well it's really Am I Being Naive?

[allsmeggedup]

So a male colleague has been coming on to me for months. Today we had a conversation where I told him (again) "Not interested, stop making suggestions, show some respect to your wife and my DP" and he basically called me naive for thinking people are actually faithful! He said that 'everyone' has a little fun and if I think my DP (who works away Mon-Fri) doesn't then I'm wrong. He said he has, his wife has and all of our colleagues have 'messed around' on nights out but people hide it from me cause I'm such a prude.
Yes he's a prick - that's not up for debate. And yes his behaviour is reprehensible - again not up for debate.

What I want to know is ... Is everyone else really doing the dirty on their OH's? I totally trust my OH - but this dickwad has really made me question my blind faith in my own and everyone else's relationships.
Am I stupidly naive (don't know where those wee dots are to make it properly ni-eeve)?
(And yes I know it's just a ploy - everyone else does it so you should do it with me. But I wonder just how widespread 'messing around' is)

He called his boss frigid because she wouldn't sleep with him?? Lordy - Not only a twat but an amoeba-brain too.

I really think you should tell him in no uncertain terms that he has crossed a line and that if he ever harasses you again you will make an official complaint.

I object to sharing pens with most of the people I work with ...

It's a power play from him, not attraction. You need to tell him its inappropriate and unwanted, full stop. How you tell him depends on the relationhip you have.

Besides, why look at him when you could be shagging your boss's boss for promotion :o

You're his boss! Give him a written warning, copied to your HR Department. He'll think twice before continuing unless he's really dim.
And stand up for yourself in future! You sound far too soft.

I agree totally with Bertie Botts. My dp and I have never cheated on each other or any of our ex partners but we know people who have done so many times and i have to admit it erodes my respect for them in a big way. I have lost a couple of friends because I have refused to collude in their infidelities by providing excuses etc. Your colleague is being vile, take no notice of him.

Are you serious
If ANY of my employees spoke to me in that manner, they would be fired immediately. Thats gross misconduct IMO.
Jeez stand up for yourself woman!

I have never cheated on any partner, and never would do.

This is Sexual Harassment - takes notes and report him.

Definitely a written warning - what a wanker. Sticking to your wedding vows/whatever commitment you have made to your partner makes you a decent human being, not naive.

"called me a frigid old no fun-er."

Sounds like an interesting way of handing in his resignation!

Seriously,