To still wipe/check my DCs after they have done a poo?

[SuzysZoo]

Title says it all really. AIBU? They are at school but not in double figures!

I have 2 dcs with ibs. One is 4, the other is 11.

Personally I'm just grateful they've stopped pooing themselves constantly but yes, I check the 4yo's and anticipate I will be for some time if the 11yo is any indicator.

Neither have sen, thank you.

I stopped when my boy started school. Felt that he was having to go independently when he was there, so there's no point in me doing it at home. I do check him in the bath surreptitiously while I wash him over, but he's doing pretty well on his own.

My DD still gets bum wipes aged three, but I do let her do the front by herself and have a shot at the back. I just clean up whatever she misses. I cannot wait to be out of bum cleaning stage, I've been doing nappies and bum wipes for the past five and a half years... I welcome the independent stage.

Can I ask... would you think it strange to be asked by another parent if your own child (5/6yo) was toilet trained fully before a playdate.

I was mentioning this to a friend today and she said that I should ask up front before I agree to a playdate with another mum - but i would assume that a child can look after themselves if they are in school.... and yet I've been in the horrible situation of wiping other peoples' school-going children's bums.... [gag]

Would you tell a parent that their child was reeking of poo after they had come out of a bathroom - that they were incapable of toileting themselves? That you'd been called in to help (not sen) Or would you just strike them off the list as I did.. or delay anymore playdates until the children were 8, or 9!!

Sorry to hear your SDS is stinky Bonsoir. My abiding memory of teen boys is that the reeked of BO or they reeked of Lynx / their dad's oldspice / brut.

Either way pretty loathsome! Might work as a contraceptive though.. so not all bad eh?

Ugghh I wouldn't be rushing to wipe another child's bottom. Our neighbour's boy popped round with his sister the other day he is 3 and announced he was going to do a poo and I was going to wipe his bottom. I was impressed with how together his toileting was but still deposited him back at his mums, some things are best left to parents I feel.

I think so too... I was taken by surprise with my DD's 5/6 year old schoolfriend - never again!

totally unreasonable. can hardly believe you are checking /wiping bums beyond age 4 unless special needs

I wouldn't wipe another 5 year old's bum, nor would I ask at that age if they were fully toilet trained before a playdate. Thankfully it has never come up, but I can't see allowing them back again if it did (sudden illness excluded possibly).