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... to think there's a sudden tendency in AIBU...

462 replies

woollyideas · 05/08/2011 08:46

... for some people to accuse others of 'bullying' or 'attacking' when they have their views disagreed with?

I've noticed a few threads on here in the last couple of days where anyone putting across a contrary view to the OP gets accused of being mean/bullying/personally attacking. I don't like it. Aren't people allowed to disagree anymore?

More to the point, I've noticed that some of the people complaining about 'bullies' are ganging up with each other to 'tell someone off' which comes across as a bit... well... bullying.

OP posts:
wolfyideas · 06/08/2011 11:43

Just make sure the railings don't have gaps big enough for the wolves to slaver through and everything should be fine!

mum0ftw0 · 06/08/2011 12:00

yeah, well my partner has a little rat dog to consider so we'll be getting close railings for the lower half

mum0ftw0 · 06/08/2011 12:03

'slaver through' lol :D

Thruaglassdarkly · 06/08/2011 12:32

"Sudden"?...

RunAwayWife · 06/08/2011 12:35

AIBU really stands for And I Bully Users (of this section!)

Mumsnet went down hill when it started this topic Grin

mayorquimby · 06/08/2011 13:34

I think I've only been called it once. I used no abusive or insulting language. I did however continually ask a poster to justify or explain her logic and point out what I believed to be flaws in her arguments and asking her to address them. This was in an on-going debate.
Apparently asking someone to justify their opinions and quoting their posts on an anonymous board where the only purpose of our interaction was to debate a topic was bullying.
I was confused as to how debate was meant to proceed if we weren't allowed to question the oppositions arguments or dispute their logic.

Empusa · 06/08/2011 16:11

major Claiming they are being bullied seems to be standard for posters who cannot back up their claims with any form of logic. Apparently the only acceptable response is to agree with them without question.

The other thing is apparently when 90% of users agree on something, it doesn't mean that there is any truth in it, or that they've all thought about it and reached the same conclusion. What it actually means is that they've had a secret meeting and decided to gang up on someone. Hmm This is, of course, unless the "victim" actually agrees with them. Then it's totally understandable that so many people agree without having a secret meeting. Grin

PerryCombover · 06/08/2011 16:17

OP you are on mumsnet too often if you are noticing trends

Feenie · 06/08/2011 18:40

Ahhhh, PerryCombover, how do you know if it's you who's not on MN enough? Grin

YouWithTheFace · 06/08/2011 19:58

Oh dear, you bjtches, I just laughed so hard catching up the last day's worth of posts I woke the baby wolef on my lap. Ta :).

LineRunner · 06/08/2011 20:06

mayorquimby's right, though. Sometimes you just want to dig down into the OP's logic a bit, and sometimes that's ok with people and sometimes it's not.

Personally I just say sorry and move on; but there are some OPs whose though processes will forever remain a mystery to me.

CupcakesandTwunting · 06/08/2011 20:26

"I did however continually ask a poster to justify or explain her logic and point out what I believed to be flaws in her arguments and asking her to address them. This was in an on-going debate.
Apparently asking someone to justify their opinions and quoting their posts on an anonymous board where the only purpose of our interaction was to debate a topic was bullying."

That's what I did to earn the "you iz a bully" bomb being detonated on me.

TBF, I do pick apart plots in television programmes, too. I have a knack for spotting inconsistencies, like a more irritating version of that kid's sixth sense in Sixth Sense.

HighWolefsteem · 06/08/2011 20:38

It's the inconsistencies that get to me too. They nag away at me and I have to find out.

MadameLupino · 06/08/2011 20:52

I don't do any of that (too lazy). I just have a giggle on a tangent and then am usually accused of being cliquey/pack mentality/piling in with me mates. Which is silly as I clearly am just a big fan of Wolefs.

HighWolefsteem · 06/08/2011 21:13

Arrooooooooooooooooooooooooo Grin

MadameLupino · 06/08/2011 21:25

ow ow owroooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Grin

Makes me think of Meatloaf. That's never good.

frommydoor · 06/08/2011 21:45

Prats.

MadameLupino · 06/08/2011 21:52

Now then frommy, did you miss the all-important Grin there or did you come on this thread just to add a pointless personal insult to other posters? Cos, y'know, there are people on here who will call that bullying.Wink

frommydoor · 06/08/2011 22:01

Forgot nothing.

Absolute. Complete. Total. Prats.

BelleDameSansMerci · 06/08/2011 22:06

How did I miss this?

BitOfFun · 06/08/2011 22:07

Ah well, at least we are confined to this site, and not a danger to wider society.

Did you name change just to share your thoughts here, or are you new? Because MN might not suit you, if that's the case. We are fairly low-grade examples of prats around here, in the scheme of things.

BecauseImWorthIt · 06/08/2011 22:08

Who and why, frommy?

MadameLupino · 06/08/2011 22:10

Oh frommy Blush. You charmer.

PerryCombover · 06/08/2011 22:17

i like mn bullying

it is mixed with tales about camping, a new hamster and someone claiming they were never rich enough to afford to be bullied

har

GeraldineAubergine · 06/08/2011 22:29

I read some of this thread and instantly felt an air of bjitchiness and bullying. Remember wjords can wjound.

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