to hope that this man leaves his wife for someone nicer?

[FigsAndWine]

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What a horrible woman.

Not saying it doesn't matter, I don't think I could be with someone who was overweight as it's not something that I find physically attractive, however that would not vindicate me if my gf put on some weight and I took to calling her a fat disgusting gross pig as my course of action.

Also accept the point wrt misquoting, can totally accept the fact that this particular woman has been misquoted. Doesn't change the fact that many on the thread are supporting the quotes be they real or fabricated.

Of course you need to find your other half attractive Xenia. It doesn't mean you have a right to speak to them like shit if they don't lose weight.

People over eat for all sorts of reasons. I doubt that calling a partner grotesque or ugly does much to help them sort out their issues regarding food.

I think everyone in a relationship has a basic entitlement to care and respect from their partner.

So, for better or worse only counts if you stay looking your best? If you dare to put on weight, or lose it to extremes, then you're on your own Jack??? Your other half is justified in calling you names and going off you rather than supporting you and helping you through the tough times?

If marriages or relationships in general were all about physical attraction, surely the majority of us would be stuffed? We ALL change. We age. We don't look the same at 46 as we did at 16 or 26. We sure as hell don't look great at 66 or 76. Should our partners give us a telling off then? Or is there a magic age where it becomes acceptable for you to become less attractive?

This thread has made me realise just how shallow some people are!

"this man did not have issues - he just stuffed his face and didn't care about the results."

How do you know he didn't have issues, swallowed? I don't think anyone can eat themselves into morbid obesity without having some issues, really.

Yes no one should be rude although how do any of us really understand the relationships of others? It might just be their way together.

People do sometimes need reminding that if they get very fat and/or stop having sex their partner might go off with someone else.

Figs - DH is not terribly fat but has put on quite a lot of weight over the past two years. He has high cholesterol, and smokes two packs a day. So yes, it is an alarming picture overall.

I did a weight loss / training program two years ago, lost 10 kgs in three months, and started running as a result. Since cooking healthy food did not work with him, I put both our names down for the same program for next month. I will do it to support him. While he hopefully loses a bit of weight and gets relatively fit, I intend to increase my running range from 5 km to 10 km.

Yes Cote that is a pretty alarming picture. Well done for getting fit; I hope he gets involved in the fitness programme and takes some responsibility for his health. Does he accept that there's a problem?

She looks strange tbh

How many people opened this thread thinking 'I hope she's not talking about MY husband......'

I did!

I hope he writes for a national newspaper, saying he works so hard and a self made man but was stupid enough to fall for a bimbo, she was so crap at cooking that she couldn't manage to plate up a balanced diet even though she sat on her arse waiting for me to bring home the money.

She was so useless she had to have cleaners and ironers in at his expense and as a wife she was a waste of space and frigid in the sack.

I think that would be fair.

No you're wrong

she stuck by him as he piled on pounds and stones

she encouraged him to lose weight - without which he would suffer with his health and probably a premature death

fat is fat - we roll it all up in social niceties but he was hugely unhealthily obese

she did what she could as his wife

they both obviously decided to go to the dm - so they're both twats

but the concept of a spouse caring about their partner's health and obesity is acceptable

Think that she stuck with him, and nagged him to loose weight. in a horrible way, although she could have done it better

He's decision to loose weight was, in the end, his decision. One that only he could make. Irrespective of what his wife said along the way.

Good for him for loosing the weight.

She was preparing his meals activate perhaps she wanted him fat so she wouldn't be so threatened by his success in business. You certainly don't go to the media to tell them your partner is stuffing himself to death.

I realise there will have been some very nasty cutting and editting going on in that article to make her seem like a complete bitch but she will have said it even if in a more pc context.

A good marriage is based on honesty, surely?
I would want my Dh to tell me if he was struggling with finding me attractive as I would him.

Karma, you said, " People over eat for all sorts of reasons. I doubt that calling a partner grotesque or ugly does much to help them sort out their issues regarding food.". Clearly it did sort out his issues

Well honesty would point out his good points as well as his bad, millionairre, self made, managing business, providing lovely home and not just focus on his weight gain.

Which, considering they have been married for twenty years, she probably always has.

Wallis, she had been going on about his weight for a long time, to no avail. In the end he decided to lose weight, because he was ready to address the problem. I doubt if her words made him do it.

they have been married for 20 years

they obviously have a relationship and a strong one to want to go to the press together