked. I use my colander for cleaning the gravel in the fish tank... then I put it in the dishwasher.

squeakytoy · 08/08/2011 18:55

The colander.. (not the fishtank or the gravel).. in the dishwasher,,

SarahStratton · 08/08/2011 18:55

I use a colander for potatoes.

LadyBeagleEyes · 08/08/2011 18:56

I call it a seive myself. Or is it not the same thing?

JustFiveMinutesHAHAHA · 08/08/2011 19:03

Loopy - right there with you!!

My colander cost £15 there's no way I'd want one from the bloody pound shop in exchange.... makes more sense to buy the £1 for the bloody lizzards tank!

There's not a hope in hell that any amount of cleaning would allow it back into my kitchen URGH

Original poster
loopylou6 · 08/08/2011 20:26

Thanks to people who understand me Grin

And fabby, ffs, you appear to have a bad attitude, I always felt a bit uncomfortable for you seeings as you appear to get quite alot of flack, now I see why Hmm

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Flumptious · 08/08/2011 20:33

This reminded me of when my brother and I cleaned up the dog diarroheah with a wok and a spatula, stuck them in the dishwasher after a quick swill under the tap and said no more about it until we'd left home!!
We could not be persuaded to eat stir fries.

Flumptious · 08/08/2011 20:34

And oh, I think you were being a little unreasonable but you get that. Smile

Dozer · 08/08/2011 20:52

Lol flumptious! That's quite grim.

OP, yabu.

Thruaglassdarkly · 08/08/2011 20:55

Awww bless him!

dementedma · 08/08/2011 21:09

DD2 recently cleaned her horse-shit covered wellies using DS1's face cloth!

ChocolateIsAFoodGroup · 08/08/2011 21:15

Well, when I was 16 I was so dappy and clueless I left a plastic colander on top of a saucepan while I was cooking spaghetti (why???), yacked away to my friend on the phone for ages - in the adjoining room - i.e. left the colander on the stove. Room filled with smoke. I did nought. Air smelled a bit acrid. I continued to do nought. Only moved off my arse when my family came back and were quite understandably pissed off. Plastic colander melted all over the pot, stove, etc. To this day I don't understand why I was such an idiot.

OP, your son, on the other hand, sounds like an angel! I hope that all I have to complain about when my 4 year old DS is 12, is that he uses household objects inappropriately to complete his chores! Grin

MittzyTheVixen · 08/08/2011 21:31

Well, I'll have to say it pales by comparison to my 13 yr old asking me last week if I knew 8yr old DD was using the washing up sponge to clean the glass on the inside of the fish tank.

I have been trying very hard not to think about it...........

opusthepenguin · 08/08/2011 23:02

This is far too straight, nice & honest!!!

If any of mine said this, I would not sleep at night for fear of what it was they were trying to cover up by using this...

TheFrogs · 08/08/2011 23:20

A few weeks ago dd (7) announced she was going to clean the bathroom. Ok thinks I, that'll keep her occupied for a while. It looked very nice.

I went up later to clean my teeth, put the toothpaste on the brush, was just about to put it in my mouth when I see a black hair poking out of it. So of course, i'm heaving (weak stomached wuss about dirt). Thought maybe it had floated around off the dog as ds had bathed him the day before, but no, it was firmly wrapped around the bristles.

Still heaving, "dd just out of interest, what did you clean the bathroom with?".

"Your toothbrush why?".

Blurggghhhh.

MissyBrookes · 09/08/2011 12:36

Wow why would you spend £15 quid on a piece of plastic/metal with holes in?????!?!?!?!

The mind seriously boggles!

Mind you, my state of the art cheesegreater was hardly cheap.... i cringe everytime i look at it now though, spending that much on a piece of metal with holes in. I've injured myself more on that piece of crap than i have doing anything in 24 years Confused

JustFiveMinutesHAHAHA · 09/08/2011 12:45

Missy - because it's lovely :) It's the perfect colander - all shiney and the holes are the perfect size, the perfect distance apart and it sits nicely inside the mixing bowl, stands on its own in the sink, is lovely to hold... unlike a crappy 99p plastic one Grin

I am still making do with my crappy grater until I can find the grater dreams are made of :) [what is yours - need to put it on my 'do not buy' list!]

marriedinwhite · 09/08/2011 13:16

My colander was £25.00 - it was a wedding present 20 years ago - it's still perfect.

OP - can I borrow your son please - can he come and teach my dc how to look after pets. He could set up a pet feeding business.

cuteboots · 09/08/2011 13:20

He sounds like a lovely little boy and Im not sure why you are pissed off about a colander. It can be sterilised or get a new one!! YABU.

notso · 09/08/2011 13:28

Surely this kind of behaviour is what ASBO's were created for, I blame the parents.

exoticfruits · 09/08/2011 13:32

I can't see the complaint, he has taken responsibility and has said that he is replacing it. He sounds lovely to me!

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 09/08/2011 13:34

Chocolateisafoodgroup - don't be too hard on yourself. My ^Domestic Science* teacher once told the class about the time she drained the veg for dinner using a plastic colander, and then stuck it in the oven to stay warm whilst she dealt with the rest of the meal, and didn't realise what she'd done until she opened the oven to a melted mess of plastic and cabbage!!

Loopylou - I do think you need to look at the wider picture here. Yes, your son was daft to use a kitchen implement, and I would be a bit bleurghhh about the lizard poo etc that would have been strained through it - but he was doing a good thing by cleaning out his lizard, and he did come and tell you what he had done, and offer, off his own bat, to buy you a new one. He was a bit thoughtless, but then, as the mother of three boys aged 14, 16 and 18, I can tell you that thoughtlessness is characteristic of the breed, and mine have done some pretty daft things over the years.

You will look back and laugh about this - and you will get to embarrass him with it when he introduces you to his fiancee and you get to warn her about his abuse of kitchen implements!