Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

For finding it really hard to bite my tongue with this horrible 13 year old -

84 replies

VeggieButcher · 29/07/2011 16:56

DS is 13 and has a facebook page as do most of his friends. There is one horrible little bitch in the school who simply will NOT leave him alone. She punches and slaps him at school, calls him horrible names constantly and is now obsessed with making snidey remarks on his facebook page constantly.

Like he was excited about a recent school trip so put that on his status, she just had to write underneath it "would be miles better if you wasn't going" and then "come to think of it, do they even allow retards in alton towers? maybe you should just go back to your cardboard box and stay there for the day?"

Its constant with her and he does NOT encourage her. I've spoken to the school and they have said concerns have been raised about her for a while because she IS a bully.

He deleted and blocked her off facebook and so she sent him all these nice texts saying she was sorry and was just in a shit mood so he added her as a friend again and last night she started on him again over facebook telling everyone he was chatting with on his "wall" that nobody in the school liked him and he was "fucking annoying" and "a complete fucking turd" etc.

I want to write underneath "to say you hate him so much, you can't seem to resist writing constant shit on his facebook page. Why not piss off and leave him alone?" but I know I "can't" Hmm

I've told him I want her deleted off his page and blocked as soon as he gets home tonight but I'm finding it SO difficult to bite my tongue. I just want to give her a piece of my mind.

OP posts:
lottiejenkins · 31/07/2011 22:32

My ds goes to a residential school. A boy was expelled from the college attached and sent a load of abusive messages to me and others (he wasnt even on my friends list) When i told school they told me to report him to the police and i did. He had to attend the police station with his father and sign the PO's pocket book. I blocked him even though he wasnt even a friend!!!

Memeandme · 31/07/2011 23:18

I know someone this happened to, the police did take the child in for questioning (14) as it was bullying ( and threats of violence) they gave him a good talking to and said next time they would charge him, ( can't remember what with though) soon stopped him, also schools are supposed to have a community police office who liases between the police force and the school

depob · 31/07/2011 23:36

The trouble with blocking is they carry on making horrid remarks on mutual 'friends' sites, but you don't see them. So everyone knows except you. Maybe report her to fb might be more effective?

debivamp · 31/07/2011 23:57

This is a criminal matter and should be treated as such. Report to the police and then give the parents the good news that you and your DS are taking them to court and sueing them for emotional distress. If you do want to go down the civil route the fact that crimainal charges have be made will mean that you should have no problem financially 'wiping them out'. As a part of any civil suit all financial records are checked and this will inform the court of the parents assets as you will need to sue the parents as they are responsible for their lovely DD's behaviour. By the way - if the case is strong enought i have heard that you can claim against any future earning. I am not in the legal feild but DH is - i am sure that someone will either confirm or deny this approach. Me i would sue the parents!!!!!! that would teach them for raising such a rotten child *(no such thing as a bad child - just bad parents) bit like dogs really.

debivamp · 31/07/2011 23:58

sorry for any typo's in above post - i get really wound up over bullying!!!!!

HeatherSmall · 01/08/2011 00:04

The police don't give a monkey's about facebook I reported some racial abuse to them and they turned around and said if we investigated everything reported from facebook we'd do nothing else.
I don't allow my DC's on it, why give the bully's another platform ?

bruffin · 01/08/2011 00:06

Actually thinking about it, the case I reported , the girl who was the Target may never actually have known about. She didn't have fb, I hope she never found, it was nasty thing to broadcast to the world about anyway. It upset my DD having her friend spoken about like that and hopefully taught her a lesson on how not to use fb etc.

lottiejenkins · 01/08/2011 22:28

I disagree with you HeatherSmall. The case that i was involved with involved three police forces from completely different parts of the country who all pulled together to make sure the young person was dealt with!!

HeatherSmall · 01/08/2011 22:32

You can't disagree with my experience but if you found the police helpful that's great.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page