I hate to comment on others parenting, BUT...

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

I've just seen a post on facebook saying that someone is proud that their 6 week old baby has just eaten a whole jar of puree...

Has anyone else seen examples of interesting parenting first hand that they thought were the stuff of MN myth? I honestly didnt think that people this, ahem, naive existed!

rhondajean... Do go away. Please. You were disgusting earlier to Nooby and you're still hanging around like a bad smell, sycophantically thanking people who you think are agreeing with you. I'm not interested in anything else you have to say. Really.

As a HV I would expect more compassion for the parents who are dealing with children who refuse to eat anything, despite the constant offering of different foodstuffs.

Words fail me.

Bumbleymummy... Drat. Could you write one then?

Oh and I am not precious about water from taps after 6 months! or unhealthy foods/drinks in moderation in toddlers (not babies). For example if a mum has a child who refuses to drink then it is more important to get fluid in during hot weather so .....yes try an ice lolly! ice cream, yoghurt etc.
Good toothcare is important though. Likewise people saying no fat are wrong.... small children do need calories in all forms and particularly if the toddler does lots of walking/ running and climbing. I had a minded child who had an exceptionally healthy diet but the previous childminder had made her walk 2 miles per day at 12 months to the toddler group and back. She went from the 98th to the 9th centile in 6 months .
Everything in moderation and no coke in bottles
Oh and on the fruitshoot note.... I reuse the bottles because dd1 and 2 lose them at school so they get water/ dilute juice in the FS bottle! so it probably looks like they drink it all the time

Witch its a public forum and if you dont like it log off, simple.

Well apparently I'm not very good at communicating and putting my points across without pissing people off so I'm not so sure it would be a best seller...

If you knew the heartache it causes when you have a child who won't eat you wouldn't sit so well on your high horses

Bumbley.

You have a particular tone to your posts. A tone of irritating "WHY" don't you try this?

As if people are THICK and haven't grasped your OH SO MARVELLOUS take on life.

It irritates. In fact, it more than irritates, it upsets people...but you keep going, you keep charging away in the way you have done.

I guess I've picked on you because of your questions.

I'm waiting to pick on rhondajean for her bad attitude. Don't worry, it's coming.

SK, are you now accusing me of not being compassionate towards people with children who won't eat or was that post directed at someone else? I've just said that I have a food phobic member of my family and tbh I'm just about stopping myself from getting quite annoyed at your accusations about me that, as far as I can see, are not actually based on anything I've written but rather your perception of what I'm writing.

Right - all two of my questions about juice from sometime earlier today. I can see why that would be so offensive to you...

Shirley I would hope the families I have from the start would have good support at the weaning phase as by 2 it gets far more difficult to change habits. Some parents couldn't handle doing that and that is fine, so I would take it down a notch and suggest that dc should at least lick/ try one bite of something before getting a pud. There are obviously exceptions, especially with ASD who can struggle with changes and limited diet can be part of the condition. Obviously in this case it would not be appropriate. Clearly children in countries where food is scarce only getting meals when food is available and choice is limited....... they do not appear to be faddy with food. Why do you think this is?

I'm typing this one slowly.

The first part of my post was directed at the HV on this thread.

The second part of my post was directed full square at you. If you don't like the way I am "perceiving" your posts, then maybe you should think about the way you are writing them.

Just sayin

Popcorn?

Go on Shirley knock yourself out, I dont feel the need to defend myself as everything I have said is correct if uncomfortable. Im not here for a fight.

Or maybe you should actually read what people are writing...just a thought. Why don't you go back and see if you can find examples of all these things you're accusing me of.

Your first post could be read as if you were a HV which was why I wasn't sure.

There are children who are very difficult about food DESPITE their parents doing all they can to give them a balanced and healthy diet. But there are many more children whose diet is poor because the FAMILY diet is poor.

There are many children who are being fed a diet of highly processed, sweet,fatty and salty food which has left them unable to enjoy vegetables and other healthy foods.

captain - don't remember anyone saying 'no fats' for children. I said no need for saturated fat if that's what you mean.

likewise! Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable.

Jesus wept.

How am I even on this thread?

captain - Your assumption here is that parents routinely reject veg as soon as the baby spits it out. As if they CBA to keep shovelling it in and giving it another go. Is that truly your take on this problem? That the majority of parents (and I'm talking about those who have contributed to this thread, and those who are educated on weaning practises and still "FAIL") whose children refuse veg or meat or fruit just give up on the first/second/third try and then move on to a dunkin donut?

Because the thrust of the latter part of this thread is that is it parental laziness that leads to poor nutrition.

I refute that entirely.

Your final sentences about children where food is scarce is NOT APPLICABLE to this debate and I actually find it shocking that as a HCP you would be citing this as a parameter of debate.

completely agree spud.

Oh and I see I x posted with yet another pile up

shirley many do not try on a different occasion with a veg or fruit that has been previously spat out. Also it is not uncommon for a baby to have developed a rash not food related but for it to be attributed as a reaction to food by the parents i.e. child has had a virus, gets a viral rash at same time as trying a weaning food. Parents feel it is an allergy and cease giving the food. Believe me this happens.

My only point is that if there is no choice of food then children will eat what is there..... it may take several tries but they will eat it. Offering yoghurts if they refuse (sweet) re enforces the love of sweet things and they then continue to refuse foods that are not sweet.

Set an example to your children;
Avoid unhealthy, within reason, if you must have it don't do it in front of the kids, unless you want to find yourself in a very awkward hypocrite type situation "oh this is not for you this is very bad for your teeth"!!!!
Do tuck in into healthy foods, fruit and veg;
If they are seeing you eating good range of foods, not picking, your are less likely to end up with a fussy eater.
If we are downing coke like there is no tomorrow, existing on junk, ravaging our bodies with processed shit, our children are likely to follow the suit, turn into unhealthy, rotten teeth, diabetes type 2 McDonald walkers.
Simple really, set an example, after all you are your child first and best teacher.

Shirley in some cases it is laziness Parents don't want to cook, give jars all the time, later progressing to fast food and sometimes it is ignorance and lack of awareness.

and in some cases its not....