I hate to comment on others parenting, BUT...

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

I've just seen a post on facebook saying that someone is proud that their 6 week old baby has just eaten a whole jar of puree...

Has anyone else seen examples of interesting parenting first hand that they thought were the stuff of MN myth? I honestly didnt think that people this, ahem, naive existed!

This thread is depressing - it's depressing to read about how much crap some babies and kids learn to eat through lazy parenting

The damage lasts as when these kids grow up they will
Want to drink copious amounts of coke, eat lots of chocolate and be fat...

Some things in moderation are fine but a lot of the examples on here are just depressing to read about

My issue with it is it tastes awful.

On car seats the worst I have seen is a baby rear facing seat, facing forwards in the middle back seat of the car, not even strapped in.

Thing is, we may all see stuff that we don't like, but we do not have the right to just march up tp someone and say we disagree with the way they parent.

I would never dream of attacking another parent in public, no matter if I disagree with their actions. what one person deems wrong is not the same as another deems wrong.

Not sure what the issue with tea is?
If it is decaf, very weak, and not given with meals to prevent iron absorption issues, then its a pretty healthy drink.

Lot of misinformation being talked about tooth decay. It is frequency of sugar exposure which causes cavities, whether that sugar comes from raisins, honey or fruit shoots. Whether the item has a lot or a little sugar in it is irrelevant, it is the frequency and duration of contact with the teeth which matters not the amount.Fruit sugars in fresh fruit don't count as they are within the cells and not accessible to bacteria.
Brushing teeth is important as using a fluoride toothpaste protects teeth from bacterial plaque acid attacking the enamel. So both are important. Acid erosion from fruit juice, fizzy drinks etc thins the enamel over time. So all these things are bad for your teeth too. A child that has frequent sugary snacks or drinks and doesn't brush will not have good teeth for long.

I saw a 1year old eating a sausage roll in debenhams. There were crumbs all over the floor. But I hate debenhams anyway.

Hey hardcolin has it ever crossed your mind that maybe said tot will not wear a hat (not all children will) but is infact smothered in suncream?

I've seen loads of interesting examples! Children on bottles at school age (not SEN), dummies at school age, parents smoking inside with me present. Parents not talking to or swearing at children in my presence during visits. Very early weaning. However, I have also reflected that as a first time parent dd1 did concede a small taste of choc mouse at 8 weeks ........she is still alive and still has all her unfilled teeth age 5yrs .

Yep, suncream is a hard one I'll admit that, but sunhats give shade.

Oh and coke can be actually advised for stomach upsets in small children as it is excellent in restoring osmotic balance if children aren't eating...... needs to be full fat though. So less judging??

I have a healthy intelligent 16 year old.
He's probably had everything above at sometime in his childhood.
I think the amount of advice that mums get online is not a good thing. It makes you judgy and also a bit paranoid.
Use your instincts is my motto and you can't go wrong, common sense is surely the key.
It worked for me. I'm so glad I didn'thave parenting websites, too much opposing information.

Its hard to believe mums like this exist ! I work in a nursery and one 3 yr old , when asked what he had for his breakfast said , nothing mummy was sleeping . For lunch a packet of crisps .Really?!Whats happening in the world!

Exactly regarding the coke thing. My DH was throwing up all night and was advised to drink full sugar coke. Bit dubious, but it worked. Have no idea how.

When your kids become teens they will spend their lunch money on red bull and mars bars

or fags and lager

My mum wanted to give ds a sip if wine at his birthday party

His 4th birthday party!

My brother put on fb when his DS was around 18 months that he was so tired he'd fallen asleep in the dogs bed. It was 10pm

i remember an old nursery i worked at we had a a nearly 3 month old and the mother use to send petite filous, chocolate buttons and quavers even though we did fresh dinners included in the fees, i din't get that one at all.

i personally dont give ds fizzy or high sugar drinks/sweets ect because i had very very weak teeth as a kid, my mum only gave me water and healthy stuff because my teeth came through with no enamel on and i had to have alot of teeth pulled before i was 5 i still remember the agony from just eating would dread to think what sweets would have done x

Girl I went to school with's recent FB status-

"Why is it my twins just want to eat every minute they even have baby rice in their milk and does nt help and there only just five weeks old!"

I thought putting baby rice in bottles went out years ago. I was sadly mistaken

My DD has stated that she will not be starting school in September as she hates water (only drink they are alloed to take)

From the age of 2 my mum sent me to bed every night with a bottle full of hot chocolate.

Guess whose teeth rotten away at 6?

When my daughter was little, I knew a woman at the mums and toddlers group who had a child the same age. One time we were both walking down the road at about 11.30 am. She was feeding her 9 month old baby one of those double Milky Ways (she gave her both) whilst complaining that she never ate her lunch. This woman had a PhD - it was a lasting lesson that qualifications don't make you bright.

I checked the calories later - 75 calories for each Milky Way - each was the same calorific value of a jar of baby food.

IMO it's fair to say that unless you are a conscientious parent who actively reads and seaches for info about parenting, you might make mistakes.

When you leave the hospital with the new baby you can barely carry the car seat because in your other hand will be half a tree's worth of literature about all this stuff, you then get more from the MW and HV and again at the 2 month shots. Honestly there is no excuse these days.

I think the people who are discussing children who are 2/3 just having a coke or fruitshoot are being a bit precious tbh. Likewise sweets etc. I found that not exposing dd1 before 3 to sweets means that she became far more hyper with them when we eventually allowed her to have them. DD2 has been allowed fizzy drinks on special occasions (not just that its Saturday!) and fruitshoots at soft play areas, junk food sometimes. She is perfectly healthy and eats well at home (healthily but not vast amounts) and has perfect teeth on inspection from the dentist 2 weeks ago.
The main problem is habitual junk eating/ drinking and using bottles. Falling asleep before bed with bottles and not adequately or frequently brushing teeth x2 per day at least.
Early weaning is risking bowel problems later in life and is always discouraged....... I have been known to explain to mums that they are risking bowel cancer later in the childs life etc to get the severity across to the hardcore ones Having said that mine were not 2-6 weeks biut they were about 3-4 months on a few spoons of baby rice to complement my breastfeeding. Neither have been ill frequently.

IMO it's fair to say that unless you are a conscientious parent who actively reads and seaches for info about parenting, you might make mistakes.

No, I'd say all you need is some common sense tbh.

Hmm, NickRobinsonsloveslave, when I went canooing on a seriously manky river, we were told to drink 2 cans of regular coke if we fell in. Kills all known germs dead, apparently . Maybe that's why it worked?!

I have no scientific evidence at all to back this up, so it must be true.

When my DD was about 7-8 months old, I was putting her & car seat in the car when my next door neighbour came out. He started lecturing me about how dangerous it was to just put the seat in the back without strapping it in with the seatbelt, how could I be so stupid, etc etc. I opened the car door a little wider to show him the car seat base I had been clipping the seat into for the past 8 months.

Poor man had been watching me from his window for most of the year, seething at my carefree flinging of the car seat into the back. So judge at your peril ladies! You may just get it spectacularly wrong..

totally agree that having brains doesn't mean you have common sense
Oh and it is very easy to keep dc on the straight and narrow as an only child but it is sometimes very hard to refuse dd2 an ice cream/ coke/ burger when dd1 gets these ocassionally.