to think (when making meet up arrangements) that if you cant make time until 7 weeks time away, lets not bother?

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I dont know if this is a London thing but it make my blood boil

lets meet up!?
yes, I have a window w/c 14th September
fuck off! I might be dead! the world may have ended

It makes my blood boil, I am BU, but it fucking annoys me, to the extent I dont bother replying, let the friendship fade then...... I am BU? maybe

Sorry to double post but don't let your friends go just because you are pissed off about it - one of my friends is having a crisis, and we are all meeting up tomorrow, at short notice, because she needs support. When needs must, friends pull out all the stops.

It's a shame it took a crisis for us all to get together (it has been 2 years since we last managed it) but it shows how important it is to keep those contacts because you never know when you might need them.

Evenings out with multiple friends are different - they take forever to organise and in my experience very rarely end up happening because everyone can't agree a date.

YABU. I had this exact situation with my closest friend last week. Trying to set another date to meet - had my diary and her calendar and it was a nightmare. We both work part time, but opposite days, and the day we are both free is full of birthdays (DS1s and mine) weekends away and hospital appointments. We've pencilled in a Saturday, on the hope her DH is working, as otherwise we have no time for at least 6 weeks.

I live in London and I'm happy to say my friends and I usually text for little meets in the playpark/ cafe/ houses/ groups at less than 24 hours notice. Or I knock on doors if I happen to pass by to see if others are free. My toddler bangs on the neighbours window, often they then pop out with us. We pop out for half hours if it's all we have at times, other times we even do things like doing the weekly shop together at Sainsburys because it's better with company. Nights out can take longer though (weeks, not months) to fit round other halves.

We don't have usually lazy lives, I'm a teacher, another works part time nights and another shift work. We just value friendship. I think it's a sign of not wanting to be friends if you don't make time for each other. It doesn't matter what you do, just that the effort's made. Tomorrow we have the excitement of early morning costco!

YANBU.....how can people not have one afternoon or morning free in 7 weeks?? I would HATE my life to be like that and I suspect it is a self made problem.

YABU, for many reasons.

I never understood the diary thing, but looking at my own now. from Sept I will be working 8 to 5.30 with a 3 hour round trip for commuting, also doing an MSc and I will be off one day a week when I have a particular group I go to. Dh will take ds on Saturdays and Sundays so I can work in the daytime and he will be out at a hobby in the evening. My first available date is at half-term and I am going on holidays then.

Sometimes people are just really busy.

It all depends I guess mumblingragdoll if the one afternoon/morning they have free happens to fall on the same day as the other friends.

I know my next free day is currently 11th August. After that its 18th August. (friend was working both these days) After that its not until 5th September!! Every day is packed with work, birthdays, holiday, work again (2 jobs) and plans. I even managed to treble book myself for tomorrow night!